Welcome David Nordel to the show.  After a distinguished career in the Air Force, he developed his superpowers of transitions and mental health challenges of veterans.  He has written two books on leadership.  We did discuss the similarities between veteran PTSD and men going through a divorce.  Some of the parallels are interesting.  Discussions of quitting in the face of adversity, tools to embrace personal growth, preparing for change, and recognizing the value in others are all broached in this podcast.  It was like the two Davids were reuniting after a long friendship.  Thanks, David.  Hope to get you back on the podcast. I’ve got a ton of questions we haven’t even touched on yet.  Talk to David soon! Other topics: Why listening is so important Ways to effectively navigate life, family and friendships The value of time Savoring each moment Deeper awareness of our surroundings Hidden potential within Many people hear, but only a few listen Happy squirrels Run your life like a CEO Harness the energy of PTSD and moral injury, flip the polarity, and use it constructively. Pain and fear make change hard, sometimes impossible Check out egos When we are hurt, we want to transmit 70/30 me time Good quitting Recreate yourself from the inside out Handling hard better Recovery from your failure and move forward Divorce and moral injury run congruent EVERYTHING DAVID NORDEL (https://maxfabconsulting.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well fellas, another great podcast after no expectations.  Matt knocks it out of the park for my men struggling with divorce recovery.  His advice, thoughts and teachings are just what some of you need right now.  Matt is the happiness expert and drops some important knowledge with that subject on us with this podcast.  Discussions of happiness is a skill, journaling, everlasting vs fleeting happiness, change is life, self-destructive thoughts and men don’t cry are all broached in this episode.  In half an  hour, we only touch the surface of his superpower and will get him back on the show.  Thanks Matt Additional Subjects: 8 primary moods that get in the way of our happiness Victim mode We choose every emotion we are experiencing Take responsibility Gratitude Happiness blueprint Flip the script Humility Rate your friends from one to ten self -care and happiness Hope and happiness If you want a better present, get a better and bigger future Everything Matt O’Neill (https://mattoneill.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

You never know how a podcast interview will turn out with someone you’ve just met.  I take a chance every time I set one up.  But this podcast session with Eric did not disappoint.  We did everything but cry (maybe next time) in his quest to help my men over 40 with their divorce recovery issues.  Eric is a certified counselor with years of experience in treating trauma, addiction, depression, grief and other concerns.  Discussions of Acronyms, self-love and self-compassion, Survival mode, setbacks, four types of bouncing (back), and grief are all touched upon in this podcast. Other topics: Kindsight and hindsight Judgement and stigmas Healthy boundaries The mind is busy trying to distinguish between perceived and real threats Exercise What do I value? What are my needs? Community-based connections Applying martial arts to addiction/recovery Allow yourself to grieve Behaviors are verbs, people are nouns Able to talk about the scabs but the scars are too fresh Preferences Eric's Contact Info and Website (https://www.recoveryartscounselling.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

My men over 40 do not want to miss this episode.  Dr. Leit drops some basic old-school knowledge that we can all apply somewhere in our lives.  Her no-nonsense approach to dealing with loss and conflict is incredible.  Interviewing her was like two friends having coffee.  It was so much fun  - before, during and after.  Discussions of never staying for the kids, divorce is losing control, living in conflict, second generational divorcee, weaponizing the kids and AI/relationship are all covered in this session.  Gotta get Doc back again.  So many questions I wasn’t able to ask this time.  Next time for sure!Other Topics:Can I stand by myself?Doc’s 4 ‘F’s’-fight, fight, fawn and freezeParenting separatelyThe magnifying glass and the mirrorWrite your curiosity playlistNitpicking desire to controlUsing the kids as pawnsCommon senseBe authenticDysfunctional householdBe accountable in a loving wayDr. Etel (http://leit.com)Leit.com (http://Leit.com)-4 Best Selling books-Sessions, Workshops, Media and TipsSignShine (https://signshine.com/) - Communication with your children  Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

I’ve been waiting for the right moment to record this special episode.  We were recording the 183rd episode of Divorce Devil Podcast yesterday and I surprised Rachel with the request to do an episode on DPTSP, and she quickly jumped on the chance without hesitation.  I just wanted a few things that men over 40 could probably improve with going through a divorce from a woman’s perspective.  And, where did she go first??  I should have known d*ck pics!  But, surprisingly, the podcast gets much better from there.  Listen intently to Rachel’s points and see if you can improve on any of them.  Thanks for listening…Topics of:Don’t go back for sexNo unsolicited d*ck picsBe fairConcentrate on your householdJack in the Box DadRule and boundariesNo emotions in a textDo go out for bloodDon’t use the kids as pawnsPocket p*ssyDon’t send mixed signals Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Where do I start without giving away the contents from the title?  Welcome, Chantal to the podcast.  Her book, RAISE YOUR LOVE SIGNAL, deals with some of the challenges men over 40 man and/or will encounter during or after their divorce.  Her teachings are just for a new significant other - but it works with friends, coworkers, and you kiddos.  Everyone needs and should give and receive love.  Discussions of being sensitive, dating allows you practice your skills, dating for a result, be available, mindfulness, managing the curveballs with tools, invest time, practice self-love, and it is hard for men to ask for help are all surfaced in this episode.  Chantal has a definite superpower: raising your love signal with this show.  Thanks Chantal!More Topics:Develop your communicationTake ownershipAdmit when you f*ck upHold each other accountableBuild fireworks over timeStupid superficial thingsCan I sustain this long-term?Seduction mode then get lazyChasing loveDealbreakersStepping stones to the right oneCreating a safe spaceListen to the red flagsThe art of modern datingChantal’s Website (https://raiseyourlovesignal.com/)Chantal’s Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/chantal.landreville/)Chantal’s Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/chantal.landreville.14/)Chantal’s TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@chantalryls?lang=en) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Where do I start?  What does a divorced or divorcing gay man over 40 have in common with a divorced or divorcing straight man? After interviewing Karl Dunn - quite a bit.  Karl comes to us to discuss the plight of gay men's divorce - with quite a bit of similarities and few differences.  His ability to form a special bond with some of his new-found friends at work is unique.  Both sets of men basically have some of the same issues and complexities that encompass divorce.  This episode includes discussions of living in an artist collective, self-love, the elusive pot of gold, and Marian’s Law. We have to get Karl back for part two, for I think we only scratched the surface. Thanks, Karl.Topics of;RegretForgive yourselfMaster your alonenessDivorce law is written for men, women and children There is no protocol Divorce reform as a mental health issueCarvana Tower commercialThe marriage didn’t make him. His divorce didBeating yourselfRepeating the same patternsThe elephant in the roomCommunication vs RespectAnger is not requiredI am enough being aloneExpecting and rehearsing things that happen in your lifeRainbow divorceALL THINGS KARL (https://www.karldunn.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome Jonathan Steele to the show.  Being a divorce attorney, he has seen the whole gambit of the same old and the new old in his career.  Discussions of narcissism and gaslighting, divorce law misconceptions, parenting time, not leaving the home, being organized, and not bad-mouthing your ex.  But, what intrigued me the most was his cybersecurity element of divorce.  It was so fascinating.  This is not just your ordinary lawyer vs. divorce recovery podcast.  Also Topics on:The power imbalance in the coupleLawyers cost more than a therapistFight for parenting timeFrequent flyerWelcoming good lawyersMediationConcentrate on being the best father you can beTwo happy homes are better than one unhappy oneGet petty with petsParenting time with petsFull disclosureChildren may want to blame themselves for the divorceParenting comes with experienceNever stay for the kidsBeermann Law Office Website (https://www.beermannlaw.com/team/jonathan-d-steele/)Steele Fortress - Cybersecurity (https://steelefortress.com/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Not too often do we have an actual wellness advocate on the show.  I do enjoy my professionals, but Jonathan lends a new direction and flow to the mic.  Through his life’s journey, he has compiled an experience quotient that relates to anyone who is going through a trying time.  From discussing body image, voids in mental health, being a small circle guy, old guy hockey, addiction, balancing work and life, and every day is a gift - Jonathan hits all the major cylinders of the engine of getting through some sh*t!  I appreciate him taking the time to drop some of his life’s knowledge on us.  Thanks, Jonathan.Topics of:Thinking about othersBe indifferent to those who present negativity in your lifeKarma is a real thingAvoiding feeling your feelingsThe importance of therapySnack of the Month ClubSelf-careFriends vs. acquaintancesKeep moving forwardShare the benefit of fitness with othersLead with graceFostering connectionsJonathan Niziol Website (https://www.jonathanniziolofficial.com/media) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome Eran Magen to the show.  He is a father and a psychologist.  His superpowers are helping parents with better relationships with their kids while having a business helping divorcing dads with co-parenting and self-parenting.  Being divorced, Eran knows firsthand how men can react negatively to having to co-parent.  Topics of suicide prevention, accepting the legal reality and moving on, mutual mudslinging is stressful for kids, soul searching, and boundaries. Eran imparted some interesting knowledge to me and my men over forty, and we really appreciated it. We hope to have him on again.  Discussions of:Jack in the Box DadParental AlienationTreating the kids as a business?Mickey Mouse shortsPick your battlesChatGBT is your friendFinally realizing you are living the dreamB.I.F.F.Getting over the shame and self-doubtShield them from the negativityFraming the conversation for the benefit of the child2,000 pieces of chocolateCollaborative ParentingSet boundaries early enoughKids are smartBe firm and clear without being harshHaving the kids with no distractionsDIVORCING DADS WEBSITE (https://www.divorcingdads.org/)PARENTING FOR HUMANS WEBSITE (https://parentingforhumans.com/wp/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.