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We men tend to pick at things that tend to add to the dumpster fire in a stressful situation.  Throw in the word DIVORCE.  Even the word DIVORCE can shake men to their core and can be a very hard pill to swallow.  Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience, especially for men over 40. My new podcast, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast",  provides an open platform for divorced men to share their stories, find support, and gain tools for recovery.  Going through divorce in midlife or later presents unique challenges. Long-term marriages ending often means having to start over in major ways - financially, socially, and in terms of identity. Men over 40 face the difficulty of rebuilding and establishing a new normal at an age where change may be harder.  

  

Processing the emotional trauma of divorce is a major hurdle as well. Feelings of failure, regret, bitterness, grief, and anger are common. Working through these emotions in a healthy, constructive way is critical.  Don't Pick the Scab Podcast gives divorced men over 40 a chance to share their vulnerabilities, get insights from experts, and know they are not alone in this transition. My goal is to foster understanding, encourage growth, and equip men to embrace life after divorce. 

  

Divorce recovery takes time, effort, and support. Through personal stories and practical guidance, this podcast aims to help men over 40 find hope, meaning, and purpose on the other side of marital split. By tackling these struggles together, we can overcome obstacles and successfully navigate our new realities. Join me as we walk the path of divorce recovery one step at a time.  


Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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We men tend to pick at things that tend to add to the dumpster fire in a stressful situation.  Throw in the word DIVORCE.  Even the word DIVORCE can shake men to their core and can be a very hard pill to swallow.  Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience, especially for men over 40. My new podcast, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast",  provides an open platform for divorced men to share their stories, find support, and gain tools for recovery.  Going through divorce in midlife or later presents unique challenges. Long-term marriages ending often means having to start over in major ways - financially, socially, and in terms of identity. Men over 40 face the difficulty of rebuilding and establishing a new normal at an age where change may be harder.  

  

Processing the emotional trauma of divorce is a major hurdle as well. Feelings of failure, regret, bitterness, grief, and anger are common. Working through these emotions in a healthy, constructive way is critical.  Don't Pick the Scab Podcast gives divorced men over 40 a chance to share their vulnerabilities, get insights from experts, and know they are not alone in this transition. My goal is to foster understanding, encourage growth, and equip men to embrace life after divorce. 

  

Divorce recovery takes time, effort, and support. Through personal stories and practical guidance, this podcast aims to help men over 40 find hope, meaning, and purpose on the other side of marital split. By tackling these struggles together, we can overcome obstacles and successfully navigate our new realities. Join me as we walk the path of divorce recovery one step at a time.  


Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

58 episodes

    Season 1

  • Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook  ||  DPTSP #058  ||  David cover
    Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook  ||  DPTSP #058  ||  David cover
    Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook || DPTSP #058 || David

    Welcome to another enlightening episode of the "Don't Pick The Scab" podcast, where we help men over 40 transform post-divorce scars into superpowers. Today, we're diving deep into the art of turning sexual energy into life abundance with our special guest, Matt. Now, Matt isn't just any coach; he's a maestro in the realm of sexual energy transformation, having guided over 80,000 men to find their groove beyond the bedroom. Imagine a world where your sexual drive isn't just for procreation but for creating a life that feels like your own personal Nirvana. That's right, Matt's here to spill the beans—or maybe not spill them at all, depending on your retention schedule! He's been with his partner for nearly 40 years, proving that love can be stronger than a well-brewed cup of morning coffee and more enduring than a Wi-Fi connection during a thunderstorm. Join us as Matt shares how to harness that primal energy to conquer anxiety, smash through those societal stigmas, and build trust and intimacy—all while keeping a sense of humor. And remember, it's not about the destination; it's about enjoying the ride—literally and figuratively. So buckle up, because this episode promises to be as enlightening as it is entertaining! Important points: Transform sexual energy into life abundance post-divorce. Avoid porn to maintain strong sexual energy. Build oxytocin before engaging in sexual activities. Embrace nonverbal communication over excessive talking about sex. Approach women in person, not through dating apps. Schedule ejaculations to build and maintain sexual energy. Join men's groups for support and shared experiences. Be a "shock absorber" in relationships, not reactive. Frequent sex is crucial for a healthy relationship. Expect negative results initially when approaching women. Matt Cook’s Main Website: https://www.healthyto120.com (https://www.healthyto120.com) Matt’s Medical Discoveries: https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/ (https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on November 8, 2024

  • Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony  ||  DPTSP #057  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony  ||  DPTSP #057  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony || DPTSP #057 || David M. Webb

    In episode 57 of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David talks with guest Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist and relationship coach, about the challenges men over 40 face post-divorce. Kevin emphasizes the importance of self-confidence, navigating new dating technologies, and understanding modern relationship dynamics. He discusses common issues such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often rooted in psychological factors. Kevin advises men to embrace their masculinity while being caring and communicative while stressing awareness and action to break negative patterns in relationships for healthier futures.  Even if you’re not having a sexual relationship yet, please listen to this podcast!!   10 Main Takeaways: Rebuilding Self-Confidence: Regaining confidence is crucial for men post-divorce to re-enter the dating scene. Adapting to Modern Dating: Men need to learn new dating technologies and protocols. Physical and Psychological Challenges: Common issues include erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often more psychological than physical. Importance of Foreplay: Foreplay is vital for sexual satisfaction, particularly for women. Healthy Masculinity: Embracing classical masculine traits while being compassionate and communicative is key. Avoiding Old Patterns: Awareness and action are necessary to avoid repeating negative relationship patterns. Open Communication: Honest communication about sexual histories and needs can enhance relationships. Technology in Sexual Health: Emerging technologies are aiding in diagnosing and treating sexual health issues. Friends with Benefits Dynamics: These relationships often lead to attachment, particularly for women. Self-Acceptance and Growth: Men should focus on personal growth and self-acceptance before seeking new relationships. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    34min | Published on November 2, 2024

  • Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056  ||  David cover
    Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056  ||  David cover
    Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056 || David

    In this episode, David and Chantel Landreville discuss the importance of love skills and self-awareness in navigating relationships, especially during and after a divorce. They explore how to create safe spaces for emotional healing, the dynamics of co-parenting, and the significance of self-care and humility in personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to seek support and be truthful with themselves as they recover from divorce and build new relationships. Takeaways: Everything I teach applies to any relationship. You need to be able to define what you want. Self-awareness starts with asking yourself why. It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings. Get support instead of going through it alone. You have to take ownership in it. Safety cannot come from alone; it's an environment. Self-care is about finding things that make you happy. Humility is such a powerful quality. Find your words and do that exercise. Sound Bites: "Everything I teach is applicable to any relationship." "You need to be able to define what you want." "It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings." Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    30min | Published on October 11, 2024

  • A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast  ||  David M. Webb cover
    A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast  ||  David M. Webb cover
    A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast || David M. Webb

    In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David speaks with divorce coach Jason Scriven about the challenges men over 40 face during and after divorce. They discuss the importance of self-care, rediscovering one's identity, building connections, and navigating the emotional aspects of separation. Jason shares insights on setting boundaries, creating new memories, and the realities of dating after divorce. He also outlines a four-week program designed to help men master their separation and make informed decisions for their future.   Jason gave us some nice pearls and advice.  I’m definitely going to have him back on the show.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Self-care is crucial for men going through divorce. Rediscovering identity is essential after a long marriage. Building connections with others can aid recovery. Emotional health should be prioritized during divorce. Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being. Creating new memories helps in moving on from the past. Dating after divorce requires careful consideration. Men should avoid dating someone who resembles their ex. Communication through children can be harmful. A structured approach can help navigate the divorce process. All things Jason Scriven (https://www.scrivenprogram.com/) YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@ScrivenProgram/videos) Twitter (https://twitter.com/thejasonscriven) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/divorce101_/) Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonscriven/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    27min | Published on October 10, 2024

  • Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC  ||  DPTSP#054  || David M. Webb cover
    Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC  ||  DPTSP#054  || David M. Webb cover
    Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC || DPTSP#054 || David M. Webb

    Welcome to the show - Patrick Eilers.  He comes to us from the great state of Michigan and his superpower is the application of psycho-education regarding anxiety and depression.  Discussions of the corrosive qualities of emotions, solitude vs isolation, self-care, a destination for self-care, allow yourself to feel the feels, and empathy.  There are so many great suggestions and advice tidbits in this podcast.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Narcissism Your divorce story Single identity Divorced David Visualize self-care Therapy defining a man’s identity Rediscovering the wholeness of being human Mindfulness Numbing out When to seek help Switchfoot - Every Breath is a Second Chance Hope is for the things yet to be seen Patrick Eilers; MA, LPC Email: bloomworkscc@gmx.com (mailto:bloomworkscc@gmx.com) Website: https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/ (https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/)   Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 29, 2024

  • Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC  ||  DPTSP#053  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC  ||  DPTSP#053  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC || DPTSP#053 || David M. Webb

    In this episode of the Don't Pick The Scab podcast, I interview certified coach Cari Frame, who specializes in self-kindness and personal growth. We discuss the importance of self-kindness during difficult times, particularly for men over 40 going through divorce. Cari explains mindfulness, the impact of inner negativity, and the significance of self-compassion. She shares insights from her experience at a suicide hotline, emphasizing the value of being listened to without judgment. The conversation also covers overcoming self-sabotage, co-parenting challenges, taming the inner critic, and the power of pausing to make conscious choices. Ultimately, the episode highlights the importance of purpose in overcoming fear and fostering personal growth.  I really appreciate Cari for taking the time to hang with me and drop some great pearls on my men over 40.  We definitely will do this again! Takeaways Self-kindness helps ease the inner battle during tough times. Mindfulness allows individuals to stay present and reduce anxiety. Focusing on imagined futures can drain energy and increase stress. Self-compassion involves understanding and growth rather than judgment. Listening without conditions is a powerful gift for those in distress. Avoiding hard emotions can lead to a lack of joy. Self-sabotage stems from negative inner beliefs about oneself. Control in co-parenting often stems from unresolved grief or guilt. The inner critic often operates on negative assumptions. Pausing allows for conscious decision-making and self-awareness. Everything Cari! (https://cariframe.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    28min | Published on September 22, 2024

  • Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats  ||  DPTSP #052  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats  ||  DPTSP #052  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats || DPTSP #052 || David M. Webb

    In this episode, Simon Yeats shares his incredible journey through personal tragedies, including the loss of loved ones and the challenges of divorce. He discusses the importance of finding humor in life's difficulties, the drive to help others recover from setbacks, and the critical role of support systems in healing. Simon emphasizes the need to embrace emotions, be angry when necessary, and maintain hope for the future, even after experiencing significant hardships. You're not alone in this journey. Life is precious and can go quickly. Be angry, but get on with your life. Don't give up hope, even after setbacks. Find something you are passionate about. Exercise is crucial for mental health. Life can be stupid, crazy, and funny. Support systems are vital for recovery. You have to embrace your emotions. Do things for yourself after a divorce. My Second Life - By Simon Yeats (https://www.amazon.com/My-SECOND-Life-Simon-Yeats-ebook/dp/B0CB4LCCPN/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FD4XYW3LICHH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.0QJY935RNuubTfNdAI6aWpQ-t3CojGEHzxelCB4YmZ_zipUao1LsYSmATXLp64m7rseFucqg579xpE7f9cBOv-89KR9RKPg9fZmTyGW0S6GvR-TXFGwLpkKXIyoPexBRjVxZQmFILHpOSqnvfnBhm4dVmh9YL72ACRMeCbA4UJa0c2nf3sY1gwmTmbz1lzNgZQGiBpQQMs-FX9PBaSu-sBRr_1wMZtC1MiVtrqWxwKg.lYOw4g7yunP34VzP_PUFlG5oS79WqcxWSmtzHKSXyXg&dib_tag=se&keywords=my+second+life&qid=1726928464&s=digital-text&sprefix=my+second+life%2Cdigital-text%2C117&sr=1-1) Simon's Email: mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.com (mailto:mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.com) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 22, 2024

  • Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D.  ||  DPTSP #051  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D.  ||  DPTSP #051  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D. || DPTSP #051 || David M. Webb

    We have a special guest on the podcast today - Jonathan Steele.  He has the distinction of being the first returning guest on DPTSP.  With his last podcast, we were only able to touch on cybersecurity and divorce recovery only slightly.  This time, the entire show is devoted to the subject - and Jonathan did not disappoint.  I found there were so many facets to divorce and cybersecurity that some even branch into the regular world.  Set back and pay attention.  You may have to listen to this one a few times because Jonathan drops quite a bit of knowledge.  Sidenote:  I’ve had Proton Mail for a year and love it!!  Take a listen. Discussions of: Phishing attacks are on the rise Nigerian Price and 400K scam Family safe word Rarely see a good application of social media in a divorce case AI component is scary Business impersonations Co-parenting apps Stop, pause and think Preying on your mind with urgency Multi-factoring password Almost too late when harm is done Test your backups Digital footprints - unavoidable Every computer is built to fail 3-2-1 backup mantra Ransomware Backup everyday Monitor your credit Time to change your passwords when you start the divorce Hardware security key End-to-end encryption Steele Fortress (https://steelefortress.com/) JOIN THE FREE MEN'S OVER 40 DIVORCE RECOVERY PRIVATE COMMUNITY -https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about (https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about)   -a judgment-free zone!   #divorce #divorcemen #divorcehealing #divorcerecovery #divorcehealingmenover40 #divorcerecoverymenover40 #divorcehealingmen #divorcerecoverymen #divorcemenpodcast   Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    27min | Published on September 20, 2024

  • Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery -  David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS ||  DPTSP#050  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery -  David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS ||  DPTSP#050  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery - David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS || DPTSP#050 || David M. Webb

    Welcome David Nordel to the show.  After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans.  He has written two books on leadership.  We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce.  Some of the parallels are interesting.  Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast.  It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship.  Thanks, David.  Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet.  Talk to David soon! Other topics: Why listening is so important Ways to effectively navigate life, family and friendships The value of time Savoring each moment Deeper awareness of our surroundings Hidden potential within Many people hear, but only a few listen Happy squirrels Run your life like a CEO Harness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively. Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossible Check out egos When we are hurt, we want to transmit 70/30 me time Good quitting Recreate yourself from the inside out Handling hard better Recovery from your failure and move forward Divorce and moral injury run congruent EVERYTHING DAVID NORDEL (https://maxfabconsulting.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 6, 2024

  • Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach  ||  DPTSP#049  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach  ||  DPTSP#049  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach || DPTSP#049 || David M. Webb

    Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations.  Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery.  His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now.  Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast.  Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode.  In half an  hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show.  Thanks Matt Additional Subjects: 8 primary moods that get in the way of our happiness Victim mode We choose every emotion we are experiencing Take responsibility Gratitude Happiness blueprint Flip the script Humility Rate your friends from one to ten self -care and happiness Hope and happiness If you want a better present, get a better and bigger future Everything Matt O’Neill (https://mattoneill.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    34min | Published on August 30, 2024

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We men tend to pick at things that tend to add to the dumpster fire in a stressful situation.  Throw in the word DIVORCE.  Even the word DIVORCE can shake men to their core and can be a very hard pill to swallow.  Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience, especially for men over 40. My new podcast, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast",  provides an open platform for divorced men to share their stories, find support, and gain tools for recovery.  Going through divorce in midlife or later presents unique challenges. Long-term marriages ending often means having to start over in major ways - financially, socially, and in terms of identity. Men over 40 face the difficulty of rebuilding and establishing a new normal at an age where change may be harder.  

  

Processing the emotional trauma of divorce is a major hurdle as well. Feelings of failure, regret, bitterness, grief, and anger are common. Working through these emotions in a healthy, constructive way is critical.  Don't Pick the Scab Podcast gives divorced men over 40 a chance to share their vulnerabilities, get insights from experts, and know they are not alone in this transition. My goal is to foster understanding, encourage growth, and equip men to embrace life after divorce. 

  

Divorce recovery takes time, effort, and support. Through personal stories and practical guidance, this podcast aims to help men over 40 find hope, meaning, and purpose on the other side of marital split. By tackling these struggles together, we can overcome obstacles and successfully navigate our new realities. Join me as we walk the path of divorce recovery one step at a time.  


Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

   

We men tend to pick at things that tend to add to the dumpster fire in a stressful situation.  Throw in the word DIVORCE.  Even the word DIVORCE can shake men to their core and can be a very hard pill to swallow.  Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience, especially for men over 40. My new podcast, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast",  provides an open platform for divorced men to share their stories, find support, and gain tools for recovery.  Going through divorce in midlife or later presents unique challenges. Long-term marriages ending often means having to start over in major ways - financially, socially, and in terms of identity. Men over 40 face the difficulty of rebuilding and establishing a new normal at an age where change may be harder.  

  

Processing the emotional trauma of divorce is a major hurdle as well. Feelings of failure, regret, bitterness, grief, and anger are common. Working through these emotions in a healthy, constructive way is critical.  Don't Pick the Scab Podcast gives divorced men over 40 a chance to share their vulnerabilities, get insights from experts, and know they are not alone in this transition. My goal is to foster understanding, encourage growth, and equip men to embrace life after divorce. 

  

Divorce recovery takes time, effort, and support. Through personal stories and practical guidance, this podcast aims to help men over 40 find hope, meaning, and purpose on the other side of marital split. By tackling these struggles together, we can overcome obstacles and successfully navigate our new realities. Join me as we walk the path of divorce recovery one step at a time.  


Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

58 episodes

    Season 1

  • Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook  ||  DPTSP #058  ||  David cover
    Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook  ||  DPTSP #058  ||  David cover
    Men in Divorce Recovery using their sexual drive to create abundance in all areas of their lives - Matt Cook || DPTSP #058 || David

    Welcome to another enlightening episode of the "Don't Pick The Scab" podcast, where we help men over 40 transform post-divorce scars into superpowers. Today, we're diving deep into the art of turning sexual energy into life abundance with our special guest, Matt. Now, Matt isn't just any coach; he's a maestro in the realm of sexual energy transformation, having guided over 80,000 men to find their groove beyond the bedroom. Imagine a world where your sexual drive isn't just for procreation but for creating a life that feels like your own personal Nirvana. That's right, Matt's here to spill the beans—or maybe not spill them at all, depending on your retention schedule! He's been with his partner for nearly 40 years, proving that love can be stronger than a well-brewed cup of morning coffee and more enduring than a Wi-Fi connection during a thunderstorm. Join us as Matt shares how to harness that primal energy to conquer anxiety, smash through those societal stigmas, and build trust and intimacy—all while keeping a sense of humor. And remember, it's not about the destination; it's about enjoying the ride—literally and figuratively. So buckle up, because this episode promises to be as enlightening as it is entertaining! Important points: Transform sexual energy into life abundance post-divorce. Avoid porn to maintain strong sexual energy. Build oxytocin before engaging in sexual activities. Embrace nonverbal communication over excessive talking about sex. Approach women in person, not through dating apps. Schedule ejaculations to build and maintain sexual energy. Join men's groups for support and shared experiences. Be a "shock absorber" in relationships, not reactive. Frequent sex is crucial for a healthy relationship. Expect negative results initially when approaching women. Matt Cook’s Main Website: https://www.healthyto120.com (https://www.healthyto120.com) Matt’s Medical Discoveries: https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/ (https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on November 8, 2024

  • Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony  ||  DPTSP #057  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony  ||  DPTSP #057  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Embracing masculine traits in your divorce recovery - Kevin Anthony || DPTSP #057 || David M. Webb

    In episode 57 of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David talks with guest Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist and relationship coach, about the challenges men over 40 face post-divorce. Kevin emphasizes the importance of self-confidence, navigating new dating technologies, and understanding modern relationship dynamics. He discusses common issues such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often rooted in psychological factors. Kevin advises men to embrace their masculinity while being caring and communicative while stressing awareness and action to break negative patterns in relationships for healthier futures.  Even if you’re not having a sexual relationship yet, please listen to this podcast!!   10 Main Takeaways: Rebuilding Self-Confidence: Regaining confidence is crucial for men post-divorce to re-enter the dating scene. Adapting to Modern Dating: Men need to learn new dating technologies and protocols. Physical and Psychological Challenges: Common issues include erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often more psychological than physical. Importance of Foreplay: Foreplay is vital for sexual satisfaction, particularly for women. Healthy Masculinity: Embracing classical masculine traits while being compassionate and communicative is key. Avoiding Old Patterns: Awareness and action are necessary to avoid repeating negative relationship patterns. Open Communication: Honest communication about sexual histories and needs can enhance relationships. Technology in Sexual Health: Emerging technologies are aiding in diagnosing and treating sexual health issues. Friends with Benefits Dynamics: These relationships often lead to attachment, particularly for women. Self-Acceptance and Growth: Men should focus on personal growth and self-acceptance before seeking new relationships. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    34min | Published on November 2, 2024

  • Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056  ||  David cover
    Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056  ||  David cover
    Divorce Recovery while in a Safe Space - Chantal Landreville || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #056 || David

    In this episode, David and Chantel Landreville discuss the importance of love skills and self-awareness in navigating relationships, especially during and after a divorce. They explore how to create safe spaces for emotional healing, the dynamics of co-parenting, and the significance of self-care and humility in personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to seek support and be truthful with themselves as they recover from divorce and build new relationships. Takeaways: Everything I teach applies to any relationship. You need to be able to define what you want. Self-awareness starts with asking yourself why. It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings. Get support instead of going through it alone. You have to take ownership in it. Safety cannot come from alone; it's an environment. Self-care is about finding things that make you happy. Humility is such a powerful quality. Find your words and do that exercise. Sound Bites: "Everything I teach is applicable to any relationship." "You need to be able to define what you want." "It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings." Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    30min | Published on October 11, 2024

  • A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast  ||  David M. Webb cover
    A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven  ||  Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast  ||  David M. Webb cover
    A Divorce Coach’s personal journey with divorce - Jason Scriven || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast || David M. Webb

    In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David speaks with divorce coach Jason Scriven about the challenges men over 40 face during and after divorce. They discuss the importance of self-care, rediscovering one's identity, building connections, and navigating the emotional aspects of separation. Jason shares insights on setting boundaries, creating new memories, and the realities of dating after divorce. He also outlines a four-week program designed to help men master their separation and make informed decisions for their future.   Jason gave us some nice pearls and advice.  I’m definitely going to have him back on the show.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Self-care is crucial for men going through divorce. Rediscovering identity is essential after a long marriage. Building connections with others can aid recovery. Emotional health should be prioritized during divorce. Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being. Creating new memories helps in moving on from the past. Dating after divorce requires careful consideration. Men should avoid dating someone who resembles their ex. Communication through children can be harmful. A structured approach can help navigate the divorce process. All things Jason Scriven (https://www.scrivenprogram.com/) YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@ScrivenProgram/videos) Twitter (https://twitter.com/thejasonscriven) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/divorce101_/) Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonscriven/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    27min | Published on October 10, 2024

  • Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC  ||  DPTSP#054  || David M. Webb cover
    Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC  ||  DPTSP#054  || David M. Webb cover
    Navigating and accepting those corrosive emotions in Divorce Recovery - Patrick Eilers, MA, LPC || DPTSP#054 || David M. Webb

    Welcome to the show - Patrick Eilers.  He comes to us from the great state of Michigan and his superpower is the application of psycho-education regarding anxiety and depression.  Discussions of the corrosive qualities of emotions, solitude vs isolation, self-care, a destination for self-care, allow yourself to feel the feels, and empathy.  There are so many great suggestions and advice tidbits in this podcast.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Narcissism Your divorce story Single identity Divorced David Visualize self-care Therapy defining a man’s identity Rediscovering the wholeness of being human Mindfulness Numbing out When to seek help Switchfoot - Every Breath is a Second Chance Hope is for the things yet to be seen Patrick Eilers; MA, LPC Email: bloomworkscc@gmx.com (mailto:bloomworkscc@gmx.com) Website: https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/ (https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/)   Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 29, 2024

  • Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC  ||  DPTSP#053  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC  ||  DPTSP#053  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Taming your Inner Critic with the Self-Kindness Coach, Cari Frame, PCC || DPTSP#053 || David M. Webb

    In this episode of the Don't Pick The Scab podcast, I interview certified coach Cari Frame, who specializes in self-kindness and personal growth. We discuss the importance of self-kindness during difficult times, particularly for men over 40 going through divorce. Cari explains mindfulness, the impact of inner negativity, and the significance of self-compassion. She shares insights from her experience at a suicide hotline, emphasizing the value of being listened to without judgment. The conversation also covers overcoming self-sabotage, co-parenting challenges, taming the inner critic, and the power of pausing to make conscious choices. Ultimately, the episode highlights the importance of purpose in overcoming fear and fostering personal growth.  I really appreciate Cari for taking the time to hang with me and drop some great pearls on my men over 40.  We definitely will do this again! Takeaways Self-kindness helps ease the inner battle during tough times. Mindfulness allows individuals to stay present and reduce anxiety. Focusing on imagined futures can drain energy and increase stress. Self-compassion involves understanding and growth rather than judgment. Listening without conditions is a powerful gift for those in distress. Avoiding hard emotions can lead to a lack of joy. Self-sabotage stems from negative inner beliefs about oneself. Control in co-parenting often stems from unresolved grief or guilt. The inner critic often operates on negative assumptions. Pausing allows for conscious decision-making and self-awareness. Everything Cari! (https://cariframe.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    28min | Published on September 22, 2024

  • Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats  ||  DPTSP #052  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats  ||  DPTSP #052  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Be angry, but get on with your life - Simon Yeats || DPTSP #052 || David M. Webb

    In this episode, Simon Yeats shares his incredible journey through personal tragedies, including the loss of loved ones and the challenges of divorce. He discusses the importance of finding humor in life's difficulties, the drive to help others recover from setbacks, and the critical role of support systems in healing. Simon emphasizes the need to embrace emotions, be angry when necessary, and maintain hope for the future, even after experiencing significant hardships. You're not alone in this journey. Life is precious and can go quickly. Be angry, but get on with your life. Don't give up hope, even after setbacks. Find something you are passionate about. Exercise is crucial for mental health. Life can be stupid, crazy, and funny. Support systems are vital for recovery. You have to embrace your emotions. Do things for yourself after a divorce. My Second Life - By Simon Yeats (https://www.amazon.com/My-SECOND-Life-Simon-Yeats-ebook/dp/B0CB4LCCPN/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FD4XYW3LICHH&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.0QJY935RNuubTfNdAI6aWpQ-t3CojGEHzxelCB4YmZ_zipUao1LsYSmATXLp64m7rseFucqg579xpE7f9cBOv-89KR9RKPg9fZmTyGW0S6GvR-TXFGwLpkKXIyoPexBRjVxZQmFILHpOSqnvfnBhm4dVmh9YL72ACRMeCbA4UJa0c2nf3sY1gwmTmbz1lzNgZQGiBpQQMs-FX9PBaSu-sBRr_1wMZtC1MiVtrqWxwKg.lYOw4g7yunP34VzP_PUFlG5oS79WqcxWSmtzHKSXyXg&dib_tag=se&keywords=my+second+life&qid=1726928464&s=digital-text&sprefix=my+second+life%2Cdigital-text%2C117&sr=1-1) Simon's Email: mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.com (mailto:mysecondlifeyeats@gmail.com) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 22, 2024

  • Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D.  ||  DPTSP #051  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D.  ||  DPTSP #051  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Cybersecurity and Divorce Recovery / Jonathan Steele, J.D. || DPTSP #051 || David M. Webb

    We have a special guest on the podcast today - Jonathan Steele.  He has the distinction of being the first returning guest on DPTSP.  With his last podcast, we were only able to touch on cybersecurity and divorce recovery only slightly.  This time, the entire show is devoted to the subject - and Jonathan did not disappoint.  I found there were so many facets to divorce and cybersecurity that some even branch into the regular world.  Set back and pay attention.  You may have to listen to this one a few times because Jonathan drops quite a bit of knowledge.  Sidenote:  I’ve had Proton Mail for a year and love it!!  Take a listen. Discussions of: Phishing attacks are on the rise Nigerian Price and 400K scam Family safe word Rarely see a good application of social media in a divorce case AI component is scary Business impersonations Co-parenting apps Stop, pause and think Preying on your mind with urgency Multi-factoring password Almost too late when harm is done Test your backups Digital footprints - unavoidable Every computer is built to fail 3-2-1 backup mantra Ransomware Backup everyday Monitor your credit Time to change your passwords when you start the divorce Hardware security key End-to-end encryption Steele Fortress (https://steelefortress.com/) JOIN THE FREE MEN'S OVER 40 DIVORCE RECOVERY PRIVATE COMMUNITY -https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about (https://www.skool.com/divorce-recovery-men-over-40-4530/about)   -a judgment-free zone!   #divorce #divorcemen #divorcehealing #divorcerecovery #divorcehealingmenover40 #divorcerecoverymenover40 #divorcehealingmen #divorcerecoverymen #divorcemenpodcast   Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    27min | Published on September 20, 2024

  • Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery -  David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS ||  DPTSP#050  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery -  David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS ||  DPTSP#050  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Ownership vs Victim-ship in your Divorce Recovery - David Nordel CMSgt, USAF (ret), RN, BSN, MS || DPTSP#050 || David M. Webb

    Welcome David Nordel to the show.  After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans.  He has written two books on leadership.  We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce.  Some of the parallels are interesting.  Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast.  It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship.  Thanks, David.  Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet.  Talk to David soon! Other topics: Why listening is so important Ways to effectively navigate life, family and friendships The value of time Savoring each moment Deeper awareness of our surroundings Hidden potential within Many people hear, but only a few listen Happy squirrels Run your life like a CEO Harness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively. Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossible Check out egos When we are hurt, we want to transmit 70/30 me time Good quitting Recreate yourself from the inside out Handling hard better Recovery from your failure and move forward Divorce and moral injury run congruent EVERYTHING DAVID NORDEL (https://maxfabconsulting.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    31min | Published on September 6, 2024

  • Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach  ||  DPTSP#049  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach  ||  DPTSP#049  ||  David M. Webb cover
    Divorce Recovery and Happiness / Not what you expect from this podcast - Matt O’Neill, Coach || DPTSP#049 || David M. Webb

    Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations.  Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery.  His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now.  Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast.  Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode.  In half an  hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show.  Thanks Matt Additional Subjects: 8 primary moods that get in the way of our happiness Victim mode We choose every emotion we are experiencing Take responsibility Gratitude Happiness blueprint Flip the script Humility Rate your friends from one to ten self -care and happiness Hope and happiness If you want a better present, get a better and bigger future Everything Matt O’Neill (https://mattoneill.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

    34min | Published on August 30, 2024

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