$40+ & Divorced? 💔 Healing ISN'T Linear (Here's Why That's OK!) 💯 || DD225 \ David and Rachel cover$

The Divorce Devil Podcast

40+ & Divorced? 💔 Healing ISN'T Linear (Here's Why That's OK!) 💯 || DD225 \ David and Rachel

40min | 07/12/2025|

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Hey everyone, and welcome back to the Divorce Devil Podcast! 👋 If you'reover 40 navigating the wild world of divorce recovery, you're in the right place. I'm David, and with me as always is my amazing co-host, Rachel, and today we are diving deep into something super important that no one talks about: The nonlinear effects of divorce recovery. The truth that comes with bumps, valleys and dips!

Forget the idea that healing is a straight line from A to Z. 🙅‍♂️ This ain't a simple recipe, folks! We're here to tell you that it’s OK to feel like you're on a rollercoaster 🎢, with moments of clarity followed by unexpected setbacks, or even just that sense of being stuck somewhere! In this episode, we get brutally honest about why that's normal.

We're unpacking:

The Myth of Linear Healing: Why you feel like you should be "over it" already. 🙄
Real-Life Examples: Times where we and others have faced unexpected emotional hurdles. 🤕
The "Drunken Toddler with a Crayon" Analogy: 🖍️ Yup, healing can be that chaotic.
Navigating Triggers: Birthdays, anniversaries, that one song... 🎶
The "Revenge Body" Phenomenon: 💪 Is it healthy? Is it just a phase? We debate. 🥊
Sad But Horny Spirals 😭➡️😈 And is there anything wrong with needing connection? (Plus the weighted blanket discussion.)
Why Forgiveness Is F**king Hard: 🤬 (Especially when Barbara is involved! 😅)
The Importance of Self-Compassion: ❤️ Treating yourself like you'd treat a friend.
When to Seek Help: 🤝 Recognizing when you need a therapist, a doctor, or just a damn good friend.

Whether you're feeling lost, confused, or just plain exhausted, know that you're not alone. We've been there, we've messed up, and we're still figuring it out. This podcast is for anyone who needs a dose of reality, a few laughs, and a reminder that healing is a journey, not a destination. 💯

Barbara’s Forgiveness Website:

-https://www.forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk/

So, grab a drink 🍺 (or a crayon 🖍️), strap in, and let's get real about divorce. If you are ready for the journey, Subscribe to the channel to find some helpful tips and videos.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About The Divorce Devil Podcast

WE ANSWER THE HOW, WHEN AND HOW! HOW DO YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND/OR MENTALLY RECOVER FROM DIVORCE? DO YOU WAIT UNTIL THE DIVORCE PROCESS IS OVER THEN DO YOU START TO HEAL? WE SAY NO! DIVORCE RECOVERY CAN START IN ALL PHASES OF YOUR DIVORCE - EVEN IN THE PRE-PHASE! THIS IS A PODCAST ABOUT REAL PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT REAL DIVORCE RECOVERY NO MATTER WHAT PHASE YOU ARE IN - HEALING AND MOVING ON TO YOUR NEW REALITY!! If you need to make an informed decision about your divorce recovery and need some type of direction - then this podcast is for you. We do not advocate being professionals but our various life experiences do count for something. After experiencing the shitstorm of recovery, we consider ourselves divorce recovery mentors or facilitators in our efforts to help others. Divorce Devil Podcast is a podcast of an exchange of ideas, experiences, and/or opinions from people who have already walked the journey of divorce. David, being divorced for over 10 years and Rachel being divorced for a few, bring their real-life ying/yang experiences to the show while they debate the in’s and out’s of pre, during, and post-divorce and their association with divorce recovery.

If you need a little bit of joy with your pain, then laugh with us as we explain our journeys and takeaways. Being not your typical divorce recovery podcast - we get into some pretty wild and crazy discussions!

Listen to some of the discussions and see what may pertain to you, a loved one, or a friend in their struggles. Maybe we can provide a positive spin on a negative experience for you or someone you know. Between Rachel, David, and their guests, they have seen and experienced almost every, some very interesting and eye-opening situations and events. Listen up!

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About The Divorce Devil Podcast

WE ANSWER THE HOW, WHEN AND HOW! HOW DO YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND/OR MENTALLY RECOVER FROM DIVORCE? DO YOU WAIT UNTIL THE DIVORCE PROCESS IS OVER THEN DO YOU START TO HEAL? WE SAY NO! DIVORCE RECOVERY CAN START IN ALL PHASES OF YOUR DIVORCE - EVEN IN THE PRE-PHASE! THIS IS A PODCAST ABOUT REAL PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT REAL DIVORCE RECOVERY NO MATTER WHAT PHASE YOU ARE IN - HEALING AND MOVING ON TO YOUR NEW REALITY!! If you need to make an informed decision about your divorce recovery and need some type of direction - then this podcast is for you. We do not advocate being professionals but our various life experiences do count for something. After experiencing the shitstorm of recovery, we consider ourselves divorce recovery mentors or facilitators in our efforts to help others. Divorce Devil Podcast is a podcast of an exchange of ideas, experiences, and/or opinions from people who have already walked the journey of divorce. David, being divorced for over 10 years and Rachel being divorced for a few, bring their real-life ying/yang experiences to the show while they debate the in’s and out’s of pre, during, and post-divorce and their association with divorce recovery.

If you need a little bit of joy with your pain, then laugh with us as we explain our journeys and takeaways. Being not your typical divorce recovery podcast - we get into some pretty wild and crazy discussions!

Listen to some of the discussions and see what may pertain to you, a loved one, or a friend in their struggles. Maybe we can provide a positive spin on a negative experience for you or someone you know. Between Rachel, David, and their guests, they have seen and experienced almost every, some very interesting and eye-opening situations and events. Listen up!

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Hey everyone, and welcome back to the Divorce Devil Podcast! 👋 If you'reover 40 navigating the wild world of divorce recovery, you're in the right place. I'm David, and with me as always is my amazing co-host, Rachel, and today we are diving deep into something super important that no one talks about: The nonlinear effects of divorce recovery. The truth that comes with bumps, valleys and dips!

Forget the idea that healing is a straight line from A to Z. 🙅‍♂️ This ain't a simple recipe, folks! We're here to tell you that it’s OK to feel like you're on a rollercoaster 🎢, with moments of clarity followed by unexpected setbacks, or even just that sense of being stuck somewhere! In this episode, we get brutally honest about why that's normal.

We're unpacking:

The Myth of Linear Healing: Why you feel like you should be "over it" already. 🙄
Real-Life Examples: Times where we and others have faced unexpected emotional hurdles. 🤕
The "Drunken Toddler with a Crayon" Analogy: 🖍️ Yup, healing can be that chaotic.
Navigating Triggers: Birthdays, anniversaries, that one song... 🎶
The "Revenge Body" Phenomenon: 💪 Is it healthy? Is it just a phase? We debate. 🥊
Sad But Horny Spirals 😭➡️😈 And is there anything wrong with needing connection? (Plus the weighted blanket discussion.)
Why Forgiveness Is F**king Hard: 🤬 (Especially when Barbara is involved! 😅)
The Importance of Self-Compassion: ❤️ Treating yourself like you'd treat a friend.
When to Seek Help: 🤝 Recognizing when you need a therapist, a doctor, or just a damn good friend.

Whether you're feeling lost, confused, or just plain exhausted, know that you're not alone. We've been there, we've messed up, and we're still figuring it out. This podcast is for anyone who needs a dose of reality, a few laughs, and a reminder that healing is a journey, not a destination. 💯

Barbara’s Forgiveness Website:

-https://www.forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk/

So, grab a drink 🍺 (or a crayon 🖍️), strap in, and let's get real about divorce. If you are ready for the journey, Subscribe to the channel to find some helpful tips and videos.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About The Divorce Devil Podcast

WE ANSWER THE HOW, WHEN AND HOW! HOW DO YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND/OR MENTALLY RECOVER FROM DIVORCE? DO YOU WAIT UNTIL THE DIVORCE PROCESS IS OVER THEN DO YOU START TO HEAL? WE SAY NO! DIVORCE RECOVERY CAN START IN ALL PHASES OF YOUR DIVORCE - EVEN IN THE PRE-PHASE! THIS IS A PODCAST ABOUT REAL PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT REAL DIVORCE RECOVERY NO MATTER WHAT PHASE YOU ARE IN - HEALING AND MOVING ON TO YOUR NEW REALITY!! If you need to make an informed decision about your divorce recovery and need some type of direction - then this podcast is for you. We do not advocate being professionals but our various life experiences do count for something. After experiencing the shitstorm of recovery, we consider ourselves divorce recovery mentors or facilitators in our efforts to help others. Divorce Devil Podcast is a podcast of an exchange of ideas, experiences, and/or opinions from people who have already walked the journey of divorce. David, being divorced for over 10 years and Rachel being divorced for a few, bring their real-life ying/yang experiences to the show while they debate the in’s and out’s of pre, during, and post-divorce and their association with divorce recovery.

If you need a little bit of joy with your pain, then laugh with us as we explain our journeys and takeaways. Being not your typical divorce recovery podcast - we get into some pretty wild and crazy discussions!

Listen to some of the discussions and see what may pertain to you, a loved one, or a friend in their struggles. Maybe we can provide a positive spin on a negative experience for you or someone you know. Between Rachel, David, and their guests, they have seen and experienced almost every, some very interesting and eye-opening situations and events. Listen up!

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About The Divorce Devil Podcast

WE ANSWER THE HOW, WHEN AND HOW! HOW DO YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND/OR MENTALLY RECOVER FROM DIVORCE? DO YOU WAIT UNTIL THE DIVORCE PROCESS IS OVER THEN DO YOU START TO HEAL? WE SAY NO! DIVORCE RECOVERY CAN START IN ALL PHASES OF YOUR DIVORCE - EVEN IN THE PRE-PHASE! THIS IS A PODCAST ABOUT REAL PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT REAL DIVORCE RECOVERY NO MATTER WHAT PHASE YOU ARE IN - HEALING AND MOVING ON TO YOUR NEW REALITY!! If you need to make an informed decision about your divorce recovery and need some type of direction - then this podcast is for you. We do not advocate being professionals but our various life experiences do count for something. After experiencing the shitstorm of recovery, we consider ourselves divorce recovery mentors or facilitators in our efforts to help others. Divorce Devil Podcast is a podcast of an exchange of ideas, experiences, and/or opinions from people who have already walked the journey of divorce. David, being divorced for over 10 years and Rachel being divorced for a few, bring their real-life ying/yang experiences to the show while they debate the in’s and out’s of pre, during, and post-divorce and their association with divorce recovery.

If you need a little bit of joy with your pain, then laugh with us as we explain our journeys and takeaways. Being not your typical divorce recovery podcast - we get into some pretty wild and crazy discussions!

Listen to some of the discussions and see what may pertain to you, a loved one, or a friend in their struggles. Maybe we can provide a positive spin on a negative experience for you or someone you know. Between Rachel, David, and their guests, they have seen and experienced almost every, some very interesting and eye-opening situations and events. Listen up!

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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