Description
In this deeply honest and eye-opening episode of Mature Allure, Sherri O. sits down with Rick Manabat, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and EMDR-trained clinician, to unpack the complex and often misunderstood world of porn addiction and sexual compulsivity.
At the heart of this conversation is one powerful truth: it’s not just about the behavior—it’s about the story underneath it.
Rick shares how shame plays a central role in addiction, often shaping how people see themselves, relate to others, and cope with unresolved emotional pain. Through real-life examples and clinical insight, he explains how compulsive sexual behaviors are often attempts to heal or recreate past experiences—what therapists call trauma reenactment.
Together, Sherri and Rick explore how early exposure to pornography, childhood trauma, and deeply rooted beliefs like “I am unworthy” or “I am a burden” can influence behavior well into adulthood.
This conversation also offers clarity and compassion for partners navigating betrayal, helping them understand the emotional dynamics at play while emphasizing the importance of boundaries, honesty, and healing.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
The difference between guilt and shame—and why shame is more destructive
How sexual compulsivity is often connected to unresolved trauma
Why addiction is less about the behavior and more about the underlying story
How shame distorts communication and relationships
The role of secrecy and why honesty is critical in recovery
How pornography rewires the brain—and how it can be rewired back
What healthy recovery actually looks like beyond “just stopping”
Why community and connection are essential to healing
Guidance for partners navigating betrayal and rebuilding trust
The first courageous step toward healing: telling someone
A Powerful Reminder:
Addiction thrives in secrecy—but healing begins with truth, connection, and a willingness to face the deeper story.
Contact Information for Rick Manabat
Rick Manabat, CSAT
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist | EMDR-Trained Clinician
Practice: Numa Therapeutic Services
Locations: Chicago, IL & Colorado Springs, CO
Website: https://numatherapy.com (recommended to confirm exact URL if needed)
Services: Trauma therapy, sex addiction recovery, couples therapy, partner support
Learn more about Sherri O.:
Website: https://matureallure.net/
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Instagram: @mature.allure
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