Description
ADHD Paralysis, The Anti-Planner, and Getting Unstuck with Dani Donovan
Feeling stuck but can’t explain why? In this episode, I sit with ADHD creator Dani Donovan to unpack what “stuck” really feels like—and how we can move again.
I ask Dani to paint that frozen moment we all know: the mess is obvious, the guilt is loud, and your body still won’t start. From there, we explore the real reasons ADHD brains stall, why it’s not laziness, and how to choose the right tool for what you’re actually feeling—stuck, overwhelmed, unmotivated, disorganized, or discouraged.
You’ll discover the simple shifts Dani uses to spark action, the low-pressure systems that help when motivation is flat, and the one thing to do first when your mind has “20 tabs open.” I also get Dani to share how she rebuilds self-trust when the inner critic won’t let up—and why a regular planner can set us up to quit.
Want to know the mantra that gets her moving, the playful kitchen routine that cleans itself, and the accountability pact that finally kept dishes out of the sink? I reveal all that and more—without turning your day into another rigid system.
Check the show notes for links to Dani’s work and The Anti-Planner.
About the Guest
Dani Donovan is an ADHD educator, illustrator, and the creator of the viral ADHD comics and bestselling book The Anti-Planner: How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don’t Feel Like It. Her work makes executive function struggles feel seen—and solvable.
Timestamps
0:02 – Welcome back + why “stuck” isn’t laziness
0:22 – Dani’s ADHD paralysis comic: what it looks like vs. how it feels
3:02 – Procrastination from the outside vs. what’s really going on
3:22 – Anti-Planner “stuck” tools and a speed-run approach
7:10 – Music-as-timer: making progress in one album
9:12 – The quiet mantra Dani uses to start anyway
12:05 – Why having “100 systems” can work better than one
14:15 – Task breakdowns that don’t create more overwhelm
21:18 – “20 tabs open” brain: what to do first
25:13 – Unmotivated ≠ lazy: the real blockers
30:14 – Chess while cleaning: a playful momentum builder
41:47 – One simple system you can start today
46:07 – Discouraged: shame, expectations, and feeling like a failure
49:10 – Rebuilding self-trust with small wins
51:06 – Forgive yourself, then make a plan you’ll keep
62:00 – Why traditional planners fail neurodivergent brains
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Dani's links
@DaniDonovan - Instagram
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