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• Speaker #0

  Boyd Brunch Inc.

• Speaker #1

  Back in Alabama.

• Speaker #0

  Right. We have a good one for you guys today. Stay tuned. To my left we have the beautiful Denny.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah. Don't introduce her like a regular Degla. Be plain.

• Speaker #0

  Never the equal one. Sweet voice. Yeah man.

• Speaker #2

  Instagram or subscribe to social media. Oh my God.

• Speaker #0

  Are we doing this? I mean why not?

• Speaker #1

  Them new already man are 600,000.

• Speaker #0

  600,000.

• Speaker #1

  Alright. These are make you know,

• Speaker #0

  clock it. Alright, I think to the left of her, Pang Man.

• Speaker #1

  Pang Man, you don't know. Troublemaker. A walking one, you know what I'm talking about. You see me? Yeah. Big up on myself.

• Speaker #0

  And then to the left of Pang we have Mr.

• Speaker #3

  Just the classic man, Chad.

• Speaker #0

  it's classic let me see if this is a small game it's a sleeve look at the old classic hey man so today's topic you're really talking about my guys may i ask you a question first can a man be a yamed

• Speaker #1

  I think you have to find a word for the man still. The yammy belongs to the woman. So you have to find the male equivalent. You have to find a word.

• Speaker #0

  So what if we find a word then? Define yammy. So a yammy is a person that goes over and beyond for a person that probably don't deserve it. So like you're giving it your all to somebody where they're not really giving you half of what you're talking about. Maybe they see you as a link. but you want more out of it something that's an example so with that said anybody have any examples of like live real life situations where you were a yam and for how many i can call him my simp yes you're right you're a simp at some point yes all

• Speaker #3

  right i know i was answering yes but then we're going to keep going and then i'll get back anybody else yeah well have you seen him

• Speaker #1

  hey so so so you must have a wonder i don't i don't think i was maybe maybe no me a look on your dead in your eyes me a look on your dead in your eyes No son, I never yammed.

• Speaker #3

  You never yammed?

• Speaker #0

  You never simmed? Huh? You've never been a sim?

• Speaker #1

  I've never been a sim.

• Speaker #0

  No. Alright. So, so back to our problem.

• Speaker #1

  Because, you know, you see a sim now, you have to be like a... So basically think about it this way, you and your partner in a relationship and whatever she say, you do. Or whatever like that. I care, that's not me bro. I have to have my say, so there's compromises. So when there's communication and talk, I've never been that person. And someone is going to say what I feel I need to say. Right. Right. And get it out. You know what,

• Speaker #0

  Panga? I think that's more of a personality thing versus like being a simp. Like, for example.

• Speaker #1

  What is a simp?

• Speaker #0

  Maybe.

• Speaker #1

  Go ahead.

• Speaker #0

  Oh, so maybe it's a girl where, you know, you keep it real or whatever, you know, but maybe it's a girl like you. It's like you're a runner down. She's not really giving you what you want. So it's like you're pouring into it.

• Speaker #1

  maybe i spend more money more money you know what i'm saying like you are not me that is me that is that is that is that me is that me man i'm not a mean man i am not i am not chasing any blood-clad girl down sorry excuse my language but may i have it all right may i have to be able to communicate. May I be able to Well, if I'm dating her, obviously I'm going to spend and do whatever. But I've never been that guy that's just going to hold this, hold this, hold this, hold this. And it takes me for...

• Speaker #0

  So have you ever had a girl that like, she never reciprocated what you were trying to deal with her? What do you do to stop it? You just cut her off? Have you ever had an example of that?

• Speaker #1

  It comes to a point where like, if I'm dating her and there's certain things that's like a red flag. and it's it's it's not you know mapping out how i thought it would be i'm gonna just you know drift away yeah drift drift some way find a way to drift away like i'm not i'm not gonna just dog if if certain things start to believe you know yeah you have to believe me that yeah i trust you you have to believe it because i'm not every man not a guy every man you're my girl

• Speaker #3

  so you can see such a shadow every day don't worry about anything why no you guys are doing so well chad was actually about to say something chat said every month yeah so just define just to make sure i'm clarified right a yum head is a woman that is you know like all over some man that don't want her right and you're saying vice versa a man do the same can a man do that right yeah but of course a man can do that because let's just be like again men usually do the chasing you get me and sometimes your woman is not um it's usually on the man to do the you know the initial interaction for the most part right and a woman may not be interested in yeah and you you know as a man you know you have to think about i have be i have actually um i i will admit i have i have been a sim a good accountable man yeah god there was a there was a female a years ago and i will admit what i what happened was she was fresh out of a relationship so

• Speaker #0

  i thought she was vulnerable you understand so like wait hold on hold on yeah you thought she was vulnerable so is that why you attacked her

• Speaker #3

  guys, sir,

• Speaker #0

  sir, I'm just saying,

• Speaker #3

  oh my God,

• Speaker #0

  2025,

• Speaker #3

  I did not attack her, you know what I mean, um, no man, so it was our female that I worked with, and yo, she used to come over, she was my work friend, you know, so she used to come over and tell me the stories, blah, blah, blah, you get me, and you know, I'd be like, oh, let's go discuss it after work at happy hour, and like, yo, we used to go to thing, and I played, I played the long game, you see me, because I figured like, yo, hmm So after work, I'd always be like, yo, let's go grab a drink, whatever, whatever.

• Speaker #0

  And then yeah,

• Speaker #3

  I paid for some of them. I paid. Yeah, I did. Because there's times that yes, you might be like, I got it. You know, I'd be like, I got the round of drinks, the first round of drinks, whatever.

• Speaker #0

  No, not all,

• Speaker #3

  not all, not all, not all. But I could tell she was not interested, but I was trying very hard to get her interested. You understand? So I definitely went above and beyond. and it took about nine months before I finally um zero zero zero it was first base,

• Speaker #0

  second base,

• Speaker #3

  third base yeah it took about nine months before I finally um got through to her and we actually well we dated we dated for about two months and she actually said thank you for helping me to get over my egg yeah yeah thank you for getting that is cold buddy and then you know what she purchased and then she proceeded after that she proceeded after that to actually be like yo like I was actually, I actually became the female situation. She would link me like Saturday night after she was drinking like, yo, I'm coming to your place. Whatever, you understand? And had her way with me and all these things, you know? I was the one asking for cuddling after. I will admit it. I, you know. It's kind of like TV. Shut the fuck up. Yo, we're talking honestly. We're talking about, and the truth is, it's seasons. You understand? Let's just be real. You meet somebody, we're Jamaicans. Let's talk about Jamaicans. Like, yo, honestly, we're amazing fucking people. We have a crazy vibe. You understand? Me know my virgin name. Like, yo, enough of my virgin name. They're cool fucking people. So I can see why girls would be yam heads after them.

• Speaker #0

  you understand but i feel like and vice versa like you let me say earlier was like a man's supposed to pursue a woman i feel like you often define you know you're pursuing versus being young isn't there like isn't there like a line where it's like all right well no it's no it's yamish or no it's simpish versus like just pursuing the girl okay something talk about the fact that we've we're talking about yammy in a negative way i'm so understand men

• Speaker #2

  are supposed to pursue that is just a given thing it's in the bible so if you're a christian and that god said Mike for Rondo. Okay, maybe not Rondo. I know Pang will be very disturbed by the fact that I said Rondo. But it is a man's, the onus is upon him. Just like you heard Chad say when he said you wanted to get her interested in you. No, you just went above and beyond. But it's normal for a man to want to get a woman attracted to him or to get her attention. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. So, no, even in the concept of the sperm chasing the egg. Hello. who have the egg who have the spirit come on let's not go there but let's talk about the fact that you guys are talking about negative experiences with young heads no there are also positive experiences like for instance when i draw you i'm out for our good good man that's a positive experience when a man yeah i'm out for him good good girl on the flip side where chad

• Speaker #0

  was yamming for a girl that just never said no. I don't want to reach.

• Speaker #3

  No. You see what? I think we have a slight issue here because I don't know that a woman can. I think I yammed as a woman. She gets the term yam head because the man is not interested. You can't be a yam head for your food. I don't mean to.

• Speaker #2

  There are different connotations to the word yam head, to the concept of a yam head. So it started out as a yam head being a Yida girl.

• Speaker #1

  Yes, Yida girl. That is a yam head.

• Speaker #2

  Can I finish?

• Speaker #0

  No,

• Speaker #2

  she doesn't have any boundaries. She doesn't really have a sense of self. Anything her man says, she do.

• Speaker #0

  Right.

• Speaker #2

  But now it has grown to the concept where if you yam out for your man. So the statement yam out is a thing, which is a good thing. You have your good, good woman. You yam out for her. Your friend call you. Yo, dog. You know what I'm talking about? You know my inside, though. Usually, that's a bad thing. But now it's like, okay, for a man to die for a good, good woman, that's fine. Not like in Chad's case. Follow me. Listen,

• Speaker #3

  this is years ago. Years ago. Years ago. Years ago.

• Speaker #0

  Years ago.

• Speaker #3

  Good. 2023.

• Speaker #0

  The yam grew into a beautiful,

• Speaker #2

  beautiful tree. Feeling too, like, what's so... We have to understand the lines that can be crossed and that shouldn't be crossed. And I feel like where that comes from is boundaries. I feel like you get the name yam head symbol because you don't have no boundaries. And we were talking earlier, Sue even mentioned it, the golden retriever, black cat identities that people have. For example, for those who don't understand Golden Retriever Black Cat, for example, it has been said just on TikTok, as I've scrolled and seen, Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez. Selena Gomez was the Golden Retriever and Justin was the Black Cat. However, in the aspect of Justin and Hailey, Hailey is the Black Cat and Justin is the alleged Golden Retriever. So it's like, it's this dynamic where the Golden Retriever is the less dominant person in the relationship and the Black Cat is the more dominant. And.

• Speaker #1

  i mean i i don't see nothing wrong with that to be honest i don't see nothing wrong with those two things coming together but like you said you wanna talk too nice about this yeah thank you thank you all right i'm not for me you know let's see yamed no may i give an example of a yammy no man talk about yammy that may give a perfect example of a yammy See him? So I link up with this girl. And this girl, I don't really have that much respect for her. But because she's so stupid, she'll do anything I say. That's a yamed. So that yamed now, maybe she have a good crutches, you know. See? And me and this yamed, blood now, me like, fuck that yamed. But that yamed, me can tell her, say, yo, tomorrow, make sure you fuck Ryan and don't say no. And she go, fuck Ryan and come back. Yes, I fuck Ryan. That is a yamed. So yamed is a girl, is a edict. and don't have no morals right and you can tell her if you do whatever whenever and she'll do it because she is yeah that much under here you know but this has happened before that's why i mean no no no i want to um let me know no no no that's how you mean because only do it for you Ratbat? Ratbat is a girl who just... She go to remit you, rime on everybody and just don't care.

• Speaker #0

  That's a ratbat. Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  She do it here. Right. She do it herself.

• Speaker #2

  She a superman when he be keep on jumping out of tunnel there, that is a ratbat.

• Speaker #1

  Yamed do it because she...

• Speaker #0

  You... Under your spell or whatever spell that be. If I may, if I may... If I may, if I may... I really fucked up everything at this point, right? Are majority of women, Yamed,

• Speaker #3

  Hey, don't write, you know. It's a season. It's a season. Because when you... It's a season.

• Speaker #0

  When you think about it,

• Speaker #3

  I think...

• Speaker #0

  When you think about it, not for woman, woman, no. And you know it's a season thing, like you said, right? It's a seasonal thing, like Chad said, you know what I mean, right? It's a seasonal thing, so like it's a season. I think being a yam is actually very good for your development and growth as a person. You know?

• Speaker #2

  we are saying it's true sometimes the yum grew into food and end up in soup hold on just reiterate what ryan just said what ryan has just said it's good for you Fortified the food yam that not me.

• Speaker #3

  Okay, bring it bring it.

• Speaker #0

  Okay So sometimes it's just natural for somebody to yeah, right if that's your personality, whatever it's natural But maybe maybe you go through an experience, right? So chad all right, chad. What did you learn from your experience?

• Speaker #3

  It's a slight it's it's a little tricky because again I can't answer from The original question is can a man be a yam head, right? the answer is yes yeah it was a season you get what i'm saying i am i am so i said that to say that i don't think that i am a yum head in general i was just a yum head that point at that point in time you understand what i'm saying and i did it hold on i did it because i was pursuing someone you understand i wanted them so i i actually was i was trying to interject earlier to say that like the truth is we talk about you talk about a black cat versus the golden retriever the truth is a lot of us chase who is unavailable sure you understand what i'm saying so that creates the dynamic of the dominant versus the submissive you

• Speaker #0

  know what i'm saying in my in my in my in my view bro like i feel like i've seen a lot of women that pursue men maybe my brother name maybe me right and they put it in effort for years and years and they must stick around what they're essentially doing is waiting for this person to change and be what they want them to be.

• Speaker #3

  No, that's different. I don't think so. I think in the definition of a yum head, you're doing these things because you want a person to actually want you. You want a recognition. Yeah,

• Speaker #0

  you want them to get to the point where they're giving you what they want.

• Speaker #3

  Change is something different because you have the person, but you want them to do something different.

• Speaker #0

  To me, I think that's the thing I just said, right? You want a person to reciprocate what you argue about, right? And sometimes...

• Speaker #3

  Okay, okay.

• Speaker #0

  Sometimes it doesn't work out for the person. Them try, them try, them try, them fail. So now the marihua, that set of emotions, now them hurt, them sad, them depressed about this person that they wanted, that they were pursuing, and them never get through.

• Speaker #3

  So you answer the question, a man can be a yam head?

• Speaker #0

  Yeah. A man, easily.

• Speaker #3

  Okay, so answer the question. Answer the question.

• Speaker #0

  And the word is sim. I'm sorry.

• Speaker #3

  No, no, I'm sorry. No,

• Speaker #2

  no, I wasn't trying to cut you. But no, yes, the word is sim, but the Chinese write, a man can be a yam head. hey you actually made a really good point before we started when you were saying the perfect this besides what punk said he said the perfect example of ayamed is a girl who in love with somebody else but oh yeah i did say that right that was pre-recorded

• Speaker #3

  i but yes that's actually because and that's what my understanding of what i am it is my understanding of what i am it is is a woman but remember i'm the boat you know yeah i'm sorry let me read like i said let me let me let me focus the conversation like my definition about yammy is a woman that is doing everything pursuing a man that is not actually interested but on the man's side he knows that i can do what it because you saw you said earlier i said yo i can't tell this bee if you go sleep with right and this person whatever whatever so that is the that is the the yam head relationship you understand the woman knows that like yo she's trying to get this man to to get attention because that's overall what i'm trying to say like you're doing all these things because you want this person to be like yo They choose you. You want that person to choose you.

• Speaker #0

  Yes. Right. I'm going to pick up real quick, right? So I'm going to tell like how this actually came up. I have a friend that I've been having conversations with about her yam-ness because she's going through a yam season. Yam phase.

• Speaker #3

  It's a yam season, right?

• Speaker #0

  Yeah. And you know, I happened to come across a video on my timeline, which is a girl was discussing, you know, yam heads. And I kind of feel like maybe, you know, we put a negative negative connotation on yam head. United States where she's like, yo. There's a yam out there. I'm glad I'm no longer a yam. She said that. She's like, I'm glad I'm not one of you guys. But she made it sound like she had her yam phase, right? Right.

• Speaker #3

  Yam season.

• Speaker #0

  And that's what I said, like, is that the thing for a person? Because you had your yam season. She acknowledged that. She learned what she had to do to get out of that phase and that season. And now she sees it as, okay, I have gotten past something that was a negative in my life. So do you guys see it as negative or do you see it as something that can help build you as a person?

• Speaker #1

  both it's just like your whole face yeah i agree i agree same thing i agree i agree so from the outside perspective try to talk louder as possible think the

• Speaker #0

  yam phase the same thing is necessary yeah for you to react to yourself some so i know i shouldn't point to that

• Speaker #3

  To that point, I don't want to say pang, I appreciate the abrasiveness, but let's just be real. Whatever the spectrum is, we have all yammed out for somebody in some way, shape, or form. You understand what I'm saying? And it's okay. And that's the whole point of this. We're actually having a conversation. I appreciate the abrasiveness.

• Speaker #2

  That's why I made it a point on my duty to say that we're making it sound like a negative thing when there are positive aspects of it. And I do it too. You need to go through a yam phase. The problem with that is, you know, when you go through the yam phase, do you learn from it? Or are you doing this again? Because that's the thing about lessons, you know. When you're getting less than them, are you learning? Or are you just going to repeat it over and over again? Because you have some people that just, they've just decided, say, yo, me is a yam for the rest of my life.

• Speaker #3

  I feel like we talked about lessons learned in our unreleased podcast. Did we? Self-assessments, right? You know?

• Speaker #0

  Back to you. Have you ever had a yam moment?

• Speaker #2

  Never. Bad man.

• Speaker #1

  I'm fierce, you know? I'm glad you changed, man I'm glad you changed, man I'm not a young face I'm not a young face I'm not a young face Have you had a simp days?

• Speaker #0

  Have you been a simp? Yeah,

• Speaker #3

  yeah, yeah Even my cartel have bouncy killer things Oh my God! Listen What about the bouncy killer from the Istanbul Rhythm? Where it go again? Even bounty killer say you're leaving and even bounty killer come on Have you had a same face?

• Speaker #2

  Sean that pang gave I've never had that face because no boy can tell me what to do and we just do it So it not really work so because I was raised differently. I was raised on principles more than values Okay, I have boundaries So no man that either way can tell me say oh yo go there with my friend

• Speaker #1

  you're crazy you're out of your mind never gonna happen but that's a loving girl see you notice i said this i know right okay they go back to spectrum that's what i said like what what fang said was an extreme version you get what's that no but but i feel like all right so you're going into low face everybody have them low fears yeah love so but it's not really a young soul you have a love phase where you have compromises you have things that you don't to please your person yeah or whatever but yum yum is when you're a total idiot that is when is it yeah you're being like a slave yeah that's not clear this person is young i cannot i agree with that i agree that had never been me it's not finish off yeah then i gotta say no right

• Speaker #2

  yeah but somebody can't find where jamaica can be like oh yeah i eat that what are you doing yeah you're dead you know what i mean like you know so there are different connotations you know they're different they're different like levels to it no so whereas they used to be those yeah man yo you stupid like no you hear a man say yo me yeah what for my morning because i'm saying now it's like okay it's like the evolution of the world it is yeah right right

• Speaker #1

  what we need initially right yeah right i mean i would i would say so so in a 10 sorry ryan i'll pull up your phone again in fact what is the definition of what's the tallest say okay somebody called it somebody

• Speaker #2

  so many finishes Ayame is a girl that puts up with a man's bullshit

• Speaker #3

  And still is delusional that the man loves her and wants to leave her. I said that. I said that.

• Speaker #0

  I said that.

• Speaker #2

  I said, yo, she wants to open up the man. And that's why I asked the question earlier.

• Speaker #0

  If I'm be joining.

• Speaker #2

  I don't even know where you are.

• Speaker #0

  was that for financial gain i mean that's a whole nother conversation i don't want to do the casting business yeah no yeah yeah get into the water get into the casting anything now Oh, thank you.

• Speaker #2

  We are not.

• Speaker #0

  Come now! See? Right now, come now! Got it! Come here,

• Speaker #3

  come here! I think what happened is, okay, externally, we can label her as such. Now,

• Speaker #0

  wait, wait, hold on, hold on. No, no, no,

• Speaker #3

  man. Moving on, moving on. What's the question? Can I finish? No, no, no. What's the question? Let me finish.

• Speaker #0

  Nah,

• Speaker #3

  let me finish.

• Speaker #0

  We're not finishing now. Please. Sorry, brother. Allow me to finish. Please. Yes But I'm not like a Like a extreme yam

• Speaker #2

  I'm dead serious Dead serious For all our viewers here tonight On BoyzRushing Guesthouse The Nick All of us have been very honest Across the table There is no such thing as a little bit of yam

• Speaker #0

  I think so

• Speaker #2

  Yeah

• Speaker #1

  There is no such thing as a licker beat.

• Speaker #2

  Is it a yammer or not?

• Speaker #0

  I am not. I am not. There has to be.

• Speaker #2

  Yeah.

• Speaker #3

  Right.

• Speaker #2

  I agree. Sorry. There's a spectrum there. The spectrum is colourful. So you see there's white yam, there's yellow yam, there's soft yam,

• Speaker #0

  there's hard yam. Alright, let me explain why I say that. I want to see if you guys agree.

• Speaker #3

  So what is the question you're answering?

• Speaker #0

  See stories. I'm sorry. If I've ever had a yam moment, that like I had us. a minute yam moment it wasn't an extreme case of yam it was fine if you had a lot of yam it's because and it's going to lead into another question that i'm going to have for you guys so let him cook you meet a girl and um for in my case it was a very unique situation and you know it's crazy as life goes on you just you think say you know everything and then you just get hit with another lessons learned girl lessons learned the dynamic to her that made things complicated from from the jump. Bye. So we're not gonna expound too deep on that. You know what I'm saying? But basically the girl was trying to figure out herself. You see me? Okay. They can't figure it out from there. So long story short, she had tried to figure it out. So she's telling me certain things and she's not really sure. You know what I'm saying? But me, I like the vibe, so I'm going to continue partying with her. And the yum part of it is I am paying for the oral things. I'm covering things.

• Speaker #3

  Everything.

• Speaker #0

  i'm taking her out i'm fully what's it i'm fully courting this one okay all right so as time went um she realized something about herself and i realized i was wasting my time but at that point so much time on apple was already put in so there was a type of a form of um

• Speaker #3

  attachment feelings okay

• Speaker #0

  I would say love out.

• Speaker #2

  Yeah, yeah, man.

• Speaker #3

  Let the man finish.

• Speaker #0

  Slightly,

• Speaker #3

  yeah. Let the man finish.

• Speaker #0

  And you know, when I talk to him.

• Speaker #3

  He's being vulnerable.

• Speaker #0

  The kind of person, I'll have like a friend or two that I talk to about certain things. And they'll be like, bro, you need to stop this shit. Cut this shit out.

• Speaker #2

  That's all I can man him.

• Speaker #0

  No, I can man him. That's all I can man him. Cut this shit out. Yeah, for me, I was aware. I was aware of what I was doing. And I was like, yo, this has to stop at some point. And it got to a point where I decided to stop. If that makes sense. So to me, this is like a small case of yamming.

• Speaker #2

  I love the accountability from the entertainment.

• Speaker #3

  Okay, so what's...

• Speaker #0

  And the reason why I said there's a question coming from that is sometimes what people tell you, and then basically selling you a dream, can lead to somebody being strung along. So at what point does that person say, like yo I have self-worth. I need to cut this shit off.

• Speaker #3

  At what point?

• Speaker #0

  So basically, in my opinion on that is you have to know how you feel.

• Speaker #2

  Can I answer the question?

• Speaker #0

  That's what I'm saying. If you part with this person and every time you don't part with this person, you feel that way, you don't feel good, you feel bad, you feel sad. I think it's telling. When you're pursuing a partner, they're supposed to make you feel good. Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  Especially in the face. It made me think, is this going to be the end of it?

• Speaker #0

  Yes, exactly. In the mind to do it, sir. It's a process. You're saying it's a process. It's not a one exact moment per se.

• Speaker #1

  The power was cool because she was just cool. And she was introducing me to new things. And I respected that.

• Speaker #0

  So it was fun. So the question, just to clarify, is at what point... I mean the point happens at different times, you understand? It just happens, you know what I mean? Like, you know... For me?

• Speaker #2

  Yes, yes sir.

• Speaker #0

  Oh no, she told me because I eventually asked directly and that's what I said. I asked her and you know that's when she was like, yo, you know... You have helped me to get over my ex-boyfriend.

• Speaker #3

  Because you said you got something in mind.

• Speaker #0

  No, because you know, it's somebody I actually still talk to. She's married now with two children and stuff. All right,

• Speaker #1

  so it's all right. Hold on. Let me ask you another question. So if a person is selling you a dream versus a person telling you straight up like, yo, this is what it is. Does that define I am a little bit more? Because if a man I say, yo, I just want to link, you know, but he's like, you want more out of it. But he's keeping it real with you from the jump. And it's you want more, you want more versus a man that's telling you like, yo, babes, you know, maybe something can work in the future. You know, I got a little time to like get my mind right. The former is the yum, in my opinion, because,

• Speaker #0

  yeah. Both are yummer kind of yummish still. Thank you.

• Speaker #2

  You have to know when somebody's going you.

• Speaker #1

  Obviously.

• Speaker #0

  Right. So you slip into a young phase when you're like, oh, you know, but we talked about earlier, like I said, like...

• Speaker #4

  So I don't wanna...

• Speaker #1

  I don't know.

• Speaker #4

  Yeah. Yeah, this one's a long one. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's hear it.

• Speaker #1

  More than mine,

• Speaker #0

  that's right.

• Speaker #4

  This young, young, young student. And actually this young situation completely altered, like, my personality. because i realized like after into this thing like nothing came up and from then it was it went from the other things the whole thing like a million for like years because of that so i spent two years

• Speaker #0

  With this girl.

• Speaker #4

  Young, 20, I think it was like 20, 21. And I didn't know the energy was all in her. Like, I'm putting so much into it, and she wasn't really...

• Speaker #3

  Giving the same amount of energy.

• Speaker #4

  she was older. The situation just didn't work out the way and I felt like I dumped everything into this girl and she just didn't reciprocate. It completely changed. I was just never able to ever do that until I met my curtain.

• Speaker #0

  So let me ask a question. Can I ask a question?

• Speaker #1

  Yeah,

• Speaker #0

  like God. What I heard is a pendulum swing. So then that was a negative experience. It sounds to me like it's swung to another negative experience. I'm sorry,

• Speaker #2

  negative experience?

• Speaker #1

  The whole thing.

• Speaker #0

  After you, yeah. Yeah, or like, or how did you like decide to treat people after that treat?

• Speaker #4

  That situation made me hurt.

• Speaker #0

  Right. That's what I wanted to hear. Right. Right. Right. You know, we're gonna do that.

• Speaker #4

  But that situation made me hurt a lot.

• Speaker #1

  A lot of things.

• Speaker #4

  But then it also made me learn a lot about myself.

• Speaker #0

  Right. Lessons learned. That's what I was talking about. Hashtags.

• Speaker #4

  Maybe. Maybe I need to be more observant. Certain. Yeah.

• Speaker #2

  and behaviors,

• Speaker #4

  I think. A thousand percent. Like, you have a phase that, for me,

• Speaker #1

  lasted two years. And when I said it ended, like, oh. You know what I'm saying? Because it was really hurtful. Right. Emotion-throwing.

• Speaker #2

  Before you ask a question, I need you to say it. Say what?

• Speaker #0

  I'll say it. No, they said it was a bad man. So you have to say you were a simp. You have to say you were a simp.

• Speaker #1

  That was a real question though, right? For Pang and Danique, could you see yourself, and this is another, I guess, layer of the whole thing. Could you see yourself respecting a Simp or a Yamit?

• Speaker #3

  and like and like and then eventually i eventually making that person like a wifey can you be serious well you're all right so this is my take on like yeah so to each his own right right everybody have them personally everybody do what they want if it comes to me personally and i'm i'm looking at that person as a potential significant other i can't respect i can't you can't respect that to know but if there i am and i want to be i am for whoever that person is that i want to be i am for that's that's that's them isn't do your young thing over there but me is a blood clad Because if you, Rhino, right, taking this girl for idiot, day in, day out, day in, day out, and she just say, Rhino told me to jump, so I jump. Rhino told me to swim, so I swim. Rhino told me, and then me say you know what to do. Yeah. Yeah.

• Speaker #4

  I would like to make a clarifying statement. Right. When I said... All for my current wife. Yeah.

• Speaker #2

  Right.

• Speaker #3

  And.

• Speaker #4

  So. That's right.

• Speaker #3

  But that's what I'm saying, bro. Like, that's what I'm trying to explain. Me. I'm happily married. I mean, my relationship. There's, there's, I would go to do a lot of things for my wife. With, with certainly. you know there has to be respectable boundaries and things were involved that's right so there is not going to be my wife can't just come to me and say yo make sure you're here you don't know what what time um okay wait um say that refresh that a little bit better right now who just accept, forever, wherever, whatever, and just do it like a idiot. That is the definition of a young. Idiot, y'all know? Yeah, I know. Y'all know. But, no, Colin, we don't know.

• Speaker #1

  We don't want to hear from a special guest.

• Speaker #0

  And could you respect all of us?

• Speaker #1

  No, please, no, man.

• Speaker #2

  See, like, it's very, I agree with you. When he just started out, he said that the young kids is necessary. It is. It is because it teaches you what to do, what not to do. But it also kind of spirals you into situations that where you hurt others. Like, for example, I'll use myself as an experience. My last relationship, I feel like, I mean, yeah, I did get hurt a little bit. But now what happens to me now is the minute I say a pink, who just say a little bit? Who just say that? Are you?

• Speaker #3

  Are you saying?

• Speaker #0

  Yeah, I was about to say you said it. I was about to say you said it, bro. No,

• Speaker #2

  nobody said it after you. She said in my sense, I was married. It was my husband. So that's a whole different scenario. However,

• Speaker #1

  got out of there.

• Speaker #2

  Thank God. But what I'm saying is what that has done now, it has put me on a scale where it's the minute I see a red flag, the flag has to be red. It does have a pink on there. yeah exactly so now it's like i'm learning how to like kind of come back around and say okay give this person a chance does this person deserve a chance i can really really kind of see through all of those blocks and everything it's hard yeah so i think a deeper question though is like yo could

• Speaker #1

  you respect that man is simping to you? If he might run you down and you decide to use him and you know what I'm saying? And he's gone. You're a strong person. That's it. Yeah,

• Speaker #2

  but I can't use someone. Like the minute like Pang will tell you. Like Pang is one of my closest friends here. Pang will tell you. I'm like sharp. The minute I smell blood, it's over. Like once I see, I'll see. Like not to deny that men should have sensitivity and all of them things there, but there are certain weaknesses that are too easy to pry on in our mind. And for me, Personally, yes, I like a man who's emotionally available. However, I like a very masculine man. Same time. Like I need to naturally, my body, my mind, everything needs to naturally want to submit to you. And that doesn't happen with us. So I guess the answer would be no. I couldn't respect that.

• Speaker #1

  They're both.

• Speaker #0

  Oh.

• Speaker #2

  So it's like,

• Speaker #1

  no, it don't go. I don't think so.

• Speaker #2

  No,

• Speaker #1

  it doesn't go. Because if it doesn't go, you're not going to respect him. That's right.

• Speaker #0

  You know what I'm saying? It has to be like a... That's what I'm saying. I think some of these are like past and answered enough because the truth is you're not going to respect somebody that you're using. Exactly. You already know that you don't respect them and that's actually why you're...

• Speaker #3

  You're not going to use them and that is the main thing. Then you're not going to have no respect for that person, really.

• Speaker #2

  I was about myself very young because my, I want to say my second real relationship, I was like 21. He would never challenge me. It was always everything I say, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Yeah, I like that.

• Speaker #3

  And then that turned out. It does.

• Speaker #2

  Because I don't want us to have disagreements. I want us to have discussions. I want to be able to agree to disagree.

• Speaker #0

  So this is something that is funny that I talk about disagreements. Because I was going to be like, and this might be a deeper topic, about like... argument chemistry that's something me and my friends will talk about argument chemistry because sure you can disagree but how did you disagree with the man how did you speak to him you get what i'm saying how did you like you get me because the truth is as a man i would will admit like there is people that i've dated we're like oh you know what i can't even be bothered to argue there because you're not listening to me so sure you can say you want a man to challenge you you get what i'm saying but are you actually

• Speaker #1

  But them women, them need a yes man. He's like, them need a yes man, but I'm not going to respect the yes man. But that's what's going to work.

• Speaker #0

  But then you're also not going to, you say you want the challenge, but like, what is the definition of the challenge? How? Because then if the man actually be like, yo, isn't it? Because we talked about it, I said it to you. I say, yo, the truth is, and it goes back. We didn't actually touch on this in the last. on the last recorded episode the last recorded episode the truth is um we talk about men and women ask questions why they you know why men blah blah blah but the truth is what men desire in relationships is peace you understand peace i'm not saying i'm not saying like yo you know we can't have disagreements and whatever whatever but like let's talk about what did the fight look like What did the disagreement look like? You get what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. So sure, you can say, the man might have been a yes man because at the end of the day, you probably really wasn't listening to him. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. You get what I'm saying? I don't know.

• Speaker #2

  It's up there.

• Speaker #0

  You get what I'm saying? I don't know. Well, let's just read. I think, I think, I'm sorry, Pang, but you know, I think, I feel like I can speak for every man in here. We're like, trust me, we'll meet some woman and we're like, yo, you just can't bother arguing with them. And not when you say, yeah, yes, man, the man, but you just, you just be like, yo, I can't. Whatever, whatever you want though, because you're not going to listen to me anyway.

• Speaker #1

  You know what I'm saying? Yeah, chat.

• Speaker #0

  That's a whole different conversation.

• Speaker #1

  There's so many layers to the Yam conversation. There are. Right. And like we're breaking down a few of them. We're not going to get to everything. But I've seen situations where like it work out for somebody, right? For example, as a man, enough times a man can be like, yo, I fumbled a good girl when I was younger, in my twenties, et cetera, whatever, right? And what really was the case was like, I would date that girl now, that time I built up. person and i'm i feel more of a one right i'm more ready for our relationship i missed out on opportunities maybe she may have yammed for like a year or two but she didn't stick it out until i got to the level where i am today right the psychological thing in my opinion but i have seen people that for example abba bregin his his current wife yammed out for him for years for years and years and years and then he got to a point where he was like yo this is this is the woman for me He made her his wife. They have a family together. And I've seen yam situations work.

• Speaker #2

  Compatibility.

• Speaker #1

  Yes.

• Speaker #2

  And a lot of us miss that in our twenties when we had our early relationships. We missed it. We just wanted to be with who we wanted to be with, whether or not we were compatible. So that's why a lot of them.

• Speaker #0

  Earlier. I like it. It's a tricky situation because you said something and the words you use, you're like. Like, it's kind of like she never waits on me. But the truth is, and I don't know the details of the situation, but like in relationships, you have to give assurance, reassurance, whatever. And the truth is the person may have not been getting that from you, you know? And that's what I'm saying. In hindsight, now, when you look back at it, you get what I'm saying? Because you're like, oh, wait on me to change. Wait on me to change. But like. Again, the person is giving you time with no guarantee. You get what I'm saying? You get what I'm saying? In my opinion,

• Speaker #1

  if a woman moves on from a man that is not giving her any assurance, she did the right thing. But like, do you guys believe in revisiting a past relationship?

• Speaker #0

  so you speak we don't you don't speak okay um i i in my in my in my 41st year of life you know what's wonderful never you never never if you are the next ex call her

• Speaker #1

  I'm basically saying like, you know, sometimes you can spin the block because let's say the person has matured and I'm realizing, yo, you know, me and Denny's apart and I raised her from back then. So I will say this. I will say this.

• Speaker #0

  No, I will say this. I will say this. I will say this. It depends. It depends. It's so seasonal, situational. It depends on actually why you guys broke up. If you guys broke up because somebody moved away, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You know, if somebody, you know, know things like infidelity. When like trust is broken, you know, somebody was immoral to you, stuff like that. No, you will not be blasphemed with me. Yo,

• Speaker #1

  like he just wasn't ready. He wasn't reassured.

• Speaker #0

  Oh, I'm sorry. Okay. Then, then, then, yeah,

• Speaker #1

  yeah, yeah. She was like fed up and she just said, yo, I'm done with this.

• Speaker #0

  Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  She get back to a place where she give the man the respect and the time.

• Speaker #0

  No, so, well, to answer that question, it's actually on you, the man, to convince her. You need to come to her. with your story. Like what I spoke about. You see me? Like you come to her with a story, explain to her the lessons you learned. You understand what I'm saying? And convince her that it is worth her time.

• Speaker #1

  What the man spoke to you about? I'm literally asking you if a woman can... get her mental to be able to like give that man a chance if you convince her if you convince her give her you know what's what's the story about that it's like enough man will get the girl back and then we'll do the same thing no i'm not sure yeah exactly wow and they're saying no yo if it's the past is the past right but sometimes you have kind of about the situation and see if this person has truly grown or matured.

• Speaker #4

  I'm going to tell you how many people got it really one issue in the home and he isn't willing to work together so I can go back to what is what is it 90%?

• Speaker #0

  well that's what I say it depends it's a hybrid template the devil is in the details you know Sean because if the man fucked a girl and tried he's my young man and sell her a dream if him sell her a dream and she got convinced of being sold a dream you can't blame her for that you get what I'm saying?

• Speaker #3

  he's killing me right right that's what I'm saying Sean explained it perfectly right That is a- Da- That is a yamed.

• Speaker #2

  He did. That is a yamed.

• Speaker #3

  Because a yamed now, the man knows, say, yo, hey, man, this girl, this girl, not give him the time of day. And then maybe at that point in time, he say, yo, man, do something. Yo, I'm going to call that girl because easy access. You know, say, if him call her, yo, man, he come link me right now. She just start us running and link you. That is a yamed. That's impressive. No morals, no values. She just do whatever that person says.

• Speaker #0

  to So let me ask you this. That is one situation. So let's say he called her. Manipulation. So let's say he called her and said, yo, you know, say I was with X, Y, you know, I was with Amanda, you know, I don't know Amanda. Disclaimer. Amanda,

• Speaker #2

  this is not about you, I promise.

• Speaker #0

  Yeah, I was with Amanda and like, that is, you know, I know she, you understand? And then, you know, are you still? Come link me. You get what I'm saying?

• Speaker #3

  you see i know what you do is because you probably have said that just because of the

• Speaker #0

  the emotional state that they're in right now you you maybe xyz just let you down and you say yo but you sold her a dream but i'm talking about the message you gave her this time versus like oh be you know just give me a link

• Speaker #3

  like you used to me so yeah man the guilt point is a farmer yeah he's not a yammy punk cultivates yams i'll leave you a leader on a girl bro because really and truly you're a see that that that the characteristics and that girl from long before why why did i have to take whatever for you to see that in her sorry so do you think you didn't go back and say yo

• Speaker #1

  she or you let me let me ask you this does it go back to like a man knowing what him want early when he meet a girl because a man usually will see a girl say yo this one wants you know and then one of the girl when he was like yo i'm not really sure about her and he will kind of string her along string her along to you guys as men because we always

• Speaker #2

  ask this question like when does a man know that this is the woman he wants and women are always answering sometimes guys ladies ladies stop answering questions for men you're not a man okay when you ask for a man's opinion allow a man to give his purview please thank you okay i'll ask a question one more time please How long does it take for a man to know that the woman he's with is the woman he wants to be with for the rest of his life?

• Speaker #0

  Oh, no, the rest of the life part. He wants to be with,

• Speaker #2

  like, this is his person.

• Speaker #0

  No, no, no, no. Let's just take it off for now. For now, for now, for now, for now. But the answer is it actually can be immediately. It's immediate. And I don't think that answer is exclusive to sex. I think women, let's just be real, women can meet a man and be like, yo dawg. Because women also meet men and be like, yo man, I really feel him still. But I should feel him because he's a nice guy. Yeah. You get me?

• Speaker #1

  The past didn't put him.

• Speaker #2

  But I want to reiterate because I see Sean, I see

• Speaker #0

  Sean over there getting ready to shoot. Cause shoot or shoot. Don't shoot over here.

• Speaker #2

  Each opinion is that of the individual giving it out.

• Speaker #1

  So please don't massacre each other.

• Speaker #0

  It's a black team. Don't shoot over here.

• Speaker #4

  A man will know I speak KC once in a while. Three days, one day, I don't speak too much. But the difference is a man... will in his head give it to the woman and that's her solution.

• Speaker #0

  So she'll start not in your person and you'll never verbally acknowledge it and you'll give her time to then Harris. Okay. I I was just I was I I like what you just said and I agree with that and I and I like I said I talk about time. I talk about time. You get what I said? So basically what Sean is saying not to mansplain Sean but you know what I mean like Sean's basically yo I met somebody and decided I want to give her more time. You get me? I want to give like, I can see that this person deserves more time and you can see that immediately. You get what

• Speaker #2

  I'm saying?

• Speaker #1

  You know, I turned. So, you may say, you know, I feel like it's one of those things where somebody like me is like the first few conversations. You can't see if this girl has it together. You know, like you can see if you have it together mentally, in my opinion. I don't everybody got things to do.

• Speaker #2

  You know the pay section, man.

• Speaker #0

  Guys,

• Speaker #1

  guys,

• Speaker #0

  guys.

• Speaker #3

  Yo, yo, yo. Go on top.

• Speaker #2

  Go on top.

• Speaker #3

  Yo, go on top.

• Speaker #1

  You know right away.

• Speaker #2

  You know right away.

• Speaker #1

  Okay. Date one, you will know if it is. right i agree with that i'm going to move forward completely agree with that okay see when

• Speaker #3

  You know when you kind of see her in a different environment.

• Speaker #4

  When she's around her family, when she's around her kids. When you're in our room.

• Speaker #1

  I hear you now.

• Speaker #0

  I think you're saying the same thing. I defer. I said I have to say it. That's why I use the word. word time let me let me ask you you decided to give her more time the truth is you're not going to meet somebody that you don't click with and decide you want to give them more time to go see if them in them family and you're not going to give them more time

• Speaker #3

  another scene now.

• Speaker #1

  You gone past a certain threshold right here.

• Speaker #3

  It's between you and that person, that courting phase or that dating phase. You getting to know that person and then you say, yo, this person is really headstrong, have their head on their shoulders, they know what they're about. You and them can easily correspond, talk, have good conversations and the personality, both personalities click and whatever else is bonus. And then you get down to the family and what's right so i can i can i can speak for myself because i'm happily married my wife right how i how it started was as friends right friends go on date we just casually talk not even no lines no nothing no not none of those things bro it's just huh we saw her out in the plan before how she accidentally working room in the spoken word is funny well right i i i observed exactly that so i saw that that tree that i would like in a woman and actually started to talk to her and then after a couple dates bro i just knew that yo this is this is a person that is worth pursuing right and then it's it's like okay how can i make this happen because like i i saw the potential i saw and and it led to where it is now so it's like then now when you go to the to that part that you're you just mentioned whereas family get involved you meet discuss family that is very important to you because you have relationships that start off well then the family get involved you know there's a clash maybe that that mom or that dad don't like you and certain things certain things just throughout the entire relationship but everything for me from my perspective few fuels at that point you know so mom was cool you know family everybody really good with each other got to know my family everybody reason good and it just blossomed into what it is So there's, there's. There's a lot of things that can go right and a lot of things can go wrong, you know within that whole dating courting phase and Yeah, I I think just like certain things With with with with like a woman like from from them show it up front. You know, you know that that's a person for you

• Speaker #0

  That's that that's what is a person you want to give more time to man

• Speaker #1

  Yo, like I say, when it comes to this topic right here, yo, like there's so many different and it's like, we'll be here all day talking about this. But I mean, we've basically established that there's like positives and negatives to being Yamish. Yeah. More negatives. As a person, yeah. As a person, if you have a close friend to you. What are you telling them? I mean, what are you telling them? So we're going to wrap it up real quick. Listen, so you guys think it's just something that you should just, you know, tell your friend like, okay, give them any kind of warning and just let them kind of tough love. Pang I want to know, can I give tough love or are you just going to be like, hey, Ooh, you know Kanye's giving to us, 100%. Blow me to a halt, Dave.

• Speaker #2

  Gave me tough love tonight.

• Speaker #0

  Pause, pause. I'll be your wife since the end of the day,

• Speaker #1

  man. I'll be your wife since the end. Hey. Boy Grunch. Another episode. This was a banger, like I said, yo. Danny, pick up yourself.

• Speaker #3

  Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo. Hold up your glasses.

• Speaker #1

  Mr. Paul is over there, Chad. Pick up yourself. Until next time.

• Speaker #3

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• Speaker #0

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• Speaker #1

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• Speaker #0

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• Speaker #3

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• Speaker #1

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• Speaker #2

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• Speaker #1

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• Speaker #2

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• Speaker #1

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• Speaker #2

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• Speaker #3

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• Speaker #0

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