🌟 Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, Episode #218! 🌟 In this deeply moving and insightful episode, David and co-host Rachel dive into the raw and often overlooked struggles of divorce recovery with Cheryl Palmer, author of the groundbreaking book Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship. 📚✨ Cheryl shares her powerful story of navigating a toxic marriage, emotional abuse, and the journey to reclaiming her voice and identity. From enduring years of control, manipulation, and gaslighting to finding the strength to say, "Enough is enough," Cheryl's story is both heartbreaking and empowering. 💔➡️💪 We discuss: 🔥 The emotional toll of toxic relationships and how they erode your sense of self. 🔥 Acknowledging abuse even when it’s not physical—and why emotional abuse is just as damaging. 🔥 How Cheryl’s five-year-old daughter became her greatest motivation to leave and rebuild. 🔥 The importance of listening to your gut instincts and gathering evidence when preparing to exit. 🔥 Practical advice for setting boundaries and starting fresh after divorce. Cheryl also opens up about the inspiration behind her book title, Erased. In a particularly poignant moment, her young daughter noticed how Cheryl’s handprint—painted on their family home as a symbol of solidarity—had been painted over by her ex-husband, leaving only an empty outline. Her daughter's words, "It’s like he erased you," became a powerful metaphor for Cheryl's experience in the marriage and her drive to reclaim her sense of worth. 🖐️💙 This episode is packed with real talk, actionable advice, and plenty of lightbulb moments for anyone recovering from a toxic relationship or divorce. Whether you're struggling with guilt, navigating co-parenting, or simply trying to find yourself again, Cheryl’s insights and practical tools will remind you that you’re not alone—and that healing is possible. 🌈💖 💡 Key Takeaways from this Episode: Healing isn’t linear—it’s messy, emotional, and deeply personal. Emotional abuse can leave scars just as deep as physical abuse, but acknowledging it is the first step toward freedom. You don’t have to do this alone. Find your support system, whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or trusted friends. Rebuilding your life after divorce isn’t just about survival—it’s about thriving. ✨ Ready to take back your power and start your healing journey? ✨ Listen to Cheryl’s story and discover practical tips to move forward with strength and purpose. 📖 Grab a copy of Cheryl Palmer’s book, Erased: Exiting a Toxic Relationship, available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Goodreads! Amazon Link.... (https://a.co/d/h7lSsNs) 💬 We want to hear from you! Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship or struggled to rebuild after divorce? What part of Cheryl’s story resonated with you the most? Drop a comment below and let us know your thoughts. Let’s create a supportive community together! 🗨️❤️ Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" with your hosts, David and Rachel! 🎙️ In this illuminating episode, we discuss a vital aspect of divorce recovery for men over 40: the importance of setting boundaries. 💔 Going through a divorce can leave you feeling lost in a state of "limbo," where you may not know what to do or how to move forward. One of the most powerful tools you can have during this challenging time is the ability to set clear boundaries. 🛡️ Boundaries help you take control of your life and emotions. They allow you to define what is acceptable and what is not, which is essential for your mental and emotional well-being. In this episode, we dig into: ✔️ Why boundaries are crucial during and after a divorce. ✔️ How to identify areas in your life where setting boundaries is necessary. ✔️ The role boundaries play in protecting yourself from further hurt and disappointment. ✔️ Tips for communicating boundaries effectively to others, including ex-partners and family. We share personal stories and insights about navigating through the emotional turmoil that comes with divorce. 🌈 By learning to say "no" and putting your needs first, you reclaim your sense of self and pave the way for healing. Remember, it’s not selfish to prioritize your health; it’s essential for your recovery. 💪 💬 Join the Conversation! Have you struggled with setting boundaries during your divorce? We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Let’s support each other on this journey! 💬 👇 Don’t forget to like 👍, subscribe 🛎️, and share this episode with anyone who might benefit from it. Together, we can empower more men over 40 to heal, grow, and thrive after divorce. 💌 #DivorceRecovery #Boundaries #MenOver40 #EmotionalHealth #SelfCare #DontPickTheScabPodcast #HealingJourney Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

"🎙️ Welcome to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast' with your hosts, David and Rachel, This episode dives deep into the concept of 'Life Buoys' 🛟 – those essential tools, habits, and people that help you stay afloat during the stormy seas of divorce recovery. For men over 40, navigating life after divorce can feel overwhelming, but you're not alone, and there is a path forward. 🛟 What You'll Learn in This Episode: The importance of building and leaning on your village of support 👥. Why therapy (individual or group) can be a game-changer for healing 🧠. How journaling and reflection can help you track your progress 📓. The transformative power of vision boards 🎨 to manifest your goals. Emotional awareness 💔 and why it's crucial for self-growth. Practical steps to reclaim financial stability and independence 💰. The importance of trying new hobbies 🎸 and being open to new experiences. Self-compassion 💖 and patience as you navigate this new chapter. Divorce might feel like the end, but it can also be a powerful new beginning. By surrounding yourself with the right people, tools, and mindset, you can rebuild your life in a way that's richer and more fulfilling than ever before. 💬 Engage With Us: We want to hear from you! What are your 'life buoys' that have helped you recover after divorce? Share your thoughts, tips, and experiences in the comments below. Let’s build a supportive community for men over 40 navigating this journey together." Subscribe for more empowering content on divorce recovery, healing, and thriving after 40. Don't forget to like, comment, and share this episode with someone who might need it! 🔔✨ Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ We’re  your hosts, David and Rachel , and today we're diving deep into the world of self-care during divorce recovery. 💔 In this episode, we explore why self-care is not just important—it's essential! When going through a divorce, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning. 🌊 You might think that taking time for yourself is selfish, but let me tell you, it’s the opposite! Self-care is about reclaiming your life and prioritizing your well-being. We’ll share some hilarious and relatable stories, from the struggles of managing emotions to the importance of laughter and joy in the healing process. 😂 Whether it’s brushing your teeth or taking a break from social media, every little step counts! Join us as we discuss practical self-care tips, like making a playlist that resonates with your emotions, learning to say no, and even indulging in a little pampering. 🛁 Remember, you’re not broken; you’re just on a journey to become a new and improved version of yourself! 🌟 So, grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let’s get into it! And don’t forget to engage with us—comment below with your favorite self-care tips or share your own experiences! 💬 Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the Divorce Devil Podcast! 🎙️ Join your hosts, David and Rachel, in Episode 214, where we dive deep into the often-unspoken topic of "Limbo" in divorce recovery. Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of indecision about your marriage? You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore the various stages of limbo, from questioning whether to file for divorce to grappling with the emotional aftermath. We discuss the importance of understanding your own needs and how to weigh the pros and cons of your situation. 💡 Key Points We Cover: Recognizing when you’re in a state of limbo and how it affects your mental health. The significance of open communication and seeking professional help. How to assess what truly matters in your relationship and make empowered decisions. Divorce is a challenging journey, but it can also be a transformative experience. Tune in to learn how to navigate this complex emotional landscape and find clarity in your next steps. ✨ Join the Conversation: We want to hear from you! Have you experienced limbo in your divorce recovery? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below! Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more insights on divorce recovery and personal growth! 🌱 Call to Action: Encourage viewers to engage with the content by commenting on their experiences with limbo and what steps they found helpful in their recovery journey. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

David and Rachel, the hilarious and insightful co-hosts of The Divorce Devil Podcast, tackle the complex issue of Imposter Syndrome in this episode. With their signature mix of humor, raw honesty, and relatable anecdotes, they explore how imposter syndrome manifests during divorce recovery and how to overcome it. Here's a quick breakdown: Key Highlights of Episode 213 🎙️ What is Imposter Syndrome? Defined as a persistent feeling of inadequacy despite your achievements. Common during divorce recovery: self-doubt, perfectionism, comparison, and emotional toll. 💔 🌪️ David and Rachel’s Personal Struggles: Rachel shared how imposter syndrome hit her hard during her divorce—feeling like she failed as a mom when her child went to their father’s for the weekend. David reflected on how imposter syndrome can make you feel like you're "faking" your recovery, even when you're making progress. 🧠 Healing Tips from David and Rachel: "Clarify, Choose, Create" Framework (based on the book Own Your Greatness): Clarify: Identify your negative internal stories and their sources. Choose: Rewrite the narrative you tell yourself. Create: Build conditions for your best self to thrive. 🛠️ Practical Advice: Acknowledge your emotions. Celebrate small wins (e.g., getting out of bed, eating healthy). Be honest with yourself and others about your struggles. Surround yourself with your "dream team" of supportive friends and family. 😂 On Forgiveness & Moving On: Rachel hilariously admits, “I didn’t want to forgive anyone. F*** forgiveness!” but later realized that forgiveness is for you, not them. The duo emphasizes the importance of letting go of the past to heal and thrive. 🛑 The Protective Wall Problem: David and Rachel discuss how people often build emotional walls during divorce to protect themselves, but these walls can prevent true healing. Rachel shares how podcasting forced her to confront issues she didn’t even know she had, joking, “Talking about it made me realize I had mommy issues. Great!” 🎙️ Call to Action: Follow & Review the Podcast! 🚨 Hey Divorced Devils (or soon-to-be!) 🚨 Are you over 40 and navigating the messy, hilarious, and sometimes heartbreaking world of divorce recovery? David and Rachel are here to keep you laughing and learning through it all. 👉 Here’s what to do next: Follow ‘The Divorce Devil Podcast’ wherever you get your podcasts (Spotify, Apple, Google). 🎧 Leave a 5-Star Review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ if they’ve ever made you laugh, cry, or say, “Holy crap, they get me!” Share with a Friend who’s going through it too. Misery loves company, but healing loves podcasts. 💌 Follow now and join the Divorce Devil family—you’ll laugh, cry, and maybe even heal a little along the way. David and Rachel are all about keeping it real, hilarious, and raw. Their podcast is a must-follow for anyone navigating life after divorce. Go ahead—click follow, leave that 5-star review, and let them know you’re listening! 🎙️✨ Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Divorce Devil," a dynamic and candid podcast series hosted by David and Rachel. In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the concept of "Gray Healing" — a phase of emotional recovery that isn’t black and white but exists in the gray areas of growth. Together, David and Rachel bring humor, raw honesty, and personal experiences to explore the complexities of post-divorce life, relationships, and self-discovery. In this episode, Rachel and David share their perspectives on navigating the ups and downs of healing, drawing on real-life analogies like fishing tackle boxes and speedbumps in a parking lot. They tackle the challenges of breaking old patterns, maintaining boundaries, and confronting outdated self-perceptions. Through this heartfelt discussion, the cohosts emphasize the importance of being actively present in one’s healing journey. They also address the role of faith — whether in oneself, in the unseen, or in the process of life itself — as a pivotal element of recovery. With relatable anecdotes, candid humor, and valuable insights, "Divorce Devil" creates a safe space for listeners to reflect on their own healing journeys and find comfort in knowing they’re not alone. Get ready for an engaging conversation that blends laughter, wisdom, and practical advice as David and Rachel remind us that healing is a messy yet beautiful process. Top 10 Important Points from the Episode: Gray Healing Concept: Healing isn't linear; it involves setbacks and progress in a "gray" area of recovery. Old Patterns vs. New Growth: Recognizing and breaking old, unproductive patterns is essential. Faith in Healing: Faith, whether in oneself or the process, is crucial in moving forward. Tools for Healing: Metaphors like tackle boxes highlight the importance of using the right emotional tools for different situations. Parent-Child Dynamics: Evolving parenting approaches while setting boundaries is vital in post-divorce life. Friendships Post-Divorce: Relationships with friends may shift, but they remain important to the healing process. Navigating New Relationships: Handling baggage and avoiding past mistakes in new relationships is a common challenge. Personal Growth: Healing involves self-awareness and embracing new roles and responsibilities. Humor in Healing: Humor can be a powerful tool to cope with tough situations. 10. Emotional Honesty: Open communication, even with oneself, is key to navigating emotional turbulence. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the "Divorce Devil Podcast," where hosts Rachel and David delve into the complex world of post-divorce recovery for individuals over 40. In this episode, they tackle the often-taboo subject of the "hoe phase," a time when newly single individuals explore their sexual freedom and redefine their identities after a major life change. Rachel and David share personal anecdotes, insights, and advice on navigating this transformative period. They emphasize the importance of communication, self-exploration, and safety in dating. Tune in as they discuss the emotional rollercoaster of dating post-divorce, the challenges of rekindling confidence, and how to embrace this new chapter with humor and honesty. Whether you're contemplating your own hoe phase or just want to understand it better, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of love and relationships after divorce. Top Ten Interview Points: Definition and significance of the "hoe phase" in post-divorce recovery. Personal experiences and anecdotes related to dating after divorce. The role of communication in establishing expectations with potential partners. The importance of self-exploration and experimenting with new experiences. Strategies for rebuilding confidence after a long-term relationship. Navigating the emotional challenges associated with dating again. The impact of societal perceptions on individuals exploring their sexuality post-divorce. Tips for ensuring safety while dating and meeting new people. The difference in perspectives on sex and relationships between genders. Encouragement for listeners to embrace their journey and let go of judgment. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In Episode 210 of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David dive into the concept of the "Ghosts of Divorce"—the lingering emotional baggage, fears, and unresolved issues that often haunt us post-divorce. These "ghosts" can manifest in new relationships, friendships, and even in our self-perception. The hosts discuss their personal experiences with these ghosts, from fears of loneliness to feelings of inadequacy, and explore how these challenges resurface in everyday life. Through humor and honesty, Rachel and David reflect on how these ghosts shape their growth and relationships. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting healthy boundaries, and practicing self-compassion to navigate these emotional hurdles. The episode highlights that while the ghosts of divorce may revisit, they lose their power as we heal, grow, and learn from past experiences. Listeners are encouraged to confront their own ghosts by recognizing patterns, leaning into self-awareness, and prioritizing their well-being. Whether you’re dealing with fears of failure, struggles with trust, or navigating difficult friendships, this episode offers relatable insights and practical advice wrapped in laughter and real talk. Top 10 Topics from Episode 210: What are the "Ghosts of Divorce" and how do they manifest? Overcoming the fear of loneliness post-divorce. Setting boundaries in new relationships and friendships. Recognizing red flags in "ships" (relationships, friendships, etc.). How past patterns influence current connections. The impact of unresolved self-worth issues on new relationships. The importance of self-care and prioritizing personal growth. Communicating effectively to heal wounds and build trust. Learning from past mistakes and avoiding repetitive cycles. Finding humor and strength in the healing process. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this transformative episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of rebuilding life after divorce. With humor, insight, and raw vulnerability, they explore the impact of self-sabotage, the importance of mindset, and the power of setting realistic goals during recovery. This episode provides a roadmap for listeners to identify personal barriers, embrace vulnerability, and create a new, empowering narrative for their lives. Key topics include recognizing the patterns of self-sabotage, the role of mindfulness and self-care practices, and the necessity of building a strong support system. Rachel and David share relatable anecdotes, practical advice, and real-life tools for overcoming guilt, fear of vulnerability, and outdated beliefs about masculinity and emotional expression. Listeners learn how to replace negative self-talk with empowering affirmations, set boundaries, and prioritize self-care to reclaim their happiness. Whether it's journaling, discovering new hobbies, or seeking professional support, this episode emphasizes actionable steps to help individuals navigate the emotional rollercoaster of divorce recovery. Packed with humor, poignant stories, and heartfelt advice, this episode is a must-listen for anyone over 40 striving to rebuild their life after divorce. Tune in to learn how to let go of the past, embrace your authentic self, and chart a course to a brighter future. Keywords: divorce recovery, self-sabotage, self-care, healing, mindset, over 40, new narrative. Top 10 Points from the Podcast: Understanding Self-Sabotage: Recognizing how fear, guilt, or outdated beliefs may prevent healing and progress post-divorce. The Role of Mindset: Cultivating a positive mindset is essential for embracing joy and moving forward. The Power of Vulnerability: Allowing oneself to be vulnerable can be a strength and a pivotal element in the recovery process. Building a Support System: Surrounding yourself with supportive friends, family, or groups is crucial to staying grounded. Setting Realistic Goals: Small, actionable steps pave the way to long-term success and happiness. Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices: Prioritizing "you time" through journaling, hobbies, or other therapeutic activities is essential. Professional Support: Therapy or counseling can provide tools to address deep-seated issues and promote healing. Creating a New Narrative: Rewriting your story with confidence, authenticity, and optimism for the future. Challenging Negative Self-Talk: Replacing harmful inner dialogue with empowering affirmations to foster growth. Breaking Patterns: Recognizing and avoiding repeating past mistakes in relationships or personal behavior. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.