Why do we keep repeating the same painful relationship patterns—and how do we finally break free? In this Part 2 conversation, I continue my discussion with Roy Biancalana, nationally recognized relationship coach, bestselling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love podcast. Roy is passionate about helping people prepare for love by doing the inner work—what he calls getting into “relationship shape.” In this episode, Roy expands on how unhealed wounds and unconscious patterns often sabotage our relationships. He explains why it’s not just about finding the right partner but becoming the kind of person who can sustain a healthy, lasting relationship. Through his own personal journey of heartbreak and transformation, Roy offers an honest, inspiring look at how to shift from frustration to fulfillment in love. Whether you’re single, dating, or looking to deepen an existing connection, this episode is packed with insights to help you stop repeating the past and start attracting the kind of relationship you truly deserve. In this episode you’ll hear: Why unresolved past wounds keep showing up in your current relationships. The difference between being in “dating shape” vs. “relationship shape.” Practical steps to break free from old patterns and attract the love you deserve. How to move from chemistry-driven choices to values-based connections. Roy’s insights on what it really takes to be ready for lasting, healthy love. Key Takeaways: True love begins with inner work—healing your past and breaking old patterns. Being in “relationship shape” means breaking patterns, not just playing dating games. Conscious relationships require self-awareness, authenticity, and vulnerability. Resources & Links Mentioned Take the Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment: coachingwithroy.com (http://coachingwithroy.com) Roy’s newest release: Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ Connect with Roy: Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love Download his FREE eBook Relationship Bootcamp: https://mailchi.mp/3a4c571a4bba/relationship-bootcamp Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Don’t forget to subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Have you ever wondered why sexual health conversations feel so polarized when what you need is honest, practical guidance? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Diane Mueller, a naturopathic doctor with dual doctorates who specializes in sexual wellness through her practice My Libido Doc. Dr. Mueller's journey began with her own unexplained vulvar pain that conventional medicine couldn't address, ultimately leading her to discover holistic approaches to sexual wellness. Today, she helps individuals and couples navigate midlife sexuality, combining medical knowledge with shame-free guidance. We explore why sexual health becomes more challenging—and important—as we age, and how Dr. Mueller's three-pillar approach addresses physical, personal, and partnership aspects of sexual wellness. She shares why couples can actually increase passion over time rather than resign themselves to decline. You'll also hear us explore: Why 70% of people want to discuss sex with doctors but most never do. The difference between male and female arousal patterns and why this matters at midlife. Why "arousal before desire" becomes crucial as we age and how to work with it. The connection between blood sugar, circulation, and sexual function. How to navigate "awkward sex" gracefully as a sign of growth and novelty. Key Takeaways Sexual health is holistic health The pleasure system operates on positive feedback. Arousal before desire is normal for women. Learn more about Dr. Diane: Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mylibidodoc Instagram: @myromancedoc (https://www.instagram.com/myromancedoc/) Freebies for all things libido: https://mylibidodoc.com/freebies/ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/ Preorder our book and get almost $250 of bonuses for free! Go to https://wanttowantit.com Check out her courses: https://platinumself.circle.so/feed#a_aid=4mymatureallure Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to Mature Allure (https://www.notion.so/Roy-Biancalana-How-to-Heal-Your-Past-and-Attract-Healthy-Love-253dfa62dc22817dade8eb0fca6f31cb?pvs=21). Have you ever felt like your love life was more about luck than intention? In this episode, I’m joined by Roy Biancalana, a nationally recognized relationship coach, best-selling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-attracting-lasting-love-podcast/id1561528328) podcast. With over fifteen years of experience, Roy helps singles uncover the inner barriers that keep them from experiencing healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationships. We dive into Roy’s personal journey—from heartbreak and midlife crisis to transformation and finding love—and how that led him to create his Relationship Bootcamp. Roy shares why being in "relationship shape" matters more than dating tips or luck, and how doing the inner work can change the trajectory of your love life at any age. You’ll also hear us explore: The difference between a dating coach and a relationship coach—and why it matters. Why working through your past is essential to creating real intimacy. How to reframe the idea of being “single by choice” and whether it comes from empowerment or fear. The seven “relationship muscles” Roy teaches to strengthen your ability to connect authentically. This conversation is both eye-opening and encouraging, especially for women over 40 navigating today’s dating landscape. If you’ve been wondering why you keep running into the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you start asking the “quantum questions” that lead to real change. Key Takeaways: Lasting love begins with inner work—not luck, timing, or finding the “right” person. Unresolved past pain can sabotage new relationships unless we consciously heal and open our hearts again. Being in “relationship shape” is about emotional fitness—working on your truth, feelings, and authenticity so you’re ready when love shows up. Connect with Roy: Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-attracting-lasting-love-podcast/id1561528328) Download his FREE eBook: https://mailchi.mp/3a4c571a4bba/relationship-bootcamp Connect with Sherri: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, Who is that? In this heartfelt solo episode of Mature Allure, I get real about something every woman over forty has faced but doesn’t always talk about—how our reflection changes and what it means to redefine beauty on our own terms. Aging isn’t the enemy; beauty doesn’t disappear—it evolves. Together, we explore how to release comparison, embrace softer, more loving eyes when looking at ourselves, and discover the real glow up after 40. This conversation is about more than skincare or style—it’s about rituals, affirmations, and reclaiming self-worth. It’s time to stop chasing beauty and start defining it for ourselves. Because this season of life isn’t about fading—it’s about blooming. What I discuss: [00:01:00] – Facing the mirror: when you don’t recognize your reflection [00:03:00] – How comparison steals our joy and confidence [00:05:00] – The real glow up after 40: beauty rituals for yourself, not others [00:06:00] – Mirror affirmations and reclaiming self-worth [00:07:00] – Becoming season, not disappearing season Key Takeaways: Aging is not fading—it’s a process of blooming into your power. The real glow up after 40 comes from defining beauty for yourself, not performing it for others. Small rituals and affirmations can transform the way you see your reflection and yourself. Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Don’t forget to subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered what happened to your skin overnight? If you've ever felt like your skincare routine needs a complete revolution—today's conversation is exactly what you need to hear. Today, I'm joined by Dr. Kyle Landry, an esteemed scientist who accidentally stumbled into the skincare world while working on bioterrorism defense and NASA projects. As co-founder and president of Delavie Sciences, he has created something truly out of this world—literally. His Aonia Collection features ingredients that survived outside the International Space Station, and now they're working magic on our skin here on Earth. We're talking about real science, and a refreshingly honest approach to aging gracefully without the pressure of chasing impossible standards. What we discuss: [00:03] - Dr. Kyle Landry and Delavie Sciences [01:18] - From food scientist to skincare revolutionary [02:44] - Surviving space for skincare [05:02] - The meaning behind "Delavie Sciences" and their philosophy [07:36] - Who needs space-age skincare? [10:23] - Why 17-step routines are marketing nonsense [19:23] - "Aonia" and self-empowerment in skincare Resources Mentioned Aonia Collection (https://www.delaviesciences.com/collections/aeonia-collection) Clinical Data (https://www.delaviesciences.com/pages/aeonia): NASA Publications: https://spinoff.nasa.gov/From_Space_to_Your_Face Three Key Takeaways Hydration, sleep, diet, and exercise will do more for your skin than any product alone. If a product causes reactions, don't force it just because someone else says it's the best—your skin knows what it needs. Real skincare results take patience and consistency, expect 2-3 weeks before seeing changes and don't give up too early. Learn more about Kyle: DeLavie Sciences Website: https://www.delaviesciences.com/ Instagram: @DelavieSciences (https://www.instagram.com/delaviesciences) and @KyleLandryPhD (https://www.instagram.com/kylelandryphd/) Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Don’t forget to subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Season 5, Episode 37: Ever feel like you're doing everything right — eating healthy, exercising — but still not feeling your best? You might be overlooking the one thing that can change everything: sleep. In today’s episode of Mature Allure, Sherri O. is joined by artist, performer, and wellness advocate Evalee Gertz, founder of Sia Silk, (https://www.siasilk.com/) a brand dedicated to better sleep through luxurious silk sleep aids. Evalee shares how her background as a professional dancer and yoga instructor led her to discover the power of sleep in overall health and aging gracefully. We explore her inspiring journey from performer to entrepreneur, why sleep is truly the cornerstone of wellness, and actionable tips for improving your sleep and self-care routine. If you’re navigating midlife changes or simply looking to enhance your vitality, this episode is packed with insight on how small changes can lead to powerful transformations to promote healthy aging. What we discussed: [03:46] - Why Sleep Masks are a Game-Changer (and How Sia Silk Was Born) [08:55] - The Lifelong Benefits of Yoga and Gentle Movement [10:37] - What Wellness Really Means (Hint: It's Not About Perfection) [11:29] - Yoga Tips for Beginners at Any Stage of Life [13:07] - Embracing New Dreams in Midlife and Beyond [15:04] - Building a Nighttime Ritual for Lasting Wellness Key Takeaways: Quality sleep is the foundation of vibrant health, energy, and beauty — at every age. It’s never too late to pivot your passion into a new purpose-driven business. Incorporating gentle practices like yoga and building a consistent bedtime routine can radically improve your overall wellness. Learn more about Evalee: Website: www.siasilk.com (http://www.siasilk.com) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SiaSilksleepwear Instagram: @siasilk (https://www.instagram.com/siasilk/) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eva-gertz-318649bb? YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SiaSilk Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Join this community for women. Subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Season 5, Episode 36 What if one small act of kindness could spark a nationwide movement? In this inspiring episode of Mature Allure, Sherri O. is joined by Karen Olson, author of Meant for More and the founder and CEO Emeritus of Family Promise (https://familypromise.org/), a national nonprofit that has mobilized over 1 million volunteers to support homeless families across America. What started as a sandwich and a conversation blossomed into a lifelong mission of service and transformation. Karen opens up about how an unexpected encounter shifted the course of her life, the lessons she learned about leadership, resilience, and forgiveness—and how passion, planning, and persistence built a legacy of hope. We explore the power of volunteering, how one woman turned personal heartache into social change, and why we all have the potential to make a meaningful difference—no matter our age or stage in life. This conversation will remind you that it’s never too late to follow your heart and live a life of deeper impact. 3 Key Takeaways Leading with passion, purpose, and persistence can create lasting change in the world. Volunteering doesn’t just help others—it transforms the volunteer from within. Personal healing often comes from forgiveness, empathy, and being of service to others. What we discussed: [00:30] – Karen’s unexpected journey into philanthropy and how a sandwich led to a calling [05:00] – The beginnings of Family Promise and how her son inspired their early outreach [09:30] – Why volunteering matters and how it changes lives—both the giver and the receiver [16:00] – Karen’s lessons in leadership: the 3 P’s—Passion, Plan, and Persistence [21:00] – Overcoming personal trauma, forgiveness, and resilience after a life-altering accident [25:00] – A powerful story of transformation from a former Family Promise guest Learn more from Karen: Website: www.karenolsonauthor.com (http://www.karenolsonauthor.com) | https://familypromise.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kareneolson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kareneolson/ Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Join this community for women. Subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Season 5, Episode 35: Ever feel like you’re doing everything “right” in your business but still feel misaligned and exhausted? What if the real key to success is tuning into your energy and rewriting the hustle mindset? In this episode of Mature Allure, Sherri O. is joined by Anna Lozano, startup strategist, entrepreneur, and former co-founder of Love Powered Co. Anna blends high-performance strategy with energetics to help women align their businesses and lives with purpose, intuition, and flow. We dive into what it means to lead from both the masculine (structure and strategy) and the feminine (intuition and energy) — and how striking this balance is crucial for success and fulfillment, especially in midlife. Anna shares her personal journey of self-discovery, redefining success, building companies, and trusting her inner guidance through every phase of growth. Whether you’re shifting careers, building your dream business, or simply seeking more balance, this conversation will inspire you to trust your energetic alignment and build a life and career that feels as good as it looks. What we discuss: [01:30] – Anna's entrepreneurial journey and leaving the corporate world. [03:45] – Launching Love Powered Co. and the power of affirmations. [07:00] – What is energetic alignment in business? [11:40] – Reprogramming limiting beliefs and moving from hustle to flow. [15:00] – How magnetism and embodiment lead to powerful opportunities. [18:00] – Building trust and seizing synchronicities. [24:45] – The value of pause and surrender when things aren’t flowing. [27:43] – Three energetic tips for aging and business success. Key Takeaways: Balancing masculine strategy with feminine flow is essential to sustainable success. Energetic awareness and reprogramming old beliefs create space for abundance and fulfillment. You can have it all — success, health, purpose — through self-discovery and aligning your energy with intention. Connect with Anna: Website: www.annalozano.com (http://www.annalozano.com) Facebook: www.facebook.com/annalozano10 (http://www.facebook.com/annalozano10) Instagram: www.instagram.com/_annalozano (http://www.instagram.com/_annalozano) Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Join this community for women. Subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Season 5, Episode 34: Have you ever carried pain that wasn’t even yours—and realized it was time to put it down? In this episode of Mature Allure, Sherri O. is joined by her dear friend and co-author, Chrystal Christian, to talk about her powerful new book This Ends With Me. Together, they open up about what it really means to break free from generational cycles, unlearn old narratives, and show up for the kind of healthy aging and healing that transforms not just us—but everyone connected to us. Chrystal brings her full heart to this conversation as we explore motherhood, grief, forgiveness, and the work it takes to reintroduce yourself to the version of you that’s finally free. If you’re on a path of healing and ready to say, “It ends with me,” then this episode is a must-listen. What we discuss: What inspired This Ends With Me and why now was the time to write it. Chrystal shares her personal journey with grief and boundaries. The role of motherhood in healing and how it reveals what we still carry. Chrystal and I reflect on unlearning perfectionism and finding freedom in vulnerability. “The legacy isn’t what we pass down—it’s what we heal.” What it means to be seen, supported, and still show up for yourself. 3 Key Takeaways: Generational healing begins with the decision to stop performing and start listening to your own truth. We have the power to reframe our stories—and rewrite what freedom looks like for ourselves and our families. Authentic connection and shared healing are essential parts of moving through pain and into purpose. "A Community for Women": Connect with Chrystal: Website: ChrystalRaeSoul.com (http://ChrystalRaeSoul.com) Podcast: The And then, more love Podcast (https://chrystalraesoul.podbean.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552592490356 Instagram: @chrystalraesoul (https://www.instagram.com/chrystalraesoul/) Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Join this community for women. Subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Season 5, Episode 33: Are you struggling to turn your goals into reality? Many of us set goals but find it challenging to stay on track. In this episode of Mature Allure, we dive into The Goalden System, a structured approach to setting and achieving goals with intention and clarity. Sherri O. is joined by Kate Wade and Krissy Metzler, founders of The Goalden System. They share insights on building a system that helps you stay committed, focused, and successful in reaching your aspirations. Whether you're looking to improve your career, health, or personal development, this conversation will give you the tools to make real progress. What we discussed: [02:10] – What is The Goalden System, and how does it work? [07:45] – The biggest mistakes people make when setting goals [15:30] – Self-discovery; staying motivated and accountable for long-term success [22:00] – Practical strategies to implement The Goalden System in daily life Key Takeaways: Structure creates success – A clear system helps track progress and maintain focus. Mindset matters – Shifting your beliefs about success can transform your results. Accountability is a game-changer – Having the right support system keeps you motivated. Learn more about The Goalden System: Website: https://www.thegoaldensystem.com/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thegoaldensystem Instagram: http://instagram.com/thegoaldensystem "A Community for Women": Learn more about Sherri O.: Website: https://matureallure.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure Instagram: @mature.allure (https://www.instagram.com/mature.allure/) Don’t forget to subscribe to the Mature Allure podcast for more inspiring stories and discussions on self-love and empowerment. For feedback, questions, or suggestions for future episodes, reach out to us through our website or social media channels. We’d love to hear from you! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.