Men vs. Women: The Real Differences in Divorce Recovery for Successful Men | Lori Heller Interview || DPTSP #126 || David

24min | 11/02/2025

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Are you a man over 40 feeling lost after an unexpected divorce? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this eye-opening episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with certified divorce coach Lori Heller, whose personal story of heartbreak, confusion, and ultimate empowerment will inspire anyone struggling to move forward after the end of a long marriage.

Laurie was blindsided by divorce after 25 years as a stay-at-home mom. Facing a future she never planned for, she learned not only how to survive—but to thrive. Today, she guides both men and women through the toughest transitions of their lives, helping them avoid costly mistakes, rebuild confidence, and discover a new sense of purpose.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

The biggest emotional differences (and surprising similarities!) between men and women during divorce 😱
Why men often bottle up anger—and how to process it in a healthy way
The crucial role of self-care for dads and why it’s not selfish to put on your own “oxygen mask” first
How to build your tribe and find support when friends and family don’t get it
The most common mistakes men make (from trying to control what happens at the ex’s house to rushing into new relationships)
Practical strategies for co-parenting—even if things are contentious
How to move from just surviving to actually thriving in your new life 🚀

Laurie shares actionable tips for managing finances, rebuilding your sense of self, and letting go of the drama so you can focus on building a better future—for you and your kids.

Whether you’re newly separated or still struggling years after divorce, this conversation is packed with hope, wisdom, and real-world advice you can use right now.

About the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast:

Hosted by David, this show is dedicated to helping men over 40 recover from divorce, reclaim their confidence, and create a life worth living again. Subscribe for weekly conversations with experts, real stories from men who’ve been through it, and practical tools to help you heal.

👇 What’s been your biggest challenge after divorce? Drop your story or question in the comments! Let’s build a supportive community together. If you found this helpful, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs it.

Lori's Website

#DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #CoParenting #DivorceCoach #DontPickTheScab

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Are you a man over 40 feeling lost after an unexpected divorce? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this eye-opening episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with certified divorce coach Lori Heller, whose personal story of heartbreak, confusion, and ultimate empowerment will inspire anyone struggling to move forward after the end of a long marriage.

Laurie was blindsided by divorce after 25 years as a stay-at-home mom. Facing a future she never planned for, she learned not only how to survive—but to thrive. Today, she guides both men and women through the toughest transitions of their lives, helping them avoid costly mistakes, rebuild confidence, and discover a new sense of purpose.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

The biggest emotional differences (and surprising similarities!) between men and women during divorce 😱
Why men often bottle up anger—and how to process it in a healthy way
The crucial role of self-care for dads and why it’s not selfish to put on your own “oxygen mask” first
How to build your tribe and find support when friends and family don’t get it
The most common mistakes men make (from trying to control what happens at the ex’s house to rushing into new relationships)
Practical strategies for co-parenting—even if things are contentious
How to move from just surviving to actually thriving in your new life 🚀

Laurie shares actionable tips for managing finances, rebuilding your sense of self, and letting go of the drama so you can focus on building a better future—for you and your kids.

Whether you’re newly separated or still struggling years after divorce, this conversation is packed with hope, wisdom, and real-world advice you can use right now.

About the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast:

Hosted by David, this show is dedicated to helping men over 40 recover from divorce, reclaim their confidence, and create a life worth living again. Subscribe for weekly conversations with experts, real stories from men who’ve been through it, and practical tools to help you heal.

👇 What’s been your biggest challenge after divorce? Drop your story or question in the comments! Let’s build a supportive community together. If you found this helpful, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs it.

Lori's Website

#DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #CoParenting #DivorceCoach #DontPickTheScab

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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