Description
When Neurodivergence, Gaslighting, and Emotional Abuse Overlap
What happens when being wired differently gets used against you? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Wanda Kaye to talk about why emotional abuse can hit neurodivergent people in ways that are confusing, isolating, and painfully hard to name.
We talk about gaslighting, trauma bonds, pattern recognition, and why leaving an abusive dynamic can feel harder than it looks from the outside. Dr. Wanda also shares how family culture, ADHD, autism, and the need for predictability can all shape what abuse feels like from the inside. More importantly, I explore with her what healing can look like when your mind understands the harm, but your body still feels stuck.
If you've ever questioned your reality, blamed yourself, or wondered why it takes so long to feel safe again, this conversation will give you language for experiences many people carry in silence. I also get into why community matters so much, and what early recovery can look like before life feels steady again.
About the Guest
Dr. Wanda is a clinician, professor, and the founder of Holisticated Health. Her work focuses on narcissistic emotional abuse recovery, somatic healing, and support for neurodivergent people working through complex relationship trauma.
Timestamps
- 0:40 - I welcome Dr. Wanda and set up the conversation
- 3:49 - Why neurodivergent traits can be targeted in abusive relationships
- 10:36 - When emotional abuse becomes something deeper and distorting
- 17:42 - The long road to realizing something isn’t right
- 21:53 - Why gaslighting and trauma bonds can hit so hard
- 37:33 - Why these patterns can take longer to break
- 43:09 - When logic isn’t enough and the body still holds the pain
- 48:33 - How the NEAR program came together
- 52:40 - What Dr. Wanda wants stuck listeners to hear right now
Dr Wanda's Site
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