Frankenstein Therapy in Men Over 40 Divorce Recovery - Lair Torrent, L.M.F.T. || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast || David M. Webb

25min | 03/01/2024

Description

Welcome to the show, Lair Torrent. He is a marriage and family therapist and author of the book THE PRACTICE OF LOVE. His superpower is uniting eastern-based mindfulness practices and western clinical models and creating a unique approach to healing. It does get a little crazy and fun towards the end of the podcast, but it lends itself to the fact we are all human and a little laughter is good for the soul. Besides, who doesn’t want the big piece of chicken?

Mindfulness.. Taking a pause

Stop a habit, choose your words

Paying attention on purpose to you thoughts and feelings

Healing is not linear

We are good at algebra

Divorce is not a failure

Face it head on

Grief and suffering dealing with is go through

I’m not stopping to ask for asking directions

I’m a grown-assed man

Men are starting to ask for help more

Everybody has a therapist in New York

Uniting eastern and western models

Selling snake oil

The sacred pause, mindfulness

All therapy starts with mindfulness

The Frankenstein Therapist

Practice of love

Conveyance of love becomes problematic

Recognize the self that shows up for love

Know what story we are telling

You got to own your stuff

Are you mindful of your part?

Personal responsibility

Eskimos have 100 words for snow

We have one word for love

Chemical love, the real you, dopamine

Me centered to we centered thinking

You can love others and not love yourself

All roads mostly lead back to mom and dad

Four core questions?

Were you loved ?

Were you safe ?

Were you enough ?

Did you matter ?

Finding the core wound

Practice self-compassion

Triggered by the gravity of the moment

Who in you shows up?

The practice of the narrative

Unconditional Love - Chris Rock

Children, women and dogs

Find a bigger cave

Overcompensation

Discover More

Website

https://www.lairtorrent.com/

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/lairtorrentholistictherapist/

TikTok

https://www.tiktok.com/@lairtorrent

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Welcome to the show, Lair Torrent. He is a marriage and family therapist and author of the book THE PRACTICE OF LOVE. His superpower is uniting eastern-based mindfulness practices and western clinical models and creating a unique approach to healing. It does get a little crazy and fun towards the end of the podcast, but it lends itself to the fact we are all human and a little laughter is good for the soul. Besides, who doesn’t want the big piece of chicken?

Mindfulness.. Taking a pause

Stop a habit, choose your words

Paying attention on purpose to you thoughts and feelings

Healing is not linear

We are good at algebra

Divorce is not a failure

Face it head on

Grief and suffering dealing with is go through

I’m not stopping to ask for asking directions

I’m a grown-assed man

Men are starting to ask for help more

Everybody has a therapist in New York

Uniting eastern and western models

Selling snake oil

The sacred pause, mindfulness

All therapy starts with mindfulness

The Frankenstein Therapist

Practice of love

Conveyance of love becomes problematic

Recognize the self that shows up for love

Know what story we are telling

You got to own your stuff

Are you mindful of your part?

Personal responsibility

Eskimos have 100 words for snow

We have one word for love

Chemical love, the real you, dopamine

Me centered to we centered thinking

You can love others and not love yourself

All roads mostly lead back to mom and dad

Four core questions?

Were you loved ?

Were you safe ?

Were you enough ?

Did you matter ?

Finding the core wound

Practice self-compassion

Triggered by the gravity of the moment

Who in you shows up?

The practice of the narrative

Unconditional Love - Chris Rock

Children, women and dogs

Find a bigger cave

Overcompensation

Discover More

Website

https://www.lairtorrent.com/

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/lairtorrentholistictherapist/

TikTok

https://www.tiktok.com/@lairtorrent

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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