💔 Divorce Recovery for Men Over 40: Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst's Expert Insights || DPTSP #138 || David M. Webb

47min | 01/31/2026

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"Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast. In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a seasoned psychologist, insightful author, and advocate for men’s emotional healing. Together, we dive deep into the challenges men over 40 face during divorce recovery and how they can rediscover themselves in the process.

💔 Divorce can feel like being cut in half, but you’re not alone. Dr. Vanderhorst sheds light on how society trains men from a young age to suppress emotions, making it harder to deal with the pain of loss and rejection. She explains how this emotional disconnection can lead to resentment, loneliness, and struggles in rebuilding confidence. But there’s hope! With the right tools, support, and mindset, men can reconnect with their authentic selves and thrive after divorce.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why men often suppress emotions and how this impacts divorce recovery.
The importance of self-care 🧘‍♂️ and practical ways to start prioritizing yourself.
How to handle adversarial co-parenting while keeping your kids’ well-being in focus.
The role of therapy and men's groups in unlocking emotional growth and resilience.
Actionable strategies for setting boundaries with your ex to maintain your sanity.
Tips for managing loneliness and rebuilding confidence after a painful breakup.

Key Takeaways from Dr. Vanderhorst:

🔹 Men thrive in connection. Whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or friendships, building meaningful relationships is essential to healing.

🔹 Resentment is like quicksand. You can’t escape it alone, but with help, you can move forward stronger than ever.

🔹 Your emotions are your superpower. By reconnecting with your feelings, you can rediscover your identity and rebuild your life.

🎯 Are you struggling with divorce or feeling stuck in resentment? Start by taking small steps today. Whether it’s reaching out to a therapist, exploring a hobby from childhood, or simply being present with your emotions, every move forward counts.

💡 Call to Action:

👉 What’s your biggest struggle in divorce recovery? Let me know in the comments below! Your story could help others feel less alone. Also, don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this video with someone who might need it. 💪

📲 Looking for more resources from Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst? Visit her website at www.drvanderhorst.com for expert advice and guidance tailored to men over 40.

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About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

"Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast. In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a seasoned psychologist, insightful author, and advocate for men’s emotional healing. Together, we dive deep into the challenges men over 40 face during divorce recovery and how they can rediscover themselves in the process.

💔 Divorce can feel like being cut in half, but you’re not alone. Dr. Vanderhorst sheds light on how society trains men from a young age to suppress emotions, making it harder to deal with the pain of loss and rejection. She explains how this emotional disconnection can lead to resentment, loneliness, and struggles in rebuilding confidence. But there’s hope! With the right tools, support, and mindset, men can reconnect with their authentic selves and thrive after divorce.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why men often suppress emotions and how this impacts divorce recovery.
The importance of self-care 🧘‍♂️ and practical ways to start prioritizing yourself.
How to handle adversarial co-parenting while keeping your kids’ well-being in focus.
The role of therapy and men's groups in unlocking emotional growth and resilience.
Actionable strategies for setting boundaries with your ex to maintain your sanity.
Tips for managing loneliness and rebuilding confidence after a painful breakup.

Key Takeaways from Dr. Vanderhorst:

🔹 Men thrive in connection. Whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or friendships, building meaningful relationships is essential to healing.

🔹 Resentment is like quicksand. You can’t escape it alone, but with help, you can move forward stronger than ever.

🔹 Your emotions are your superpower. By reconnecting with your feelings, you can rediscover your identity and rebuild your life.

🎯 Are you struggling with divorce or feeling stuck in resentment? Start by taking small steps today. Whether it’s reaching out to a therapist, exploring a hobby from childhood, or simply being present with your emotions, every move forward counts.

💡 Call to Action:

👉 What’s your biggest struggle in divorce recovery? Let me know in the comments below! Your story could help others feel less alone. Also, don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this video with someone who might need it. 💪

📲 Looking for more resources from Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst? Visit her website at www.drvanderhorst.com for expert advice and guidance tailored to men over 40.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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