So, I took my spare time to create the new eBook ‘It’s OK to Hate Your Ex’.  It took a while to complete it.  It’s way different than people think it would be.  Rachel and I discuss the book and a bunch of other things - as we do!  Discussions of long term relationships count too, fertilizer stinks, give yourself grace to heal, people do better and ‘you is beautiful and you is smart’.  There is so much to this podcast.  Basically we want people to do better.  And there is a free gift to the first 15 listeners that jump on it after the podcast! And most people love free.Subjects of:How did you table your hate?You is healedMy care column is narrowNeed to balance the soilWeed can be family members tooForgive yourself firstI think I’m a catCaddyshackFind your peaceRiding the storm outParts of the cogs of divorce recoveryBe gone before someone drops a house on youGiving no f*cks or just being cynicalAARPHate can be subjectiveFIRST 15 LISTENERS!! (https://stan.store/DivorceDevil)Amazon Link  ‘It Ok to Hate Your Ex’ (https://amzn.to/4aiVZh7) Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

This is the most impromptu podcast we have tried as of yet.  We both came to the studio with no plans of a topic and pulled one out of the sky.  And, it turned out pretty well.  Guild and blame can derail your divorce recovery in many ways.  Conversations of self-retrospection, guilt can enable you,  it’s ok to take some blame and be wrong sometimes, and take a pause.  This episode is kinda all over the place but you can see where we landed in the end - and that’s all that matters.   Thanks for your patience with this one.  It was interesting!Topics of:SagenessDidn’t sh*t my pants todayHow to train your dragon in a Nissan RogueF*ck them peopleBlogging is like journalingYour divorce does not define youWallowing in a cesspool of guiltAre you the problem?Do you have a bad picker?Sperm thinkerFlabby DubbyGlycemic IndexIt’s just a fart! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

One of our favorite subjects… the X factor.   In our divorce recoveries we have both experienced different X factors.  We do agree that you have some sort of compass in order to start healing, and that X factor(s) are them.  What is yours??Discussions of:Finding your funnyCo-parenting dogsCan’t let her winPulled the trigger twiceLooking down the roadWhat is pulling you out of the ditchSharing your storyFigure out who you are as a wholeSerial datingRealize you will have steps backwardsEither I change or the world changes around meSetting boundariesThe best version of myselfVersions of the truthWhy worry?They are a great person, just not my personDon’t vacation in the pain‘K’ textInsanity Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

It’s another fun Divorce Devil Podcast.  Our subject today is the interesting wins and fails in dating during divorce recovery.  So many things to cover here.  We feel we only scratched the surface.  Discussions of you are never really ready to date, phone a friend, there is always some baggage, Rachel swiped her thumbs raw and you need to go through the sh*t relationships.  Basically, Rachel and I agree that probably the first few times you get out there - it’s a sh*tshow.  So, please go into them with realistic expectations.  It turns out better that way.  And, in all seriousness, take care of you in the process.  Self-care is not overrated!Interesting Points:Special code with the bartenderDon’t talk about your divorce on your first datesGo play pickleballWatch out for the narcissistCut before you get cutRed flag collectorDon’t get a projectYou can’t fix peopleLittle divorce liesDon’t date for marriageNot looking for ringsNo judgment or shamingHow they treat the waitstaff Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, we are finally at the last episode of the 10 part series of feeling better in your divorce recovery.  It is so important to celebrate you every now and then.  You deserve it!  Taking time for you is paramount.  Your value is intrinsic even though you take one step forward and two steps back sometimes.  We hope that the 10 part series was of some value to you and your journey in your divorce recovery.  We strive to provide more value to assist you in your divorce recovery destination in the months to come!  Discussions of:The trash takes itself outFix the curtains pleaseThroat punch ThursdayNo fun or laughter at firstVision board or goalsForgiveness and celebrating you?Celebrate each tiny step or small winPreventive care podcastYour have to be selfishFighting lightsabers in the darkPositive collateral damageChoose yourself Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

We are almost done with the 10 part feeling better in your divorce recovery.  Today is day 9 and it’s all about owning your divorce story.  We feel you should not be ashamed of your divorced status and we provide tips not to.  Your divorce story becomes less important as time goes on.  We also discuss how the perception of our own divorce stories has changed over time and how it has become less of a defining factor in our lives while stressing the importance of setting boundaries and giving 100% in relationships. We encourage listeners to write their own divorce stories and explore different versions of their experiences. Ultimately, you need to love and embrace your own story, no matter how it may have unfolded.Important points:Let themInsanityAnger eyesNo matter what your story is, love your story and love yourselfMy friend is almost my twinRoles vs boundariesDivorce is a rebirth not a deathMake your happyLearn the gameBorn a poor black childBe preparedKiss my lips bitch lipsBe healedCommunication and then someChange the divorced box to healed Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Day 8 people - are you learning from your past?  We feel that it is so important to do just that.  You need to reflect on what your marriage has taught you (good or bad), don’t let the past define you and on your journal prompt…. What do you need to leave behind?  What version of your past do you tell people?  We agree that letting things go, eventually, is less of a burden, self-care is most important, be selfish and take care of you, control is a large issue in divorce recovery and you might need shoes in order to go to school.  Take heed and go get your happy and continue to heal.Discussions of:Fake it to make itDivorce taught Rachel to communicate betterNegative self-talkkiss my grits!Great or grape nutsSerial datingTake back your powerInsecurities, doubts and confidenceMilk takes on the taste of the cerealDon’t fix it just listenDo it on your own timeWe are not a family anymoreEnvy Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the financial changes that occur after divorce. They share personal experiences and insights on topics such as living a comfortable life, making financial decisions as a couple, and considering the future. They also discuss the challenges of surviving financially after divorce, the importance of financial awareness and responsibility, and the emotional aspect of financial changes. The episode concludes with advice on financial independence, finding stability, and preparing for the unexpected.They have to apologize for the sound quality up front. Not being in the studio because of a raging snow storm in our fair city…. we couldn’t go to the studio, so just listen to the content.  Sorry!  Takeaways and subjects:Financial changes are inevitable after divorce, and it is important to be prepared and informedBoth partners should take responsibility for their own finances and have open discussions about financial decisionsSurviving financially after divorce can be challenging, but it is possible to rebuild and find stabilityFinancial support and understanding are crucial during the transition from separation to divorceIt is important to educate oneself about finances and seek help when neededIt’s a comfort spaceDon’t be afraid to ask for helpThe cheating decreeIt felt like a foreign landEvening the scalesWe need to learn financial responsibility soonerA rental feeWomen pay alimony tooThe money and the mindsetDivorce is not free! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, we discuss the topics of anger and embracing change in the context of divorce recovery.  While exploring the positive aspects of anger and how it can be used as fuel for personal growth, we also discuss the concept of venting anger in a controlled environment, such as a smash room. Rachel and I emphasize the importance of processing anger in a healthy way and not projecting it onto others, especially children. We also discuss the challenges of navigating change and the need to embrace it in order to move forward. The episode concludes with a reminder to find humor and laughter in difficult times and to fully embrace the journey of healing and change.Takeaways and Important Points:Anger is the cousin to hatePush the anger to the side when you have your kidsBend like a reed in the windSetting boundaries when angryChange can be welcoming and a positive thingShovel past the sh!tNothing like a good dental rinse!Football and divorce recovery Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the importance of establishing and expanding your support tribe during and after divorce. They talk about the different roles people play in your village and the need for both positive and negative influences. While emphasizing the importance of letting go of unhealthy friendships and evolving your village as you grow, they conclude the episode with a reminder to appreciate and express gratitude for your tribe.Takeaways and topics:Establishing a support tribe is crucial during and after divorceYour tribe can consist of friends, family, coworkers, and even new acquaintancesDifferent people in your tribe play different roles, from supportive friends to naysayersIt's important to let go of unhealthy friendships and surround yourself with positive influencesYour village will evolve and change as you grow, and that's okayExpress gratitude and appreciation for your tribeFriends can fire themselvesAre we in the same lanesRevisiting the 4 buckets of divorceYou need negative parts of you tribe to keep you groundedDwelves… dwarfs and elvesHold anger like a fartWho are you dwelves and court jester?Next… overcoming anger! Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.