🎙️ Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! Hosted by David, this episode is a must-watch and/or listen for men over 40 navigating the challenging road of divorce, healing, and rediscovering life, love, and purpose. Today, I’m joined by the inspiring Erica Wiederlight—actress, speaker, and sought-after dating & sexual empowerment coach. Erica’s unique approach blends her performance background with deep insights into human connection, intimacy, and transformation. She’s helped countless people rebuild confidence, embrace authenticity, and unlock true joy after major life shifts like divorce. What You’ll Discover in This Episode: How to Get Out of Your Head & Reconnect With Your Body: Erica explains why “embodiment” is essential for men after divorce, and offers practical steps to tune into your body’s wisdom, from recognizing red flags on dates to feeling truly alive again. Why Men Over 40 Struggle With Self-Love—And How to Change That: We bust myths about self-care (“it’s not just bubble baths!”) and dive into what self-respect and self-love really mean for men. Erica shares actionable ways to start treating yourself with the dignity you deserve. Breaking the Cycle of Dating Your Ex... Again: Understand the hidden reasons men repeat old relationship patterns and learn simple tools to identify, interrupt, and heal those cycles—so you can attract healthier connections next time. How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt: If you’re worried about being “too much” or “not enough,” Erica’s advice on boundaries will help you show up honestly in new relationships, honor your needs, and avoid losing yourself in the process. Realistic Expectations for Intimacy & Sex Over 40: Forget Hollywood and porn myths—Erica breaks down how to find what truly lights you up, communicate desires, and create more fulfilling connections (no matter your age or experience). About Erica: Find more of Erica’s wisdom and free resources at WeTheLight.org (http://WeTheLight.org). She offers a complimentary intro session—no strings attached—for men ready to break free from old patterns and step into a new chapter. 💬 What’s ONE area of post-divorce life you’re struggling with most—dating, self-love, boundaries, or something else? Drop your answer in the comments below! 👇 Let’s build a supportive community—your story could help another man out there! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE, like, and share if this episode resonated with you. More honest, practical advice for men over 40 is coming next week! #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DatingAdvice #SelfLove #Don’tPickTheScab #RelationshipHealing Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Are you a man over 40 who just signed those divorce papers? Wondering what comes next? You’re not alone. Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, where we dive deep into real-life divorce recovery for men in midlife. 🎧 Divorce is tough—mentally, emotionally, and physically. But your best days are still ahead! This episode covers the 5 crucial steps every man over 40 should take right after divorce to start healing and reclaiming life with confidence. Whether your split was recent or you’re still struggling, these strategies will help you move forward. 1. Prioritize Your Mental Health 🧠 It’s normal to feel lost or overwhelmed. Seeking professional support isn’t weakness—it’s strength. Therapy, counseling, or even just talking things out can make a world of difference. If you’re struggling with depression or anxiety, don’t hesitate to reach out for help or consider medication if recommended. Healing your mind is the first step to rebuilding your life. 2. Rebuild Your Support System 🤝 Divorce can mean losing not just a partner, but also friends, family, or your community. Don’t go it alone. Reach out to old friends, family, or join online groups for divorced men. Connection is the antidote to isolation. Remember, even strangers can become your biggest supporters. 3. Embrace Forgiveness (Including Yourself) 💔➡️💙 Holding onto anger keeps you stuck in the past. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from bitterness, not excusing anyone’s actions. Let go for your own growth and peace—this was a game-changer for me and many guests on the show. 4. Rediscover Passions & Purpose 🌟 Now’s the time to ask: What excites you? Try old hobbies, explore new interests, or set fresh career goals. Taking small steps—reading, joining a group, volunteering—can reignite your drive and give you a renewed sense of purpose. 5. Practice Radical Self-Care 🛀 Mind, body, and spirit all need attention. Think exercise, healthy meals, good sleep, and allowing yourself to process emotions. Avoid unhealthy habits—if you’re struggling with addiction, reach out for help. Little joys, like a walk in nature or listening to your favorite song, build resilience day by day. Remember, recovery is a journey. You’re not weak—you’re human, and you deserve happiness and fulfillment after divorce. 🔥 Ready to take your first step? Drop a comment below: Which of these 5 steps do you need most right now? Or share your own tip for moving forward—let’s build a supportive community together! 💬👇 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode of Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, the safe space where men over 40 find support, wisdom, and a path forward after divorce. I’m your host, David, and in this episode, I sit down with entrepreneur, philosopher, and resilience expert Sid Mohasseb to explore how men can turn adversity into opportunity and truly reinvent themselves after a major life transition like divorce. 👊 Why This Episode Matters for Men 40+ Divorce after 40 is tough. You’re not just dealing with heartbreak—you’re facing uncertainty, identity shifts, and the challenge of building a new future when routines and comfort zones are shattered. But here’s the truth: every ending is a new beginning, and you have infinite opportunities ahead, no matter your age. Sid Mohasseb’s story—from immigrating alone at 16, to building and selling companies, to teaching at top universities—proves that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back, but about growing forward. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to Reframe Failure as Fuel for Growth: Sid explains that failure is only a mistake if you don’t learn from it. Discover how to extract lessons from your divorce and use them to make better decisions moving forward. The Power of Awareness & Mindset Shifts: Why living in “the comfort zone” is actually the “dead zone”—and how to actively choose change, embrace your emotions, and engineer real hope. Authenticity & Reinvention: Learn what it means to be authentic post-divorce, how to face your fears head-on, and why being true to yourself is the first step in building a purposeful life. Community & Connection: Sid breaks down why community isn’t just support—it’s one of the foundational pillars of a successful new life after divorce. Find out how to build your tribe and why helping others compounds your own recovery. Flexibility vs. Pivoting: Is it time to abandon everything, or simply adapt? Sid clarifies the difference and reveals how flexibility (not resistance) is your best friend in recovery. Key Takeaways for Men Over 40 Recovering from Divorce: Infinite Possibilities: No matter your age, you have limitless new moments and opportunities ahead. You Define “Better”: You’re born to create better—and only you can define what “better” looks like. Change is Your Ally: Change isn’t your enemy—it’s your most loyal friend, always offering new options for growth and happiness. Ready to Take Action? 👇 Don’t just listen—join the conversation! ➡️ Share your biggest challenge after divorce in the comments below. ➡️ What’s ONE mindset shift you’re working on right now? Your story could inspire another man! Subscribe for more real talk, expert insights, and community support for men over 40 rebuilding after divorce. #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #LifeAfterDivorce #Resilience #Don’tPickTheScabPodcast Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Are you a man over 40 navigating the stormy waters of divorce? You are not alone, and there is a path to healing, growth, and renewed purpose. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, your host David sits down with Reginald Martin—a spiritual architect, metaphysician, and the visionary creator of Kemetaphysics—for a raw, honest, and empowering conversation designed just for you. 💪 Reginald’s journey is a testament to real transformation. Once an ex-Christian still struggling with inherited beliefs, he broke free from the “invisible architecture” of religion and discovered a life-changing framework that merges ancient Kemetic science with modern metaphysics and spiritual psychology. After his own divorce and spiritual burnout, Reginald found healing and answers in the principle of Ma’at: truth, balance, and divine reciprocity. His story shows us how to reconstruct our identity, reprogram our subconscious, and create a life beyond guilt, fear, or apology. Key Topics in This Episode: Why men often repeat the same relationship patterns after divorce (and how to break the cycle) 🔁 How religious programming can impact your self-worth and relationships as a man The principle of Ma’at: using ancient wisdom to find balance, healing, and joy in your new life 🏛️ The importance of community, emotional intelligence, and choosing joy every day How to use the “emotional barometer technique” to align with your true purpose and happiness 🎯 Reginald shares practical steps for men to rebuild after loss and deconstruction, including how to recognize the signals life gives us, why it’s okay to look within, and how embracing your emotions is not only manly, but essential for growth. Plus, we discuss how to release the guilt of divorce—especially when kids are involved—and why your children’s journey is their own. About Reginald Martin: Reginald now mentors spiritual leaders and visionaries ready to step into full sovereignty and unapologetic alignment. You can connect with him and learn more about his work at reginaldmartin.substack.com (http://reginaldmartin.substack.com). Ready to start your transformation? Join us on this journey of healing and empowerment. If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe for more conversations that help men over 40 reclaim their power and happiness after divorce. 👇 We want to hear from you! What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced post-divorce? Did any of Reginald’s insights hit home for you? Drop a comment below, share your story, or let us know what topics you want to hear next. Your voice matters! Reginald's Website! (https://reginaldmartin.substack.com/) #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DontPickTheScab #ReginaldMartin #HealingAfterDivorce #SpiritualGrowth #NewBeginnings Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! I’m David, and in this powerful episode, I sit down with therapist and coach Justin Sunseri to tackle the REAL issues men face after divorce—especially men over 40. If you’re feeling “broken” after the end of your marriage, you’re not alone… but what if you’re not actually broken? What if you’re just stuck? 💡 Justin Sunseri has been helping men heal and rebuild since 2007. He specializes in trauma recovery, substance use, relationship issues, and self-harm, and his practical, no-psychobabble approach makes mental health accessible to ALL men. In this episode, we break down: 💥 Why Men Over 40 Struggle with Divorce Trauma Men often aren’t taught to talk about emotions, making it hard to reach out for help after divorce. Justin explains how years—even decades—of emotional shutdown can build up and erupt during and after divorce, leaving you feeling isolated, hopeless, or stuck in unhelpful patterns. 🧠 Understanding Polyvagal Theory: Safety vs. Danger Justin simplifies polyvagal theory to show how your nervous system controls your emotions and reactions. Are you in a state of safety (able to connect, laugh, and move forward) or danger (stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown)? Your body’s state drives your thoughts and behaviors—so real recovery starts with the body. 🚩 How Trauma Shows Up After Divorce Trauma isn’t just about obvious things like drinking or anger outbursts. It can look like isolating, dating too soon, or feeling numb and detached. Justin shares how these are signs of being “stuck,” not “broken”—and why context matters. You can feel different in therapy, at home, or with friends. That’s proof you can change. 🛠️ Simple, Actionable Tools for Recovery One Minute Check-In: Give yourself permission to feel, just for a minute a day—no masking, no judgment. Nature Breaks: Stop and notice the sky or touch a tree for 30 seconds. These mini “workouts” for your nervous system add up over time. Baby Steps: Like building muscle, emotional regulation is a skill—start small, be consistent, and you’ll see change. 🔑 Breaking the Cycle: You’re Stuck, Not Broken The biggest lie is that you’re “broken.” The truth? You’re just stuck in a defensive state—one you can absolutely move through with the right tools and support. Justin’s mission is to empower men to recognize this and reclaim their emotional freedom. 👀 What’s been YOUR biggest challenge post-divorce? How have you felt “stuck”—and what’s worked for you? Drop a comment below—we want to hear YOUR story! 👍 Like, subscribe, and share if you found this helpful. New episodes every week to help men over 40 thrive after divorce. Justin's Website (https://www.justinlmft.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with your host, David! If you’re a man over 40 navigating the rough waters of divorce, you’re in the right place. In this episode, I sit down with AJ Maddeny—strategic conflict advisor, author of Divorce Emergency Protocol, and a true authority in helping men like you recover with clarity and confidence. Why Watch This? Divorce after 40 isn’t just emotionally devastating—it can feel like your life’s been upended. But here’s the truth: most of what’s keeping you stuck isn’t about you. It’s the invisible structures—misaligned roles, societal pressures, outdated expectations—that trip up even the strongest men. AJ breaks it all down with real-world stories and actionable frameworks—no therapy cliches or empty advice. What You’ll Learn: Why men over 40 experience unique challenges in divorce—and how to flip the script The difference between personal and structural conflict (and why this matters) How to shift from “panic mode” to “planning mode” and regain real control over your future The five roots of conflict and how to pinpoint your biggest stumbling block AJ’s step-by-step method to map out conflict patterns so you avoid repeating the same old mistakes Why boundaries can backfire—and what to set up instead for authentic healing How to prioritize what really matters (hint: it’s not the house, it’s your kids and your peace of mind) Myths about justice, fairness, and why the legal system can’t give you closure Real success stories from AJ’s practice—men who went from powerless to purposeful, even after the worst breakups Meet AJ Maddeny AJ brings a powerhouse background: graduate degree in conflict analysis, executive MBA, former senior policy analyst for the State Department, and the practical experience of guiding hundreds of men through divorce recovery. His “Divorce Emergency Protocol” isn’t just a book—it’s a lifeline for guys ready to stop spinning their wheels. Bonus for Listeners! AJ is offering an exclusive discount for his upcoming “Divorce Exit Plan” course. Use code EXIT25 at maddeny.com (http://maddeny.com) for special pricing! Ready To Stop Picking the Scab? Don’t just survive your divorce—strategize your comeback. Hit play now and get the tools, stories, and strategies you need to rebuild with confidence. 👇 Let’s talk! Have you struggled with feeling powerless during divorce? What’s the hardest part for you—emotions, finances, co-parenting, or something else? Drop your thoughts in the comments. I read every one and want to hear your story! AJ's website! (https://maddeny.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! I’m your host, David, and if you’re a man over 40 facing—or healing from—a tough divorce, this episode is your beacon of hope. 💡 Today, I’m joined by the amazing Rikki Lee Travolta—a man who not only survived a traumatic divorce but transformed that pain into a powerful comeback story. 🙌 After enduring misdiagnosis, career setbacks, and the heart-wrenching loss of time with his children, Rikki emerged stronger than ever. Now a successful celebrity publicist, film & TV producer, and influential spokesman, Rikki proves that you can rebuild your life, even after hitting rock bottom. In this unfiltered, heartfelt conversation, we explore: The Realities of Divorce for Men Over 40: Rikki shares the brutal truths of betrayal, loss of family, and legal challenges—plus how he managed to find the light at the end of the tunnel. Mental Health & Recovery: Discover how proper diagnosis, therapy, and finding the right support system can change EVERYTHING. (Spoiler: Therapy is not a dirty word! 🧠) Career Resurrection: Learn how Rikki went from being sidelined by life’s circumstances to leading multi-million-dollar companies and making a name for himself in Hollywood. The Power of Forgiveness: Both Rikki and I open up about the challenges—and necessity—of forgiving those who hurt us, and more importantly, forgiving ourselves. Building a New Life: Get actionable tips on how to create fresh meaning after divorce, whether through faith, community, or new passions. Celebrity Insights: Hear what Rikki has learned from managing some of the biggest names in rock and roll, and how honesty and authenticity are the keys to lasting success—both in business and relationships. ✨ This episode isn’t just about surviving divorce—it’s about thriving. Whether you’re struggling to move on, facing betrayal, or feeling lost, Rikki’s story will show you that you’re not alone and that brighter days are ahead. 👇 Let’s build a community of support! If this story inspired you, drop a comment below: What’s been your biggest challenge in recovery—or your greatest lesson learned? Have you found a turning point in your own journey? Share your story or ask a question—I read every comment and would love to connect. 🙏 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and ring the bell for more real talk and powerful stories on men’s divorce recovery. You’ve got this—and we’ve got your back! #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DontPickTheScab #RikkiLeeTravolta #DivorceSupport #Forgiveness #MentalHealth #RebuildYourLife Rikki on Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/rikkitravolta) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast—the place where post-divorce scars turn into your greatest superpower! I’m David, your host, and today we’re tackling a subject that’s rarely talked about but absolutely life-changing for men over 40: sexual energy transformation. Whether you’re newly single or still healing from divorce, this episode is for YOU. Our special guest, Matt Cook, has coached over 80,000 men worldwide to reclaim their confidence, rebuild intimacy, and channel raw sexual energy into EVERY area of life—not just the bedroom! 😎✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode: How to overcome performance anxiety and “stage fright” when dating or starting a new sexual relationship after divorce. The powerful mindset shift: Why you don’t “control” your penis—and why that’s actually liberating! Matt’s #1 bedroom hack: You don’t need an erection to enjoy and give pleasure—plus, why this can transform your confidence overnight. Why focusing on your own pleasure (instead of “performing” for her) is the secret to stress-free, deeply connected sex. The porn trap: How high-speed video porn hijacks your sexual energy and what you can do to detox, rewire your brain, and feel truly alive again. The science of oxytocin: How “old school” romance, eye contact, and non-sexual touch can rebuild your libido, banish anxiety, and spark real intimacy—even if you’ve struggled for years. Why scheduling sex (instead of waiting for “spontaneity”) is the relationship hack men over 40 need to keep love and passion alive. Dating advice for men over 40: Why meeting women in person beats dating apps, and Matt’s simple steps to confidently connect, flirt, and build attraction—no games, just real results. The “shock absorber” mindset: How to stay grounded, masculine, and emotionally strong (and why this is so attractive to women). The truth about mismatched libido, menopause, and what REALLY keeps intimacy alive long-term. If you’re ready to banish shame, ditch performance anxiety, and step into a new era of confidence, healing, and abundance after divorce—this episode will give you the roadmap. Matt’s practical, no-BS advice will help you laugh, learn, and take action. matt 👇 What’s one question or struggle you have about dating, sex, or confidence after 40? Drop it in the comments—I read every one and love connecting with you guys! If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with a fellow man who needs it. Your comeback starts now! 🚀 Matt Cook Website (https://healthyto120.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! In this episode, host David sits down with the inspiring Tim Tamashiro—bestselling author, keynote speaker, and part-time monk—to explore how men over 40 can truly heal and find purpose after divorce. If you’re feeling lost, stuck, or just plain tired of suffering, this conversation is for you. 🧘‍♂️💬 Why Do We Suffer So Much After Divorce? Tim shares his own journey through a recent divorce after 28 years of marriage, revealing how suffering is a natural part of life—but it doesn’t have to define you. Drawing from ancient Buddhist wisdom, neuroscience, and his own “part-time monk” mindset, Tim explains the concept of the “second arrow”: while the first arrow (divorce) is unavoidable, the second arrow (repeated suffering) is optional. Learn how to stop picking the scab and start healing for real. 🩹 Rediscovering Purpose with Ikigai.  Many men define themselves by their roles as husbands and fathers. After divorce, it’s easy to feel lost. Tim introduces the Japanese concept of Ikigai—your reason for being—and shows how curiosity, wonder, and self-compassion can help you redefine your identity and find new meaning in life, even after 40. 🌱 Practical Tools for Healing Mindfulness & Meditation: Learn how to shift from your “default brain” (the old, reactive part) to your “design brain” (the mindful, intentional part). Humor as Medicine: David and Tim share how laughter—even at the absurdity of divorce—can be a powerful tool for healing and releasing anger. Letting Go of Control: Struggling with what happens at your ex’s house? Tim shares the Buddhist parable of the second arrow and offers actionable advice for releasing the need to control what you can’t. Therapy & Positive Psychology: Why seeking help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. The Unexpected Benefits of Divorce Tim and David discuss how divorce, while painful, can also be a chance to reinvent yourself, rediscover what makes you happy, and build a life that’s truly yours. From enjoying the little things (like a spoon left on the counter!) to embracing change, this episode is packed with hope and practical wisdom. 🌟 Join the Conversation! How have you found purpose or healing after divorce? What’s your “second arrow,” and how are you learning to let it go? Drop a comment below and share your story—your experience could help another man on his journey. 👇 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode of Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast. If you want to share your story or have a question for David, leave it in the comments! Remember: Suffer less, happy more. Let’s heal together! 💬🧘‍♂️ Tim on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@TimTamashiroIkigaihttps://www.youtube.com/@TimTamashiroIkigai) #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DontPickTheScab #Ikigai #HealingAfterDivorce Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Are you a man over 40 facing divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the process? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to go through it blindly. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Joe Dillon, a seasoned divorce mediator with a unique blend of financial expertise and deep personal insight. Joe’s mission? To help men like you navigate the emotional and financial minefields of divorce with clarity, confidence, and fairness. 💪 Joe brings 28 years of mediation experience and an MBA in finance to the table, making him a rare expert who understands both the numbers and the emotions behind every tough conversation. Most mediators are lawyers or mental health professionals, but Joe’s financial background means he can break down the real costs of divorce—child support, alimony, property division—and help you see the big picture, not just the dollar signs. 💵 In this candid conversation, you’ll discover: Why 75% of divorce is about the numbers—and how to make them work for you How to avoid the courtroom drama and keep control of your future The biggest mistakes men over 40 make during divorce (and how to avoid them) How to handle the emotional rollercoaster, even if you think you’re “fine” Why mediation leads to better outcomes for you and your kids The truth about “fair” settlements—and why it’s about lifestyle, not just money How to prepare for mediation, stay calm, and negotiate like a pro What to do if you’re stuck in anger or blame—and how to break the cycle Joe shares his personal story of growing up in a litigated divorce, the lessons he learned, and why he’s passionate about helping men avoid the same mistakes. You’ll also get practical strategies for budgeting, negotiating, and keeping your cool—even when emotions run high. 🧘‍♂️ If you’re ready to move forward, protect your finances, and build a better future for yourself and your kids, this episode is a must-listen. Don’t let anger or confusion dictate your next chapter—get the tools and insights you need to thrive after divorce. 👉 What’s your biggest fear or question about divorce mediation? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it! If you found this episode helpful, hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE with a friend who needs it. #DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #DivorceMediation #DontPickTheScab #DivorceAdvice #Podcast Everything Joe Dillon (https://www.equitablemediation.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.