Men and Post-Divorce: Unlocking Sexual Energy After 40: Conquer Performance Anxiety & Thrive 🚀🔥 || DPTSP #113 || David M. Webb

30min | 07/29/2025

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Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast—the place where post-divorce scars turn into your greatest superpower! I’m David, your host, and today we’re tackling a subject that’s rarely talked about but absolutely life-changing for men over 40: sexual energy transformation.

Whether you’re newly single or still healing from divorce, this episode is for YOU. Our special guest, Matt Cook, has coached over 80,000 men worldwide to reclaim their confidence, rebuild intimacy, and channel raw sexual energy into EVERY area of life—not just the bedroom! 😎✨

Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

How to overcome performance anxiety and “stage fright” when dating or starting a new sexual relationship after divorce.
The powerful mindset shift: Why you don’t “control” your penis—and why that’s actually liberating!
Matt’s #1 bedroom hack: You don’t need an erection to enjoy and give pleasure—plus, why this can transform your confidence overnight.
Why focusing on your own pleasure (instead of “performing” for her) is the secret to stress-free, deeply connected sex.
The porn trap: How high-speed video porn hijacks your sexual energy and what you can do to detox, rewire your brain, and feel truly alive again.
The science of oxytocin: How “old school” romance, eye contact, and non-sexual touch can rebuild your libido, banish anxiety, and spark real intimacy—even if you’ve struggled for years.
Why scheduling sex (instead of waiting for “spontaneity”) is the relationship hack men over 40 need to keep love and passion alive.
Dating advice for men over 40: Why meeting women in person beats dating apps, and Matt’s simple steps to confidently connect, flirt, and build attraction—no games, just real results.
The “shock absorber” mindset: How to stay grounded, masculine, and emotionally strong (and why this is so attractive to women).
The truth about mismatched libido, menopause, and what REALLY keeps intimacy alive long-term.

If you’re ready to banish shame, ditch performance anxiety, and step into a new era of confidence, healing, and abundance after divorce—this episode will give you the roadmap. Matt’s practical, no-BS advice will help you laugh, learn, and take action.

matt

👇 What’s one question or struggle you have about dating, sex, or confidence after 40? Drop it in the comments—I read every one and love connecting with you guys!

If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with a fellow man who needs it. Your comeback starts now! 🚀

Matt Cook Website

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast—the place where post-divorce scars turn into your greatest superpower! I’m David, your host, and today we’re tackling a subject that’s rarely talked about but absolutely life-changing for men over 40: sexual energy transformation.

Whether you’re newly single or still healing from divorce, this episode is for YOU. Our special guest, Matt Cook, has coached over 80,000 men worldwide to reclaim their confidence, rebuild intimacy, and channel raw sexual energy into EVERY area of life—not just the bedroom! 😎✨

Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

How to overcome performance anxiety and “stage fright” when dating or starting a new sexual relationship after divorce.
The powerful mindset shift: Why you don’t “control” your penis—and why that’s actually liberating!
Matt’s #1 bedroom hack: You don’t need an erection to enjoy and give pleasure—plus, why this can transform your confidence overnight.
Why focusing on your own pleasure (instead of “performing” for her) is the secret to stress-free, deeply connected sex.
The porn trap: How high-speed video porn hijacks your sexual energy and what you can do to detox, rewire your brain, and feel truly alive again.
The science of oxytocin: How “old school” romance, eye contact, and non-sexual touch can rebuild your libido, banish anxiety, and spark real intimacy—even if you’ve struggled for years.
Why scheduling sex (instead of waiting for “spontaneity”) is the relationship hack men over 40 need to keep love and passion alive.
Dating advice for men over 40: Why meeting women in person beats dating apps, and Matt’s simple steps to confidently connect, flirt, and build attraction—no games, just real results.
The “shock absorber” mindset: How to stay grounded, masculine, and emotionally strong (and why this is so attractive to women).
The truth about mismatched libido, menopause, and what REALLY keeps intimacy alive long-term.

If you’re ready to banish shame, ditch performance anxiety, and step into a new era of confidence, healing, and abundance after divorce—this episode will give you the roadmap. Matt’s practical, no-BS advice will help you laugh, learn, and take action.

matt

👇 What’s one question or struggle you have about dating, sex, or confidence after 40? Drop it in the comments—I read every one and love connecting with you guys!

If this episode helped you, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with a fellow man who needs it. Your comeback starts now! 🚀

Matt Cook Website

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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