You said, “I forgive you”… but what happens when the hurt is still there? Forgiveness in marriage isn’t always easy. You can make the decision to forgive your spouse and still have memories, emotions, and triggers that bring the pain right back. So how do you actually move forward without allowing resentment and unforgiveness to damage your marriage? In this episode of Committed Hearts, William and Donna Porter have an open conversation about forgiveness, hurt, grudges, triggers, and what it really means to choose forgiveness—even when your feelings haven’t caught up with your decision. They discuss forgiving your spouse before you feel ready, taking responsibility for your own response, dealing with painful memories after forgiveness, communicating after you’ve been hurt, and why unforgiveness can disrupt the peace, intimacy, and oneness of a marriage. If you love your spouse but you’re still struggling with something they said or did, this conversation is for you. You may remember what happened and still choose forgiveness. The question is: what are you going to do with the memory? Keep your heart committed.

Welcome to Committed Hearts, a weekly podcast for engaged and married couples who want to build a strong, lasting, and God-centered relationship, without pressure, perfection, or churchy overload.

Hosted by The Porters, pastors, marriage counselors, and partners for more than 25 years, each episode blends real-life stories, faith-shaped wisdom, and practical tools couples can apply right away.

You’ll hear honest conversations about communication, connection, conflict, intimacy, and spiritual growth, delivered with grace, humor, and zero judgment.

Whether you're newly engaged or decades into marriage, Committed Hearts will encourage you, challenge you, and help you grow together emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

Because great marriages aren’t found, they’re intentionally built, one committed heart at a time.

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