Power and Purpose Podcast

#154: Pretty Hands, Hard Punches: The Truth About Boundaries, Safety & Personal Power with Elicia Ybarra

47min | 04/06/2026|

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Episode 154: Pretty Hands, Hard Punches: The Truth About Boundaries, Safety & Personal Power with Elicia YbarraIn this episode, you’ll learn how boundaries act as your first line of self-defense and why most people overlook the early signs of manipulation and control. You’ll also learn how to trust your instincts, recognize red flags, and build self-worth that protects you before anything becomes physical.In this episode, we talk about:How abusers slowly push boundaries and create isolationThe early red flags most people overlookWhy boundaries are the foundation of true safetyHow to stop gaslighting yourself in uncomfortable momentsThe 5 questions to build your ideal selfWhy self-defense is emotional, mental, and physicalHow to trust your intuition and act on itWhat to do if you are currently in an unsafe situationTimestamps:00:00 Episode Preview00:39 How Abuse Begins: The Slow Erosion of Boundaries01:19 Introduction & Meet Elicia Ybarra02:04 Who Are You and Who Are You Not03:35 Elicia’s Story: Martial Arts, Trauma & Turning Point05:48 Abuse in Power Structures & Why It’s Not Talked About09:15 Recognizing Abuse Across Different Communities10:03 Red Flags & Patterns of Behavior to Watch For13:21 Why We Gaslight Ourselves & Ignore Discomfort14:49 The 5 Questions to Build Your Ideal Self17:43 Teaching Boundaries (Even to Children)19:48 Setting Boundaries with Family & Breaking Cycles21:11 Why People Resist Your Boundaries24:16 Boundaries During Separation, Divorce & Identity Shifts28:14 Creating Clear Boundaries Before You Need Them30:24 Women, Conditioning & Overgiving32:09 What Women’s Self-Defense Really Means33:50 Recognizing Danger Before It Becomes Physical36:25 Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships38:54 What to Do If You’re in an Unsafe Situation40:26 How to Leave Safely & Protect Yourself41:53 Why Community & Support Matter44:46 Self-Trust, Intuition & Final Wisdom45:36 Book Recommendation: The Gift of FearConnect with Elicia Ybarra:Website: https://prettyhandshardpunches.comInstagram: @prettyhandshardpunchesIf this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.This conversation creates awareness that can change lives.CONNECT WITH VANESSA SOUL: Website: https://vanessasoul.com/Sacredsoulenergetics📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaasoul🎧 Power & Purpose Podcast (All Apps): https://pod.link/1713095352📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@VanessaSoulWork📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.spiva.9/Book a Career & Business Astrology Session with Vanessa Soul: https://vanessasoul.com/Sacredsoulenergetics

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About Power and Purpose Podcast

Power and Purpose Podcast with Vanessa Soul

Most people are awake. Few are truly free.

This is the podcast for the ones who refuse to choose between their depth and their ambition. The ones doing the real work... dismantling subconscious conditioning, rebuilding identity from the inside out, and creating a life that actually matches who they are becoming.

Over 160 episodes deep. No filler. No performance. No surface level conversations.

Every week we go into the places most people avoid....shadow work, nervous system healing, conscious business, plant medicine, emotional alchemy, sovereignty, and the astrology that maps it all together. With guests who have walked through the fire and come out transformed, and solo episodes that give you the tools, the timing, and the truth to navigate your own evolution.

Hosted by Vanessa Soul — astrologer, intuitive healer, and purpose coach — this show sits at the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern ambition. Vanessa brings mastery in astrology, Human Design, IFS therapy, energetic work, and somatic healing to every conversation, helping conscious leaders and spiritual entrepreneurs step fully into their power, their purpose, and their next level.

This is not self help lite.

This is the conversation that changes you.

New episodes every week. Subscribe and come find your episode.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Power and Purpose Podcast

Power and Purpose Podcast with Vanessa Soul

Most people are awake. Few are truly free.

This is the podcast for the ones who refuse to choose between their depth and their ambition. The ones doing the real work... dismantling subconscious conditioning, rebuilding identity from the inside out, and creating a life that actually matches who they are becoming.

Over 160 episodes deep. No filler. No performance. No surface level conversations.

Every week we go into the places most people avoid....shadow work, nervous system healing, conscious business, plant medicine, emotional alchemy, sovereignty, and the astrology that maps it all together. With guests who have walked through the fire and come out transformed, and solo episodes that give you the tools, the timing, and the truth to navigate your own evolution.

Hosted by Vanessa Soul — astrologer, intuitive healer, and purpose coach — this show sits at the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern ambition. Vanessa brings mastery in astrology, Human Design, IFS therapy, energetic work, and somatic healing to every conversation, helping conscious leaders and spiritual entrepreneurs step fully into their power, their purpose, and their next level.

This is not self help lite.

This is the conversation that changes you.

New episodes every week. Subscribe and come find your episode.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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Episode 154: Pretty Hands, Hard Punches: The Truth About Boundaries, Safety & Personal Power with Elicia YbarraIn this episode, you’ll learn how boundaries act as your first line of self-defense and why most people overlook the early signs of manipulation and control. You’ll also learn how to trust your instincts, recognize red flags, and build self-worth that protects you before anything becomes physical.In this episode, we talk about:How abusers slowly push boundaries and create isolationThe early red flags most people overlookWhy boundaries are the foundation of true safetyHow to stop gaslighting yourself in uncomfortable momentsThe 5 questions to build your ideal selfWhy self-defense is emotional, mental, and physicalHow to trust your intuition and act on itWhat to do if you are currently in an unsafe situationTimestamps:00:00 Episode Preview00:39 How Abuse Begins: The Slow Erosion of Boundaries01:19 Introduction & Meet Elicia Ybarra02:04 Who Are You and Who Are You Not03:35 Elicia’s Story: Martial Arts, Trauma & Turning Point05:48 Abuse in Power Structures & Why It’s Not Talked About09:15 Recognizing Abuse Across Different Communities10:03 Red Flags & Patterns of Behavior to Watch For13:21 Why We Gaslight Ourselves & Ignore Discomfort14:49 The 5 Questions to Build Your Ideal Self17:43 Teaching Boundaries (Even to Children)19:48 Setting Boundaries with Family & Breaking Cycles21:11 Why People Resist Your Boundaries24:16 Boundaries During Separation, Divorce & Identity Shifts28:14 Creating Clear Boundaries Before You Need Them30:24 Women, Conditioning & Overgiving32:09 What Women’s Self-Defense Really Means33:50 Recognizing Danger Before It Becomes Physical36:25 Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships38:54 What to Do If You’re in an Unsafe Situation40:26 How to Leave Safely & Protect Yourself41:53 Why Community & Support Matter44:46 Self-Trust, Intuition & Final Wisdom45:36 Book Recommendation: The Gift of FearConnect with Elicia Ybarra:Website: https://prettyhandshardpunches.comInstagram: @prettyhandshardpunchesIf this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.This conversation creates awareness that can change lives.CONNECT WITH VANESSA SOUL: Website: https://vanessasoul.com/Sacredsoulenergetics📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaasoul🎧 Power & Purpose Podcast (All Apps): https://pod.link/1713095352📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@VanessaSoulWork📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.spiva.9/Book a Career & Business Astrology Session with Vanessa Soul: https://vanessasoul.com/Sacredsoulenergetics

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Power and Purpose Podcast

Power and Purpose Podcast with Vanessa Soul

Most people are awake. Few are truly free.

This is the podcast for the ones who refuse to choose between their depth and their ambition. The ones doing the real work... dismantling subconscious conditioning, rebuilding identity from the inside out, and creating a life that actually matches who they are becoming.

Over 160 episodes deep. No filler. No performance. No surface level conversations.

Every week we go into the places most people avoid....shadow work, nervous system healing, conscious business, plant medicine, emotional alchemy, sovereignty, and the astrology that maps it all together. With guests who have walked through the fire and come out transformed, and solo episodes that give you the tools, the timing, and the truth to navigate your own evolution.

Hosted by Vanessa Soul — astrologer, intuitive healer, and purpose coach — this show sits at the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern ambition. Vanessa brings mastery in astrology, Human Design, IFS therapy, energetic work, and somatic healing to every conversation, helping conscious leaders and spiritual entrepreneurs step fully into their power, their purpose, and their next level.

This is not self help lite.

This is the conversation that changes you.

New episodes every week. Subscribe and come find your episode.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Power and Purpose Podcast

Power and Purpose Podcast with Vanessa Soul

Most people are awake. Few are truly free.

This is the podcast for the ones who refuse to choose between their depth and their ambition. The ones doing the real work... dismantling subconscious conditioning, rebuilding identity from the inside out, and creating a life that actually matches who they are becoming.

Over 160 episodes deep. No filler. No performance. No surface level conversations.

Every week we go into the places most people avoid....shadow work, nervous system healing, conscious business, plant medicine, emotional alchemy, sovereignty, and the astrology that maps it all together. With guests who have walked through the fire and come out transformed, and solo episodes that give you the tools, the timing, and the truth to navigate your own evolution.

Hosted by Vanessa Soul — astrologer, intuitive healer, and purpose coach — this show sits at the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern ambition. Vanessa brings mastery in astrology, Human Design, IFS therapy, energetic work, and somatic healing to every conversation, helping conscious leaders and spiritual entrepreneurs step fully into their power, their purpose, and their next level.

This is not self help lite.

This is the conversation that changes you.

New episodes every week. Subscribe and come find your episode.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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