Speaker #0Becoming is not just about how you look, it's also about your inner work. There will be some days where you will feel like you are not making progress. You have to go through your past, process some things and unlearn some behaviors. hello everyone my name is eve and welcome to the first podcast here we dive into personal development and becoming the best version of ourselves and today we are going to talk about what it actually means to become the best version of ourselves you know because we hear it everywhere everyone is talking about becoming um what is on youtube instagram tiktok everyone wants to become And the thing is, what I've realized is that a lot of people talk about becoming, but they are only centered on one thing, which is the appearance, right? When we look at the videos that people post about becoming, it's more about how to dress well, how to smell nice, how to speak well. Those things are crazy, but becoming goes beyond that. Honestly, becoming goes beyond that. So you need to look at other aspects if you want to have a bigger picture of it. I was like everyone else, focused on my activities. I just wanted to look nice, smell nice and all of those things until I realized that there was some inner work to do, right? I was anxious all the time. I had a real issue with anxiety and also my mental. mental health and all those things. So you see that becoming is not just about how you look. It's also about your inner world. There's a lot of things that is happening in your inner world. And you know that you are going through a lot of things. Anger issues, you don't have peace. Those things need to be worked on as well. If you want to be that woman, that man, You need to work on those things. This is not just about how you look. But the more you work on your inner self, the more your outward or your appearance will just be shining and glowing. That's just facts, right? So what you want to do is to start from yourself, your inner world. What is inside you that is hindering you from experiencing or live your life? the way you want to live because i'm sure that there's a lot of things that you are experiencing your life right now that you don't really like you know there are some issues that you have that you want to get rid of but you don't really know the work start from the inside out and never the control right so you have to be very very conscious about that today i realized that My work was more about my inner world. You know, I started to see some change. I started to see some change. So this is it. And some of the things that I noticed and some of the things that I've learned in this journey, I'm still evolving, right? I'm still evolving. I'm still, I'm growing. And I'm also on my journey. But some of the things that I've learned so far, the first thing is that becoming is a process. As I mentioned earlier, becoming is a process. Becoming is a process. Don't think that you are going to do it within a month, within a week. No, it doesn't work like that. You need to take this time, be patient with yourself because this is your whole work. This is your whole work. And you have to be patient with yourself. Be patient with your friends, your family. Don't try to put your burden on them because you want to become. Everyone else must follow you on your journey. Look, this is a journey. And you have to just be patient and allow yourself to live in that. There will be some days where you will feel like you are not making progress. It happens. Yes, but that doesn't mean that you have to be sad or whatever. This is a journey and it takes time. Okay, so give yourself time and you will make it. The second thing that I learned about becoming is that it's like a rebirth. because when you decide to and back on this journey, you will start to unlearn some things. You start to process some things. You have to go through your past, process some things, and unlearn some behaviors that maybe you have since you were a kid. You have to unlearn some things and learn new things. So this is like a rebirth. This is like a rebirth. So these are some of the things that I've learned. on this journey and that really helps me and honestly i feel like um we need to have a different perspective of becoming right and what i the analogy that i had in my mind is that you must see yourself as a building project right whatever it is whether it's a house a company but a building project why Okay. Because when we think about the building project, this is something that happens externally but also internally. So when you see yourself as a building project, you see yourself as someone who needs to be working on them externally but also internally. So you need to be patient with yourself. You need to understand that there will be some days that things won't go. the way you want them to go. There will be some days you'll be happy, there will be some days you'll be sad, but that doesn't define you. And another thing that I want you to understand is that don't let the circumstances change you or define you. You are on a journey, and in a journey there is all kinds of circumstances, but you should not let those circumstances define you. You are not defined by the circumstances. You are defined by your effort, your progress, whatever that you are doing, keep doing it. That what defines you, okay? So we are at the end of this episode. Thank you for listening and don't forget, take care of your heart and your mind and keep going. See you in the next episode. Bye.