Overcoming the Nice Guy Struggle with Group Therapy After Divorce || DPTSP #125

40min | 10/12/2025

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild after divorce? Have you ever felt stuck in “Nice Guy” patterns—always seeking approval, but feeling unseen and unfulfilled? You’re not alone. Dive into this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, and special guest McKenzie—a men’s coach who’s changed the lives of thousands of men worldwide.

🔓 In This Episode:

McKenzie’s raw journey: From a chaotic childhood to hitting rock bottom, and how joining a men’s group in Chicago transformed his life and purpose.
What is Nice Guy Syndrome? Learn why so many men fall into people-pleasing patterns, especially after separation or divorce, and how toxic shame keeps you stuck.
Why it gets worse after divorce: Discover the hidden traps men face when re-entering the dating world or trying to co-parent, and why external validation doesn’t lead to healing.
The Power of Men’s Groups: Hear why support communities are critical for real recovery, and how having just one emotional outlet (your ex or partner) can set you up for more pain.
Communication & Curiosity: Practical tools to break out of old beliefs (“I’m bad at feelings,” “I can’t communicate”) and build genuine connection—with yourself and others.
The Three Ps: How Power, Purpose, and Possibility can replace shame and self-doubt, leading to real transformation, not just symptom management.
Rebuilding Friendships: Why most men lose touch with friends after marriage, and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful relationships, even if you feel isolated.

💡 Key Takeaways:

Self-care and emotional availability are essential, not selfish.
Healing isn’t about avoiding your “bad habits”—it’s about replacing them with something more valuable.
Community is vital: diversify your support network beyond just your partner.
Real masculinity isn’t toxic—outdated patterns are. It’s time to embrace the traits that push you (and humanity) forward.

McKenzie also shares how his background in marketing helped him create simple, transformative systems for men to heal and thrive—no matter their past.

👇 Ready to take the next step? Whether you’re newly divorced or years out, this conversation will help you see that real recovery is possible. If you want proven tools and authentic support, check outt www.groupsformen.com for a free week of coaching and connection.

⭐ Let’s make this a conversation:

Have you struggled with Nice Guy Syndrome or finding support after divorce? What’s been your biggest challenge? Drop a comment below—your story could help another man know he’s not alone.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild after divorce? Have you ever felt stuck in “Nice Guy” patterns—always seeking approval, but feeling unseen and unfulfilled? You’re not alone. Dive into this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, and special guest McKenzie—a men’s coach who’s changed the lives of thousands of men worldwide.

🔓 In This Episode:

McKenzie’s raw journey: From a chaotic childhood to hitting rock bottom, and how joining a men’s group in Chicago transformed his life and purpose.
What is Nice Guy Syndrome? Learn why so many men fall into people-pleasing patterns, especially after separation or divorce, and how toxic shame keeps you stuck.
Why it gets worse after divorce: Discover the hidden traps men face when re-entering the dating world or trying to co-parent, and why external validation doesn’t lead to healing.
The Power of Men’s Groups: Hear why support communities are critical for real recovery, and how having just one emotional outlet (your ex or partner) can set you up for more pain.
Communication & Curiosity: Practical tools to break out of old beliefs (“I’m bad at feelings,” “I can’t communicate”) and build genuine connection—with yourself and others.
The Three Ps: How Power, Purpose, and Possibility can replace shame and self-doubt, leading to real transformation, not just symptom management.
Rebuilding Friendships: Why most men lose touch with friends after marriage, and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful relationships, even if you feel isolated.

💡 Key Takeaways:

Self-care and emotional availability are essential, not selfish.
Healing isn’t about avoiding your “bad habits”—it’s about replacing them with something more valuable.
Community is vital: diversify your support network beyond just your partner.
Real masculinity isn’t toxic—outdated patterns are. It’s time to embrace the traits that push you (and humanity) forward.

McKenzie also shares how his background in marketing helped him create simple, transformative systems for men to heal and thrive—no matter their past.

👇 Ready to take the next step? Whether you’re newly divorced or years out, this conversation will help you see that real recovery is possible. If you want proven tools and authentic support, check outt www.groupsformen.com for a free week of coaching and connection.

⭐ Let’s make this a conversation:

Have you struggled with Nice Guy Syndrome or finding support after divorce? What’s been your biggest challenge? Drop a comment below—your story could help another man know he’s not alone.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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