Understanding Generational Trauma / How to Heal After Divorce: Dr. Ernest Ellender, PhD. || DPTSP #105

35min | 06/29/2025

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Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Ernest Ellender, a clinical psychologist and martial arts expert, to explore the profound journey of healing after divorce for men over 40. 💔

Divorce can be a devastating experience, especially for men who may feel lost and overwhelmed. Dr. Ellender shares his unique insights on how to reclaim your life and thrive after such a significant life change. With a PhD in clinical psychology and a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, he combines the discipline of martial arts with trauma-informed care to empower men to overcome their struggles. 🥋✨

In this enlightening conversation, we delve into:

Understanding Generational Trauma: Discover how past family dynamics can impact your relationships today and learn strategies to break the cycle. 🌪️
Practical Healing Techniques: Dr. Ellender shares his 20 essential rules for healing from painful childhoods and navigating the emotional challenges of divorce. 📚
The Role of Martial Arts: Learn how martial arts principles can foster resilience, confidence, and emotional stability during tough times. 💪
Building Healthy Relationships: We discuss the importance of developing critical skills for successful relationships and how to avoid repeating past mistakes. 🔑

This episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to take charge of your healing journey. Whether you're currently navigating a divorce or simply seeking personal growth, this conversation is for you! 🌟

Join us as we uncover the path to recovery and empowerment. Remember, healing is not just about moving on; it's about thriving and becoming the best version of yourself.

👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell! If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment below sharing your thoughts or experiences. Your engagement helps us reach more men who need support on their journey to recovery. Let's build a community of strength and resilience together! 💬❤️

ALL THINGS ERNEST ELLENDER, PhD.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Ernest Ellender, a clinical psychologist and martial arts expert, to explore the profound journey of healing after divorce for men over 40. 💔

Divorce can be a devastating experience, especially for men who may feel lost and overwhelmed. Dr. Ellender shares his unique insights on how to reclaim your life and thrive after such a significant life change. With a PhD in clinical psychology and a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, he combines the discipline of martial arts with trauma-informed care to empower men to overcome their struggles. 🥋✨

In this enlightening conversation, we delve into:

Understanding Generational Trauma: Discover how past family dynamics can impact your relationships today and learn strategies to break the cycle. 🌪️
Practical Healing Techniques: Dr. Ellender shares his 20 essential rules for healing from painful childhoods and navigating the emotional challenges of divorce. 📚
The Role of Martial Arts: Learn how martial arts principles can foster resilience, confidence, and emotional stability during tough times. 💪
Building Healthy Relationships: We discuss the importance of developing critical skills for successful relationships and how to avoid repeating past mistakes. 🔑

This episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to take charge of your healing journey. Whether you're currently navigating a divorce or simply seeking personal growth, this conversation is for you! 🌟

Join us as we uncover the path to recovery and empowerment. Remember, healing is not just about moving on; it's about thriving and becoming the best version of yourself.

👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell! If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment below sharing your thoughts or experiences. Your engagement helps us reach more men who need support on their journey to recovery. Let's build a community of strength and resilience together! 💬❤️

ALL THINGS ERNEST ELLENDER, PhD.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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