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• Speaker #0

  There are so many examples of relationships that we see in the public, whether it is on television and movies, but is that reality? Speaking of reality, reality shows. In today's episode, we're going to talk about who and what is leading your relationship. Is it truth? And where do we get that from? Make sure you stay tuned because we're going to be walking through something brand new that helps you get the answers you need in your own relationship. Find out what it is coming up right now. Well, hey there, welcome to the Home David Podcast. You are in for a treat today. Come on in. We are the Turners. You've found your home for faithful content that will help you, that will propel you and boost you to communicate in your... relationship. If you get anything from today's episode, any small nugget, hit that thumbs up, hit that like and subscribe, help us reach more people just like you. And for those of you listening on any of our amazing podcast platforms, thank you so much. Watching on YouTube, you're like, we're in the same clothes. It's because we're on our annual getaway.

• Speaker #1

  We are on our annual getaway, one of my favorite times of the year.

• Speaker #0

  It is. It's her birthday. Happy birthday. It's also a big day. Big day?

• Speaker #1

  Big day.

• Speaker #0

  Big day.

• Speaker #1

  For our...

• Speaker #0

  Well, I was trying to celebrate you first.

• Speaker #1

  Okay, okay, okay. I'll take it.

• Speaker #0

  So, yeah, we get a chance to just chill out. Yes,

• Speaker #1

  absolutely. Regroup, kind of refresh, get ready for the next year and reset our vision and get ready to walk it out.

• Speaker #0

  Indeed. All right.

• Speaker #1

  You're good.

• Speaker #0

  There's something in one of your hairs is like floating around.

• Speaker #1

  Cause you're hitting me.

• Speaker #0

  Cause I'm hitting. Exactly. If you were with us on last week, do you know that we just revealed that our relationship vision planner is finally here. It's exciting.

• Speaker #1

  Yes.

• Speaker #0

  Because we prayed, we planned it and pursued it. And now it's something that's been in your heart is now in my hand. It's pretty cool.

• Speaker #1

  Awesome.

• Speaker #0

  How'd you feel?

• Speaker #1

  Amazing. And I'm so excited that we can actually show people. And actually, we revealed it last week. And so just showing you the beautiful product and even more so what's inside, which is what really, really matters. And so I'm super excited to actually have it, not just for myself, but to be able to give it to couples that can use it and really fulfill their purpose that God's ordained.

• Speaker #0

  That is the goal. That's the key is why we did it. So today we want to talk about... Who or what is leading your relationship, leading your marriage so much? Is it social media that's leading us? Is it extended family that's leading? That happens a lot of times.

• Speaker #1

  A lot of times we get just our vision, like you mentioned last week as well. We kind of get those, what it's supposed to be like from a lot of outside.

• Speaker #0

  Right. This is real. like the influences of the world. I had a friend of mine who, um, just became a dad. So they're married. They're probably a year in their marriage. And he just became a father a few months ago. And he was saying he had no idea because his wife was in labor and delivered for eight hours. And I was like, that's pretty good. He was like, I had no idea because he's only seen birthing on television. He thought it'd be 15 minutes.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah. In and out, right?

• Speaker #0

  So, you know, just the things that we get from the world is not reality. And so we get into our, we try to set sometimes our expectations based upon friends or their marriage or what we see, you know, the, the, the real couple and just, Oh,

• Speaker #1

  and we assume that's right. Right. Like he just assumed that was right. Why would he ever question that? Because that's just what people were telling him or he was seeing. Right. So we, we don't even think to question things sometimes. And so where did our ideas or expectations come, um, for what we expect marriage to be or what we hope to be. marriage to be like, right? So that can come from a lot of different places. Where it should be coming from for Christian couples is the Bible, the Word of God, and that is what we base our planner on, everything.

• Speaker #0

  Yeah, the Scripture says in Proverbs 9 and verse 1 that wisdom has built her house. It's our foundational Scripture that we stand on is that wisdom builds the house. And so wisdom comes from the Word of God. And when we look in the Word of God, we can find how we're supposed to build our house, how I'm supposed to function as a husband, you as a wife, as a kid, Ephesians 5 and 6. It really walks us through how to do those things and how to fulfill our roles the way God originally intended for it. And when we do that, when we kind of submit ourselves and say, okay. Maybe I'm not that smart enough. Let me kind of do it God's way. We will see some good results. And the thing will start being put into place because he knows all things.

• Speaker #1

  Amen. And I feel like some people might say, well, Terrell, that sounds nice.

• Speaker #0

  Okay.

• Speaker #1

  That's the idealistic way. Yeah. But let's talk about real marriages right now.

• Speaker #0

  Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  Who is leading or what is leading my marriage right now? And it's not, I know a lot of women would say it's not what I would hope it to be. Right. I want my husband to step in and lead more. I want him to be the one that's bringing up these topics. Or it could be vice versa. I'm not sure. Maybe, maybe the husband is saying, I want my wife to come alongside my vision and support me and support, support what I have in my mind for our life. Right. And so in reality, that might not be the ideal situation that people are really experiencing yet. Right. And so, um, Where do we go from there? If it's not how we want it to be right now, what can we do? What's our next step in getting it where you said it should be, which is what we want. We are desiring that, but it's just not quite there yet.

• Speaker #0

  Honestly, and I'm sitting here thinking, and I was like, what scriptures am I going through? And I could go there. Honestly, we were looking for something like that. We were looking for something that would help us get unified. We were looking for something that was biblically based, that was firmly rooted in the word of God, and we couldn't find it. I was looking for maybe devotional. You plant a lot. And I couldn't find anything. And when we couldn't, God laid it upon our heart to create it. So for those of you who are like, I really wish my husband would lead more or I wish he would ask me more questions, I wish he would go deeper with me. You may not know what that looks like or what it sounds like.

• Speaker #1

  100%.

• Speaker #0

  So this relationship vision planner. is the answer. It is the tool that bridges that gap, that brings couples together to have conversations. It doesn't seem like you got to do this and I need you to lead me. You can literally take this and say, sweetheart, you know, I'd love for us to kind of walk through this together. And, you know, what do you think about this? And kind of maybe let him take some leadership on it or if he's still kind of bashful. He'll warm up because it brings you guys together. You have to have conversations about your goals. You have the conversation about the core values. What's important to you and what holds things dear? Those things are important because it literally determines every decision that you make.

• Speaker #1

  That's right. So this is actually a tool that you can use and to present to your husband or your husband, to the wife. Or both of you find it together to use to walk it out. Now, I want to kind of go through some initial thoughts.

• Speaker #0

  Okay.

• Speaker #1

  Because if I presented this to you and you're like, that's a lot of work, right? That's a lot going on. That looks like a lot of writing.

• Speaker #0

  A lot of writing. A lot of reading. A lot of doing. Most guys are like tap out. And but I probably would say or it might be you may say, here we go again. Here's what you got for me now.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  And I believe that those attitudes are going to change. Amen. And I pray with you and stand with you that he is going to turn, but we got to hook him first.

• Speaker #1

  That's right.

• Speaker #0

  And so this is going to bring that participation. I probably would say, okay, I'll do it with you just because either I want you to be quiet, don't nag me, or okay, I'll give it a shot. Right. And then once you dive in, you'll find, oh. this is actually pretty good.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah. And I do want to encourage you to start small with this, right? This is not something, you know, preface it. This is not like, let's sit down and get this done in the weekend, right? This is a year long process. So you can start small. And again, we've laid it all out for you. So the great benefit of this is you're not having to do all that work and finding the scriptures and finding the questions and finding exercises and finding the date nights and kind of... getting a plan, like a monthly layout for you all to work on, to do the check-in together. Pause.

• Speaker #0

  So, because you're spitting out stuff, you mentioned check-in and you mentioned date night. These are things that we found core to our marriage that we won't allow anything else to lead us, right? We have a check-in so that we make sure that we're being led by the Father.

• Speaker #1

  Amen.

• Speaker #0

  And that he is leading us and that whatever we're doing is lining up with what we believe he has for us in this season.

• Speaker #1

  Absolutely.

• Speaker #0

  Check in. What was what you said?

• Speaker #1

  Well, I was just trying to make the point of don't overwhelm him. No, yeah,

• Speaker #0

  don't overwhelm him. But I also wanted to say, you know. This is full of resources that's really going to bring a relationship, a marriage into alignment with the word of God. Amen. You may have, again, you may not have known where to start or you may not have known, I want a successful marriage. I don't know what that looks like. I want to lead as a husband. I don't know what that looks like. I had a good friend of mine approach me and he said, hey, can you help me? Can you kind of talk to me about devotions? Yeah. and leading my family, what does that look like? You know, I don't know. And so what a great question. What a great opportunity for I want to lead.

• Speaker #1

  Right.

• Speaker #0

  But I have no idea. Am I doing a praise and worship service?

• Speaker #1

  Yeah, exactly. What you don't know, you don't know. And so that's my point of we have all compiled, we've compiled all this in one resource for you to be able to just. Literally take it and start somewhere. Because start small. Start with him. Start with that check-in. Start with these initial pages to just start talking about your relationship.

• Speaker #0

  How would you approach me if I was football and just wasn't kind of engaged with you and you felt like I needed to lead more? How would you approach me with this big page of coil bound? What is that?

• Speaker #1

  Well, I would just sit down again, find a great time.

• Speaker #0

  What's your relationship vision?

• Speaker #1

  A great time to just have a conversation, even if it's a date night or a time where you're not distracted by other things, right? I'm not going to come on Sunday at four o'clock in the middle of the games. And I would just say, I found this great resource that is really catering to Christian couples to really grow their relationship and actually reach their potential that God has designed their marriage to be. And so it has steps for us to walk through. I'd love for us to just sit down and maybe start with the first one together. Is there a good time where we could sit and do that? It won't take two hours. It's just going to take a quick time to really start thinking about it because I do think it's really important that we know where we're going and that you know I'm with you and I'm aligned with you and I'm here to support you and I'm here for us to just walk out life together.

• Speaker #0

  There's a turn, right? The turn is I'm with you. It's not, I want you to lead. You need to be doing this. The turn, the wording is I want you to know, I want you to lead because I'm with you and you are leading. And I want you to know that I am here to support you and we're going to walk this together.

• Speaker #1

  Absolutely. You know, you're showing that support, that love and respect to him and respect while also Kind of giving him the resource that he might not even know exists or know how to find is the main point. He doesn't know how to find this. It's not that he's going to be completely against it necessarily, but just that little nudge. And maybe he will take it and be like, you know what? Like literally I'm just showing you one page spread. You know, I'm not asking you to do this whole thing right this second. I think that'll start the initial part and you can come together.

• Speaker #0

  No, that was so good. Like he might even know where to find it.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  Because I wouldn't.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  And, you know, I don't have planners like put up on my social.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  He's got dude perfect. And, you know, the, you know, his favorite football team in college stuff on his, on his feed.

• Speaker #1

  The algorithm is not targeting him for this planner.

• Speaker #0

  Right.

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  So good point. Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  So if you, if you as the wife find this and you will have a chance to look through it yourself to kind of know what to expect, I think that would help me. Um, as a wife to kind of know, okay, what can I, I present to my husband, let's go ahead and walk this out together.

• Speaker #0

  Yeah.

• Speaker #1

  So that we put all together for you. So you don't have to come up with those ideas and take all that time to do it. It's already laid out for you. Beautiful pages that you can work through again to pray at planet and pursue it and go dive in, dive in deeper.

• Speaker #0

  I like that too. I was here again, here, sit here thinking about, you mentioned. Maybe not knowing where to start. As an example, I really want my husband to lead in prayer. He might not know what that looks like, might not know how to pray, which we do have five powerful prayers for you. FYI, wink, wink. O'Havencompany.com slash five prayers. That's a free resource where we give you five prayers to kind of pray for your relationship. But I could literally, you could say, sweetie, let's just say, for instance, I'm going to give you a little, I'm going to give you all a little sneak peek. Oh,

• Speaker #1

  sneak peek.

• Speaker #0

  Hopefully don't, don't, don't be mad at me. Okay. So this particular topic is on connection and we give you a scripture and it says, my beloved is mine and I am his. Um, song of Solomon two and 16. And then there's going to be a, uh, some questions about, it's going to talk about a little devotional about what connection is, how it relates to the scripture and matters,

• Speaker #1

  why it matters in your, okay. Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  Talk to me. Come on. All right. And then again, based on the prayer planet, pursue it framework. There's a prayer part. And then we give you a prayer as a sample. Pretty good to say, you know, sweetie, would you like to lead us in this prayer?

• Speaker #1

  Yeah.

• Speaker #0

  Right. And so, He's going to take the lead and he's going to pray for you guys. It's already written down there for you. You're like, you know what? I want my own prayer. There's a space for you to write your own prayer. And we believe that he will take the initiative and say, you know what? I'm going to write a prayer for us.

• Speaker #1

  Yes.

• Speaker #0

  Great date night, 15 minutes in and out done. Right. Or it's just ways, connection points that you guys can start talking spiritually about your relationship. because you know That's where everything flows. We get that spirit connection, right? Everything that's going to align that when we start talking and coming together and praying, I promise you it's the way God designed it. Goals are happening. Then you'll start realizing dreams are coming to pass. Goals are coming to pass. Kids are starting to get more seared. They're being more obedient because that spiritual part of our lives is coming together and being solid.

• Speaker #1

  Amen. Amen. And so that is a tool that you can help. to lead in your vision for your marriage.

• Speaker #0

  Did I give too much away? No,

• Speaker #1

  I love it. I love that the listener is going to sneak peek. So if you want even more sneak peeks, you need to, well, now it's available. You can actually just go straight to our, do we want to tell them all that? Yeah,

• Speaker #0

  because the Kickstarter right now, it just went live.

• Speaker #1

  Yes.

• Speaker #0

  And so the Kickstarter is, we are looking for people who believe in this and want to be the first adopters. Yes. Hey, we want to be founding haveners. I don't know another word to say.

• Speaker #1

  Yes.

• Speaker #0

  I'm just rambling. We're doing this live. But we want to be one of the first people to get our hands on this. Yes. We have an exclusive Kickstarter price.

• Speaker #1

  We do. We have exclusive.

• Speaker #0

  It will never be the price again as soon as we meet our goal because we believe we're going to meet our goal. Amen.

• Speaker #1

  Amen. Amen.

• Speaker #0

  So help us meet our goal. And go to our Kickstarter.

• Speaker #1

  Yes, we'll put the link in, right? You'll put the link in. Links will be in the bio. Looks in the description. You can go to Kickstarter and it'll lay all the details out for you. It's a great place to kind of go dive in a little bit deeper. And there's different reward tiers. You can go ahead and support this vision. You can get a planner at this point. And we might even have some fun extras out there for you. There's some fun extras. For the Kickstarter. So you have to check that out. It's very important that you check it out before it ends. So you have to get to it. As soon as possible.

• Speaker #0

  It's more than just a planner. Again, it is a tool. It's like a devotional and a planner had a baby and it came together. This is it. It's not like something you'll find in Target. It doesn't exist. It's what's trademarked because it didn't exist. And so it's the only tool that's designed to help couples communicate, help them move from chaos to clarity, help you align on your goals and achieve the God given purpose for your life. This is what you've been looking for. It is beautiful. Congrats to you, my boo-boo, for coming together with this. It's got the coil bound. I don't know all the details, but it's not cheap, right? So when you make the investment, you will be glad. You're going to love having this in your hand because it really is a beautiful, luxurious product. And it's not something that is just going to tear up and be done in three days.

• Speaker #1

  That's right. High quality.

• Speaker #0

  It's high quality.

• Speaker #1

  So go grab it to support your relationship. Share it, please share it with everybody, anybody, you know, to get the word out, because the whole reason we did this is to help other couples. So share it, share it, share it, please direct everyone to our Kickstarter so we can get it going, get it moving and get those planners out there and get people actually doing it.

• Speaker #0

  That's right. I cannot wait. I'm so excited. I can't wait to hear what God does through you, through his planner. I can't wait to hear the testimonies. I'm so excited because it's part of. our dream and plan that God would use us to bless others like yourself. So with that, let me pray for you a blessing over your life. Father, I pray for those who are watching on YouTube, those who are listening on the podcast platforms. I speak a blessing over them. Those who may have been experiencing chaos, and even as Jennifer described, like I want my husband to be more of a lead. I want him to step in. I want my wife to support me more. just those Dreams and tennies in their heart, I pray that you give them, first of all, peace and then the patience to trust in you and trust your promise for their lives. May they speak the promise and not the problem and help them have the patience and the faith to trust in you to bring it to pass. We thank you for them. May your blessings be upon them and their families. In Jesus' name, amen. Thank you so much for listening. We appreciate you guys. Again, if you've got anything. Hit that like. Hit that subscribe. Any questions, put in the comments. We'll reply. And we will see you next week. Remember, we said earlier about Pros Night 1.

• Speaker #1

  Wisdom builds the house.