No More Victim Mindset: How Men Over 40 Can Thrive After Divorce 🚀 Raul Pereyra || Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast #132

29min | 12/24/2025

Description

Are you a man over 40 struggling to bounce back after divorce? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab" Podcast, host David sits down with acclaimed divorce recovery expert and bestselling author Raul T. Pereyra for a powerful, honest conversation about turning heartbreak into growth. 💥

Raul brings more than 15 years of experience helping men over 40 rise from the emotional chaos of divorce and reclaim their confidence, identity, and life purpose. Whether it’s dealing with loneliness, rebuilding self-trust, or figuring out how to date again (without using your ex’s Netflix password!), Raul has practical strategies and real-world wisdom to help you thrive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why reframing your divorce story is the FIRST step to recovery (hint: it didn’t happen to you, it happened for you)
The 80/20 principle for men’s healing: focusing on the 20% that truly matters and letting go of the baggage 🧳
How to identify and break free from toxic patterns and old belief systems
Setting boundaries that actually work—and empower you
The emotional reset: why real change starts with feeling, not just thinking
Key differences in emotional recovery for men vs. women (and why men often get stuck)
How to rediscover self-love, self-respect, and self-compassion—“the three cousins” most men ignore
Measuring your progress the right way: why chasing confidence or happiness is a trap, and what to do instead
Turning your “bag” of pain into a jetpack for your next chapter! 🚀

PLUS: Raul shares a FREE 5-day “Tiny Challenge” for men ready to start their transformation. Want a roadmap to your new life? Head to https://www.rtplearning.com/tiny and join Raul’s exclusive challenge—no strings attached.

Whether you’re newly divorced or still struggling years later, this episode is packed with hope, humor, and actionable advice. Grab your coffee, get comfortable, and let’s dive into real recovery for real men.

👉 What’s your biggest challenge after divorce? Drop it in the comments below! Have you tried reframing your story or setting new boundaries? Let’s support each other—your experience could help another man heal.

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell for more episodes on thriving after divorce.

Raul's Main Website

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Are you a man over 40 struggling to bounce back after divorce? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab" Podcast, host David sits down with acclaimed divorce recovery expert and bestselling author Raul T. Pereyra for a powerful, honest conversation about turning heartbreak into growth. 💥

Raul brings more than 15 years of experience helping men over 40 rise from the emotional chaos of divorce and reclaim their confidence, identity, and life purpose. Whether it’s dealing with loneliness, rebuilding self-trust, or figuring out how to date again (without using your ex’s Netflix password!), Raul has practical strategies and real-world wisdom to help you thrive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why reframing your divorce story is the FIRST step to recovery (hint: it didn’t happen to you, it happened for you)
The 80/20 principle for men’s healing: focusing on the 20% that truly matters and letting go of the baggage 🧳
How to identify and break free from toxic patterns and old belief systems
Setting boundaries that actually work—and empower you
The emotional reset: why real change starts with feeling, not just thinking
Key differences in emotional recovery for men vs. women (and why men often get stuck)
How to rediscover self-love, self-respect, and self-compassion—“the three cousins” most men ignore
Measuring your progress the right way: why chasing confidence or happiness is a trap, and what to do instead
Turning your “bag” of pain into a jetpack for your next chapter! 🚀

PLUS: Raul shares a FREE 5-day “Tiny Challenge” for men ready to start their transformation. Want a roadmap to your new life? Head to https://www.rtplearning.com/tiny and join Raul’s exclusive challenge—no strings attached.

Whether you’re newly divorced or still struggling years later, this episode is packed with hope, humor, and actionable advice. Grab your coffee, get comfortable, and let’s dive into real recovery for real men.

👉 What’s your biggest challenge after divorce? Drop it in the comments below! Have you tried reframing your story or setting new boundaries? Let’s support each other—your experience could help another man heal.

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell for more episodes on thriving after divorce.

Raul's Main Website

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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