Our favorite pros and cons on dating during and after divorce || Divorce Devil Podcast #153 || David and Rachel | The Divorce Devil Podcast

Description

David and Rachel are the hosts of the Divorced Devil Podcast, a show that provides a humorous and honest take on divorce recovery. They share their own experiences and insights to help others navigate the challenges of divorce and find healing.

In this episode of the Divorced Devil Podcast, David and Rachel discuss the pros and cons of dating during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of being ready before entering the dating scene and caution against rushing into new relationships. They also highlight the need to set boundaries and prioritize the well-being of children involved. The hosts share personal anecdotes and offer advice on navigating the complexities of dating after divorce.

**Key Takeaways:**

- It's important to be ready before entering the dating scene after divorce.

- Dating can provide new experiences and boost confidence.

- Setting boundaries and prioritizing children's needs is crucial.

- Emotional volatility and comparing new partners to exes can be challenges.

- Physical intimacy can be both exciting and awkward after divorce.

**Quotes:**

- "Dating can be a way to experience new things and boost your confidence." - Rachel

- "Setting boundaries is important for your own protection and well-being." - David

- "Don't repeat history, be open to new experiences and people." - Rachel

Here are 10 pros and cons of dating after divorce:

Pros

1. New Experiences - You can have the excitement of getting to know new people and trying new activities and restaurants with a new partner.

2. Companionship - Having someone to spend time with and confide in can ease the loneliness after being single again post-divorce.

3. Personal Growth - Entering the dating world helps you discover more about your interests, priorities, and preferences as your own independent person.

4. Confidence Boost - The interest, flattery, and companionship helps rebuild your confidence in yourself as an attractive, interesting person.

5. Physical Intimacy - Dating can lead to satisfying some of those physical and emotional intimacy needs that you missed while going through separation.

Cons

1. Comparison Tendencies - It's hard to avoid comparing new dates and partners to your ex which may unintentionally sabotage relationships.

2. Emotional Volatility - Still healing from divorce, dating can reignite hurt, anger, insecurity and amplify emotional volatility as you continue processing the divorce.

3. Less Patience - Having gone through divorce you may have less tolerance or patience for working through normal relationship challenges.

4. Baggage and Trust Issues - It’s common to still be carrying distrust, jealousy or other unresolved baggage from your marriage into dating life.

5. Scheduling Pressures - Juggling your own parenting commitments plus dating itself can mean very complicated scheduling equations to see someone new.

6. Family Adjustment - Your excitement over new partners has to be balanced with how this impacts your children and custody arrangements.

7. Financial Pressures - Alimony, child support or splitting assets can mean less discretionary income for dating activities.

8. Ex Comparisons - A new partner may trigger comparisons to positives of your ex at first rather than themselves.

9. Repeat History - Without enough self-work, you may fall into dynamics of dysfunction again out of habit.

10. Time Management - Making time for dating itself on top of other life commitments can be draining.

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About The Divorce Devil Podcast

WE ANSWER THE HOW, WHEN AND HOW! HOW DO YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND/OR MENTALLY RECOVER FROM DIVORCE? DO YOU WAIT UNTIL THE DIVORCE PROCESS IS OVER THEN DO YOU START TO HEAL? WE SAY NO! DIVORCE RECOVERY CAN START IN ALL PHASES OF YOUR DIVORCE - EVEN IN THE PRE-PHASE! THIS IS A PODCAST ABOUT REAL PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT REAL DIVORCE RECOVERY NO MATTER WHAT PHASE YOU ARE IN - HEALING AND MOVING ON TO YOUR NEW REALITY!! If you need to make an informed decision about your divorce recovery and need some type of direction - then this podcast is for you. We do not advocate being professionals but our various life experiences do count for something. After experiencing the shitstorm of recovery, we consider ourselves divorce recovery mentors or facilitators in our efforts to help others. Divorce Devil Podcast is a podcast of an exchange of ideas, experiences, and/or opinions from people who have already walked the journey of divorce. David, being divorced for over 10 years and Rachel being divorced for a few, bring their real-life ying/yang experiences to the show while they debate the in’s and out’s of pre, during, and post-divorce and their association with divorce recovery.

If you need a little bit of joy with your pain, then laugh with us as we explain our journeys and takeaways. Being not your typical divorce recovery podcast - we get into some pretty wild and crazy discussions!

Listen to some of the discussions and see what may pertain to you, a loved one, or a friend in their struggles. Maybe we can provide a positive spin on a negative experience for you or someone you know. Between Rachel, David, and their guests, they have seen and experienced almost every, some very interesting and eye-opening situations and events. Listen up!