Roy Biancalana – How to Heal Your Past and Attract Healthy Love

30min | 09/02/2025

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Welcome to Mature Allure. Have you ever felt like your love life was more about luck than intention? In this episode, I’m joined by Roy Biancalana, a nationally recognized relationship coach, best-selling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love podcast. With over fifteen years of experience, Roy helps singles uncover the inner barriers that keep them from experiencing healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationships.

We dive into Roy’s personal journey—from heartbreak and midlife crisis to transformation and finding love—and how that led him to create his Relationship Bootcamp. Roy shares why being in "relationship shape" matters more than dating tips or luck, and how doing the inner work can change the trajectory of your love life at any age.

You’ll also hear us explore:

The difference between a dating coach and a relationship coach—and why it matters.
Why working through your past is essential to creating real intimacy.
How to reframe the idea of being “single by choice” and whether it comes from empowerment or fear.
The seven “relationship muscles” Roy teaches to strengthen your ability to connect authentically.

This conversation is both eye-opening and encouraging, especially for women over 40 navigating today’s dating landscape. If you’ve been wondering why you keep running into the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you start asking the “quantum questions” that lead to real change.

Key Takeaways:

Lasting love begins with inner work—not luck, timing, or finding the “right” person.
Unresolved past pain can sabotage new relationships unless we consciously heal and open our hearts again.
Being in “relationship shape” is about emotional fitness—working on your truth, feelings, and authenticity so you’re ready when love shows up.

Connect with Roy:

Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy

Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love

Download his FREE eBook: https://mailchi.mp/3a4c571a4bba/relationship-bootcamp

Connect with Sherri:

Website: https://matureallure.net/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure

Instagram: @mature.allure

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Mature Allure

At Mature Allure, we believe that age is not a limitation but a celebration of life's unique experiences and perspectives. Our goal is to inspire women over 40 to embrace the beauty, wisdom, and empowerment that comes with age. We share knowledge that encourages healthy aging and self-discovery. Our podcast and blog feature incredible individuals with diverse skills, experiences, stories, and viewpoints, all sharing their journeys and insights; encouraging women to look forward to aging, not fear it.

People who listen to the Mature Allure podcast come for conversations, insight, and community. We inspire women to love themselves at every stage of life and break free from the constraints of ageism. A go-to source for the celebration of life's journey, we're here to help you tap into your "Mature Allure."

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Mature Allure

At Mature Allure, we believe that age is not a limitation but a celebration of life's unique experiences and perspectives. Our goal is to inspire women over 40 to embrace the beauty, wisdom, and empowerment that comes with age. We share knowledge that encourages healthy aging and self-discovery. Our podcast and blog feature incredible individuals with diverse skills, experiences, stories, and viewpoints, all sharing their journeys and insights; encouraging women to look forward to aging, not fear it.

People who listen to the Mature Allure podcast come for conversations, insight, and community. We inspire women to love themselves at every stage of life and break free from the constraints of ageism. A go-to source for the celebration of life's journey, we're here to help you tap into your "Mature Allure."

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Welcome to Mature Allure. Have you ever felt like your love life was more about luck than intention? In this episode, I’m joined by Roy Biancalana, a nationally recognized relationship coach, best-selling author, and host of the Attracting Lasting Love podcast. With over fifteen years of experience, Roy helps singles uncover the inner barriers that keep them from experiencing healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationships.

We dive into Roy’s personal journey—from heartbreak and midlife crisis to transformation and finding love—and how that led him to create his Relationship Bootcamp. Roy shares why being in "relationship shape" matters more than dating tips or luck, and how doing the inner work can change the trajectory of your love life at any age.

You’ll also hear us explore:

The difference between a dating coach and a relationship coach—and why it matters.
Why working through your past is essential to creating real intimacy.
How to reframe the idea of being “single by choice” and whether it comes from empowerment or fear.
The seven “relationship muscles” Roy teaches to strengthen your ability to connect authentically.

This conversation is both eye-opening and encouraging, especially for women over 40 navigating today’s dating landscape. If you’ve been wondering why you keep running into the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you start asking the “quantum questions” that lead to real change.

Key Takeaways:

Lasting love begins with inner work—not luck, timing, or finding the “right” person.
Unresolved past pain can sabotage new relationships unless we consciously heal and open our hearts again.
Being in “relationship shape” is about emotional fitness—working on your truth, feelings, and authenticity so you’re ready when love shows up.

Connect with Roy:

Website: http://coachingwithroy.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/coachingwithroy

Podcast: The Attracting Lasting Love

Download his FREE eBook: https://mailchi.mp/3a4c571a4bba/relationship-bootcamp

Connect with Sherri:

Website: https://matureallure.net/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/4matureallure/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mature.allure

Instagram: @mature.allure

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Mature Allure

At Mature Allure, we believe that age is not a limitation but a celebration of life's unique experiences and perspectives. Our goal is to inspire women over 40 to embrace the beauty, wisdom, and empowerment that comes with age. We share knowledge that encourages healthy aging and self-discovery. Our podcast and blog feature incredible individuals with diverse skills, experiences, stories, and viewpoints, all sharing their journeys and insights; encouraging women to look forward to aging, not fear it.

People who listen to the Mature Allure podcast come for conversations, insight, and community. We inspire women to love themselves at every stage of life and break free from the constraints of ageism. A go-to source for the celebration of life's journey, we're here to help you tap into your "Mature Allure."

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About Mature Allure

At Mature Allure, we believe that age is not a limitation but a celebration of life's unique experiences and perspectives. Our goal is to inspire women over 40 to embrace the beauty, wisdom, and empowerment that comes with age. We share knowledge that encourages healthy aging and self-discovery. Our podcast and blog feature incredible individuals with diverse skills, experiences, stories, and viewpoints, all sharing their journeys and insights; encouraging women to look forward to aging, not fear it.

People who listen to the Mature Allure podcast come for conversations, insight, and community. We inspire women to love themselves at every stage of life and break free from the constraints of ageism. A go-to source for the celebration of life's journey, we're here to help you tap into your "Mature Allure."

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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