Speaker #0hello folks and welcome back to the podcast that just keeps giving so i guess today i wanted to talk about a couple things one of them i don't know how to approach this i feel like i've talked about body images uh like body image issues a lot i feel like that's a separate conversation but i guess what i wanted to talk about today was like how do i phrase this i guess the lack of like care and empathy towards a specific group as i'm being honest i feel like when someone is like drastically underweight like the like the worry like what everyone is going frantic over is like is this person gonna die how long can they maintain this a lot of things going through their head i feel like also um It could be the brunt of something being reversed or people actually being, I guess, in their eyes grossed out, which is not appropriate in my opinion. But I feel like the difference for when someone is drastically overweight is that the care is gone and it's gone into a shame factor, like purely shame. and I don't know, I feel like there's like a complete difference of care for how each group is being treated for a health condition that is probably not in their control. Honestly, not that anyone should be worried that people are going to die, like I don't think that's the- I just think, when I think about it, I think it's just so weird, like the drastic difference of how we could operate. Like if someone is like is having major health issues because they're underweight, I feel like the instant response is like, let's help them with this eating disorder. Let's help them control something that is not really in their control. But I feel like when it's someone that is overweight, the response is you're lazy. You need to stop eating. Like I know there's like the phrase of like eat a burger, but in my experience, I feel like the most, I don't think. Not that I want someone to be concerned about my health, but I don't think anyone was like, I don't think I've had more people concerned about like, oh my god, are you okay? Than when I was underway at a period. Which again is not something that like I'm shooting for, but it's just like when you compare the two, it's just like, why is this the one that we're concerned about? And why is this the one that we show sympathy and empathy to? And the other one is like a complete and utter like afterthought. I don't know. Maybe that's just food for thought. I think of weird things. And I was just thinking about this and I was literally just like, there's like such a difference. Like literally, if we're comparing the two, there's such a difference. On a lighter note, I thought we could read this article on 35 sex tips and see if they enhance our experience of life. So let's just go through this and see if this is the most mundane or weird thing. I was going through some of them and they seemed like pretty normal. I'm gonna say I was looking for some bizarre stuff. The first one is like very obvious which is like communication about sex. Like I feel like this is the obvious one but I don't think it's like the difficulty is oh this person um doesn't know that this is the thing that you should do i think it's very obvious it's the it's the difficulty on if people are able to communicate or not and i feel like that even if they're not able to communicate which is the biggest one which is when someone's just like oh you can just teach them or um they don't want to teach them i don't think it's about Whether you want to teach them in my experience, I think it's whether if the person is willing to learn because I feel like there's very specific people that If you try to give them instructions on how you want specific things done in the bedroom They might not Take that well due to multiple things ego being a big one I don't know, this is like, yeah, I think everyone knows this one. They didn't really give us any tips on how to help with the communication. There, way to go, bud. create an atmosphere this one's yeah i feel like this one's really good for females as well i feel like males want this too but it's like not just like you know a dark lit room with a stained mattress like you know what i mean it feels uh i guess depending on i guess i'm just repeating depending on what your like relationship level is or who you are, I feel like it could be like a huge thing or it could be definitely an afterthought situation. I feel like if you're, especially if you're like just like starting to date, I don't know. I feel like I've talked, we've talked about this before, like people really don't court nowadays. It's really just like a casual hookup scenario and then like people like decide if they want to pursue something more serious. So I feel like if you created an atmosphere, it would send like the message or like the signal that you wanted something more serious. And I feel like that could be that that that's what people are gonna avoid. Because who knows what the response is to a bunch of rose petals and candles and the person that you're meeting with just wants to hook up. Like I feel like that would create like the most awkward experience ever. I would literally hate it, which is why My fear of rejection has probably stopped me from doing almost everything. But I feel like if you know, like you're like, okay, this person's gonna love this, then I feel like, yes, it would 100% enhance whatever is happening in there. Number three is roleplay. I feel like this one's also very obvious. I feel like this one's still a little vanilla, I guess, depending on what your roleplay is. Um. Yeah, this, I feel like I would be so awkward, because we were talking about, like, someone's being full-on in character the whole entire time, because I feel like I would start laughing. I would have to practice, because if I had to, like, act like a character the entire time I was having sex, I would, I would break out in laughter. But I feel like that's 100% not appropriate when you're having sex. So, I don't know. I feel like this one would be nice, but it's like getting over the nerves of trying. This is, I feel like, starting to step out of people's comfort zone. Especially depending on like what your role playing is. I feel like you could start off like very soft or go to a bunch of crazy places. Do like specific stuff, characters from movies. I wonder if that's weird. Do you think people think about that? like oh people are dressing us dressing up as us and having sex i don't know i don't know if that crosses people's mind uh number four toys i don't know about using toys as an another person i guess like specific stuff like a couple toy like couples toys i feel like anything where you're like the focus is being taken away from the partner can create like huge issues because then people are literally like feeling inadequate and comparing like that comes back around so i feel like the toy one is also a little bit tricky depending on what people are comfortable with but i feel like i feel like you could if there's probably a couple couple toys i don't know i've never seen i feel like most of the stuff for toys or stuff like for like bdsm stuff or stuff for i don't know i feel like there's stuff for specific body parts so people can have like pleasure like multiple areas at once very scientific with this i don't know i feel like that wouldn't enhance it like i don't know i feel like experimentation is needed for that one unless you already know what you got reading dirty stories this is a little bit i don't understand this one so like you're reading the you're reading the book together or you're reading the book out loud i feel like this one would just be like you would have to be super comfortable i feel like people would be it would be more like less weird to watch porn this specific situation but was that there was that time that like 50 shades of grey was like Going world like it was everyone was reading it and it was like the open invitation to basically watch porn in public and it was okay like because every person on the planet was doing it i always thought that was funny i i also think it's funny like does anyone know like the origin of that the the author of the book wrote like submitted a fan fiction and it was actually it was a fan fiction of twilight which is it's crazy it's not it's just weird because it has nothing to do with Twilight. She changed it so much. I don't know what the original fanfiction was, but like I used to, I 100% read, I read fanfiction when I was younger. And it's, there's like some that like they try to have like a continuation of the story where they're just like, oh, let's just like write in our, the show ended. Let's see where they picked off or like, we don't like this part. So we're going to change this here. Those are like the basic ones. And then there's the other ones where they're like, okay, we basically just, all we took was these characters' names and we created a whole universe of our own. And then there's like the third category that's basically like hardcore porn in a book form. Like it gets very smutty. But long story short, I don't know how someone found it, but someone found her book on the fanfiction. I'm assuming she did not submit it. I'm pretty sure someone found it. But I just can't imagine how that, like, if someone was looking through fanfiction for a book or they just, they literally came across it, they came across it on fanfiction and they're like, wow, this would be an amazing novel to put out. I don't know what happened, but someone saw it and they're like, okay, let's just change all the names and all the details and we can still have this as a, uh, s- o- like standalone book and that's how 50 shades of gray came out and obviously that one it blew up like massively like i don't know if i've seen a craze like as much to that date like of oh it's crazy and yes i have seen every single i don't know i don't think i saw the last one i think i saw half of it and then i got interrupted so i never finished but i remember i saw the first one when i was younger and let me just say i was so confused because i was like i don't understand oh my it's i was so stupid i was literally like why is she mad like i don't understand like she asked him to do it the and then i watched it when i was older and i'm just like yeah that makes so much sense this makes no sense if you've never seen the movie and i don't want to spoil it but there's this scene at the end of the movie if you watch it or the the book i don't know i don't know the comparison of the book in the movie but there's a scene where um basically she asks him to do something extreme to see like what type of person he is and she he crosses a line that she's not comfortable comfortable with and she leaves and when i first saw that i had a completely different response and now i'm just like obvious she was literally freaking out because she's like oh you wanted to do that to me like that was in her head that was just like you wanted to do that was the issue it was like it wasn't that she was asking that was also a huge issue like their whole they couldn't do this their whole relationship dynamic was so messed up Because she never wanted to do any of it. And she was just, like, so in love with him that she was literally just like, okay, I'll do anything just so that I can be with you. And then it created, like, such an unhealthy dynamic because he needed things that she couldn't provide, but she wanted to be with him. And so then it was, like, it created this horrible. It was, I will say, it's a really good movie. I don't know how about... how the other ones hold up to be fair i have not seen them that many times i've saw them once but it's it's pretty it's pretty fucked up movie it covers some very dark topics including like sexual assault and groaning and stuff like that so if that stuff is triggering i would definitely avoid it but let me just give me more promo for 50 shades of gray uh i don't know i thought watching it back i just again i'm just like she realized that she was not into that because she never really signed up for it in the first place and i feel like the second movie if you're gonna you can't start with the second movie she definitely watched the first two at least together Because I feel like in the second movie, it was more on even playing field. It wasn't like, oh, I'm going to do whatever I can to keep you even if I hurt myself, which is what she was doing. Until she's finally like, I'm not going to do that anymore. And then the second one, it was more about her exploring her sexuality with the boundaries that she was comfortable with. And then him literally being like, oh. I feel like he was literally like, oh, you don't want to do this now. I don't think they did the thing of him giving her too much shit for her having, I mean, that's just freaking consent, basically. I feel like a lot of people don't understand that about, like, I hate when I start off a sentence with like, yeah, this is only a problem for cis women. But I feel like a lot of people don't understand that a lot of situations because. um, females are not as turned on in situations can come off a little bit, like, it, it's literally, it makes you feel a specific way, and try not to be rude, because there's so many, there's so many people that, like, go to extremes to just, like, because they're just tired of it, or, I don't know, it's, it's just who they are, but there's, like, I just think people need to be very careful. Because I think we just all need to, like, just because I'm turned on doesn't mean this person is turned on. And there's a huge chance that you both could be turned on at the same point. But I feel like with cis women, I feel like they're so difficult that doing anything when they're not in that mode can lead to them feeling, like, feelings of disgust or feelings of very uncomfortable. uncomfortableness and uh i feel like the solution to that is to just like the problem is if you cannot like read the room that's the problem so like if you're not be able to read the signs and be like oh this person is feeling me right now maybe i should do blah blah blah blah the problem is when people be like oh i'm feeling the the the situation right now so then i'm gonna make a move and then this whole situation happens. god knows what happens when it sucks but you literally would have to literally just wait until just wait until someone like dings and be like oh i'm ready obviously there's like things you can do to like make people but like obviously i feel like the response is like it's just so difficult and i feel like that's i talked about the div i talk about the divide so much But I feel like it creates such problems because people are literally like, oh, you're like a prude or you don't want to do this or you're playing hot and cold. And I'm just like, no, just a lot of people just have different bodies. And a lot of it takes a it's a lot more difficult to get people in the same space that you are. I wish I could walk around turned on 24-7. I feel like my life would be a lot easier. But sadly, that is not the case. After that long ass tangent, boost your oral skill. What? How are you going to boost your oral skills? Like, are they suggesting like take a class? Are we like practicing on toys? Are they giving us a course? Like, how are you boosting your oral skills? I can't imagine what a sex class would be like. And, like, would they use, like, they would obviously use sex toys. It can't just be, like, them instructing Orchie. But I feel like that would be so uncomfortable. It's probably going to be on the lines of, like, a baby and me class. But it's all sexual. Oh, my God, that would be so uncomfortable. It would have to be, like, a one that you can get shit-faced. And then retain no information. of the $400 class you had to take. Oh my god, that's life now. So basically, they want you to improve your oral skills. I feel like this is a go for everyone. Like, yeah. I don't think there's ever a time that you should ever suggest this. You just gift your partner a book. This is 101 tips on how to have better oral sex. Are you trying to say something? This is horrible. Okay, so they're saying the same thing, which is like She comes first Which is basically, women orgasms are crazy as fuck. So, I feel like most every time, like, I'm trying not to be too specific with this, but, like, a lot of mechanical stuff. There's a group here that is going to have an orgasm really quickly and really easily. And then there's another group that it's literally, like, a freaking... equation on how to have an orgasm and which even worse is because this group doesn't have like a sex drive as high there's not a huge demand to like make sure that actually gets done we've constantly talked about there's so many people that have never had an orgasm in their life ever and it's completely normalized like it's not something that's just like oh my god because we're not I sound like I'm gonna cry. We're not bringing an environment where people understand what like healthy safe sex is or even like pleasure. Oh my god that sounds so horrible talking about pleasure but I feel like talking about pleasure is not a thing that happens in our society and so we're not creating the environment where that's something that can be discussed or approved upon and then we're not creating the environment where they can even handle it. by themselves which even if that's something that you're gonna do for the rest of your life which i hope is not the case but like when you have like the combination of both of those you have someone that has literally never felt pleasure in their life like that that sounds horrible to me that sounds like that should not be something that someone is doing by choice and it's not by choices by a bunch of external circumstances that we can change and I hope that we raise in an environment where it's okay to talk about instead of because the less the less taboo it gets the more normalized it becomes and when it's normal it's not it's gonna become less of an issue when everyone realizes oh no this is what we do no duh it's common sense like I hope that's the point that we we come to obviously this is not like a major issue like talking about world peace I was literally just talking about that. I was like, I know this is not, like, the most realistic, and it makes me sound like I'm Miss America, but, like, if I would have anything, it would be, like, literally if we could find a way to have world peace. Like, that would literally, I feel like, how are we not in the time that we are living in? Like, we're not in caveman time. We're not in time where we would sail on ships everywhere. Like, this is the 21st century. Like, how? How do we not have, like, an organization where, like, every president of every country comes together to form an organization to work together? Like, I'm not even saying, like, everyone has to agree, because that sounds crazy. But it's mind-boggling that we could have all these states come together as one. We've never in our history created an environment. where all of these countries could have come together as one. Like, it makes no sense to me. I'm like, even if we just had, like, some sort of organization or just something where, like, everyone sat and discussed the issues, I wouldn't mind if stuff was being tied up in negotiation for years. It seems a lot less drastic than when we're sending people out to die for something that we shouldn't still be doing. Like, it's so... My head, it seems like something that we can fix, but obviously it's not something we can fix because of the tensions and because of the past and because of how each country is built up. But it's like if that was something that I think that I feel like we as a whole world should have accomplished this already. I know that's such a tall task to do, but I feel like we should have done this. the this i don't know it just feels so caveman of like okay i'm gonna send my people to kill your people then we'll decide and i'm not talking about like terrorist organizations or of us like basically like sending swat in but like literally going to other countries as a whole is like mind-boggling to me there's the end of my rant oh here's the next one which is Tying each other up. I feel like we covered this. This is like on the lines of BDSM. This is gonna be all about Fifty Shades. Um, this is where we get into a tricky situation. of how open communication and enthusiastic consent needs to be happening but i literally uh this is a tricky one because we're dealing with a lot of people's triggers and we're dealing with a lot of things that even if people are not traumatized this is just some of the stuff can be like just scary and daunting to look at especially like when stuff is talking about inflicting pain Like, I feel like that is definitely not something that anyone, no one should be pressured into anything, but that's definitely something that should be talked about and felt in the room of, like, is this something that people want? Is this something that people are comfortable with? Like, is this something that is going to actually bring this person pleasure? This is something that I feel like 100% communication needs to be had, but I feel like experimentation is really good for this one. So I feel like trying like really like small things and seeing if you guys like it. And then if it's something that's like real bad, just make sure that it's, oh, at any time, if anyone wants this to stop, it's stopping. Like if that I feel like if that's not communicated, it will it's like a breath of fresh air. Like, OK, OK, so we're down to actual tips. Okay, so this one, they say this is obviously for only a specific amount of people, but it says grind, don't bounce. Put your partner in cowgirl position and have them grind, not bounce. So I don't know, who is this making it feel better? So this is supposed to have a higher chance of an orgasm due to friction. Okay, so this is 100% for someone with a clitoris. I can see this happen. So you're trying to do two things at once, well, without even using... I feel like this one's good. This one's really good, because I feel like if we're talking about people who feel emasculated, this is the one that you want to try. Yeah, that's actually a really good tip. Thank you. Play a sexy game or games. This sounds fun. I feel like... Why do I constantly feel like I'm going to cry? I'm not crying, guys. I feel like you should look up an adult board game and just see which one they have. I'm sure they have dice or cards or some sort of game. And then open a... You might not even need a drink. I just feel like it makes it more fun. Hence the game as well. But I feel like this is... definitely one when you're just like oh we've had sex in every position in every place at every an area how do we make it more exciting um i feel like this is the one for maybe when it's gotten a little stale which also maybe people don't know haven't communicated or been able to communicate yet well i feel like that intensifies it okay so we're going back down with dirty talk this one again um i feel like communication has to be on depending on how degrading or explicit it gets i feel like you gotta feel the question maybe do the game do the game night to figure out like what you are into find like a board game where you're literally like get seen what each other are into and get like shit I feel like that's what I would do if that was something that was like uncomfortable. But I feel like uh if you know what people what you guys are into I feel like this one's definitely going to enhance it. The question is when where can you do this? I don't feel like most people live in areas where you can just like openly have loud and vocal sex. I feel like finding that was probably the issue with this one. But, uh, yeah, I definitely think that this one will enhance it. So this one is literally just says be spontaneous, which I was going to make fun of, but then I thought about it and I'm like, yeah, for people who are like in long term relationships or they're used to routine of like, okay. Sorry, I have to stop trying to sound like I'm going to cry. I'm like, okay, we're gonna. We're gonna get out of the shower, have sex, and then go to bed. You know, that's happy- Jesus Christ. that's happening every night then i think doing something spontaneous of like oh let's like drive up to this crazy ass viewpoint and have sex in the car or i don't know you know just having sex on the the middle of the kitchen stuff that's just like crazy or stuff that you would never think of i think i uh i think that's what that's definitely meant for Okay, so we're getting more specific with this one and also ostracizing another group. They just want to remind us to not forget about the balls. Very specific, wanting to remind us to show some love to the testicles. Which, again, I would not know about this tip. I wouldn't, sadly, I don't know anything. I don't know. I don't know how. I don't know. I just preached about how one- how some people are like so easy sexually. It's not so easy, but so easily sexually to figure out. Then I'm like, I have no fucking clue what the fucking testicles even feel like. I know what I'm told and that's it. Okay, this is a good one and that's like literally having sex in a mirror. I feel like that's- that's good if you like a specific position and then you still want to be able to like see what's going on like i feel like that's way to like record yourself without recording yourself if people are afraid of like what's gonna happen with the footage i feel like having like a full-on mirror on your on the ceiling on the ceiling sounds fun but like i have like a nightmare of it literally just falling and like just like destroying everyone that i see i think that's an amazing tip Um, watch each other? Uh, I don't really understand what this means. I think, is this like foreplay? Like, you're literally just like, misfit style, masturbating in front of each other? I think that's what they're saying. Uh, I can see that's something new. I think that's basically just, I don't know. I don't know if that's like, they keep going like, they should really have built up it. Because it keeps going from like, really small tip to something specific. Next one, which is fantasize. I feel like this is the same one of like, we've already done. Yeah, I feel like they've covered this one. You guys are just repeating. Kiss like teenagers. I feel like this is a big one. I feel like a lot of people only make out. when they're like literally um not allowed to have sex but i feel like making out is considered foreplay and i feel like if you forget i i don't know i feel like a lot of people forget they don't make out because they're just like okay let's just get to the main part but i feel like it should be considered foreplay and we all know how important foreplay is unless you're having a quickie but i feel like this one is yeah kissing for hours i don't know about that i don't know who has time for that but like once in a blue moon if definitely if you have someone that's like issues heating up kiwi take your time oh yeah as we just if we just discussed i feel like unless it's a quickie um everything always feels better when it's drawn out i don't know i feel like uh But... yeah just trying to make things i feel like we're always constantly worried of this is the end point let's just get to the end point that you forget the journey but i feel like journey is like the the most important part so i feel like building it up but also making sure that everyone is feeling pleasure and enjoyment i i don't know i feel like that is very key make a bucket list for sex I feel like this is an awesome date night. I feel like every, you should, like, literally turn around and make, like, a however long bucket list of, like, all of your, like, all-time sexual fantasies and then compare them. I feel like that would be the funniest thing. I don't know. I feel like that would be the best time. That, yeah, doesn't necessarily mean that you're gonna do it, but, like, I feel like you would, I would swap lists. and then just mark the ones that I'd be like, okay, this is never gonna happen in your life. Like, those would be like, I don't know. I don't know, there's like things that are people, everyone has that they're like, yeah, this is not something I'm ever going to be comfortable with. And I feel like, yeah, voicing that is 100% important. Okay, we're getting specific with this one. Okay, so they basically want to grind with your clothes on. They said that 81% of women can't orgasm from penetrative sex alone. That's because, what? Oh my god, the way they phrased this, I'm not, I have to say exactly how they said it. They said, that's because most of their focus has to be on grinding the clit against something. This is weird phrasing, guys. Um, I 100% agree with this. I feel like as much as the vagina is important, I feel like if we're comparing, like, i don't know i feel like if we're complaining comparing like a clit to something on a male's body um i don't know why i emphasize that i don't know for if we're comparing like a clit to something i feel like the clit would be compared to like a penis i feel like that would be like we're a hundred percent most of the pleasure is coming from then we have like the jace the J spot, obviously, but I feel like people think oh vagina and show so uncomfortable and that's where most of the attention goes but i feel like i don't know this is so uncomfortable i feel like a lot the attention should be put on the clip okay that's all they're basically saying that you should just grind the clothes on the clothes are gonna make the friction better okay this is getting scientific Are we gonna finish- okay, I was just like, there's a lot of these. Oh my- I can't with the phrasing of this, because it's so, like, the lack of care for these people. Okay, so they basically want you to, like, invite someone else into your bedroom. I feel like this could be fun. As I said before, I feel like doing this with someone that is gonna- day in your life is like um recipe for horrible experience after horrible experience but if you're able to be like mature and platonic all good for you i would i wish wish we all could live in that world okay so this is what we all just discussed which is the clit is everything i literally like i had to list this we can even stop talking about vaginas But if I had to list like vagina and clit, like the clit would be like 20 times over the vagina. Not that, but I feel like people don't know. It's not like, it's as much as people, women make fun of like penis sizes, I guess. Uh, I'm uncomfortable because like this is the cause that I want to go with. But as much as they make fun of it, literally like the female clitoris. like the clitoris is literally the tiniest thing ever like no one knows how to even find it and that's the problem but that's basically found out that it's superior and it's literally the uh the king of the castle okay this one's a little bit weird so they want you to like basically compliment them so they're saying like boosts their ego I think this is like just basically making making sure they're confident because if you're having sex and you're not comfortable and you're not confident in what you look like or like what you're doing I think it's just a recipe for a bad time as well so I think what this is is making sure that their confidence is up well I would say because they could um if someone is literally not feeling good about themselves just exploring non-sexual touching so this is like intimacy i feel yes i definitely think intimacy will turn you on and it's such a different thing because i feel like that's how you get the in my head the difference of like oh someone's just like pardon my french to like someone's like making love i feel like intimacy is like the barrier that keeps those two apart and i feel like once that's broached then I know at least for like for me it like it's literally like a love spell has been put over you when like that deadly combo his hit there's so many sex positions when I'm literally like what is the point of this so I'm literally like gonna be so there's someone's literally gonna be holding someone up while they're having sex like is that does this increase pleasure or like anything at all or is it i'm so confused i'm like just so we can have sex in like crazy ass positions this is 100 the only reason why we need to do this i guess it's i definitely feel like i don't know i don't know i feel like it might be just like a huge waste of time but it could be just be like trying something new and then you're like in a very uncomfortable position and you look in the mirror and you're like why are we doing this I think we've talked about that before, but I feel like if you're, whether you're like a poly relationship, whether your relationship is exclusive, whether you, whatever type of relationship you have, I feel like when anyone's in this danger zone of there's no communication and it's not defined, anything is up for grabs. Because of people, you know what I mean? Because there's no... So... clear rules being set on what is okay and what is not okay and what makes this person uncomfortable and what makes this person uncomfortable then there's literally it ends up with a lot of people being extremely jealous in a lot of horrible situations that could be avoided if there was a situation where there was where the rules could literally be just decided on this is what we're gonna do this is what we are this is what we're not gonna be doing and i feel like when that conversation hasn't even if it is like a relationship and you're gonna be like we're dating multiple people and we're dating each other at the same time i feel like going into that without specific communication and specific rules especially when you're doing that type of specific relationship it just says specific so many times I feel like it's just a recipe for disaster. I feel like if you're hooking up independently or you're just hooking up with a bunch of other people, I feel like it's casual. So I feel like it's not going to be, in my head, I don't think anything is going to be, I don't think jealousy is going to be a huge thing unless it's like a territorial issue with other people. You know, when like someone hears that their girl the person they're hooking up with it's hooking up with other other people so now it's an image issue but i feel like when it's serious so when feelings have developed at any point i feel like i feel like jealousy is a huge thing when jealousy is involved a lot of things can happen so avoiding not avoiding it but like trying to avoid triggers and definitely learning on um basically how we what we're gonna do when we're jealous this is something we're in a therapy session for children oh god uh but i feel like without having that conversation without having a clear set of boundaries or clear set of rules for your relationship a lot of miscommunication a lot of a lot of a lot of issues are gonna even or multi are gonna i can't speak a lot of issues are gonna multiply and get worse So I feel like if you're not, if you're in a, if you're getting serious, that conversation needs to happen. And if it's not going to happen, it's going to create a lot of issues. But that's all coming from someone that probably doesn't know what they're talking about. Let me tell you a little story of the time that I bought a $200 cologne. So this was back in 2019, let me say, so fear of judgment. And I was like desperate. I had such like bad feelings for this person at this time. And they told me the specific cologne that they wanted to get. And I literally, I picked it out on Amazon. It was like shipped through Amazon, but it was not shipped through like their company. So like it took like a month and a half to get there. And then when I finally got there, kid you not, a $100 cologne. And at this time, I was probably paying with roommates. $500 in rent. plus like food and all utilities and i had no money to make at this point so i had probably about like 200 to 300 left like so basically this was all money to my name at this point once the said cologne arrived i had found out that it had actually not been the right cologne and i had purchased the wrong one entirely i feel like a normal person would like be like okay you'll get it next time Instead, I decided to buy yet another $100 cologne that was supposed to be the right and correct dollar. It was supposed to be the correct one. And it was the correct one. Like, I didn't, honestly, I didn't mind buying it. I didn't mind having to, like, buy a specific one for someone. But, like, it was such a stupid and reckless decision. Because it was literally all the money I had to my name at the time. Like, I was so young. And. The sad- the more sad part about it is like a date did not happen. Like I was not in a relationship with this person. I was a hundred percent like a date- it did not happen at all. Like it would- obviously nothing was like meant to like get- like I wasn't like trying to get the cologne so that something else would happen. But like- I think, I just think it's so funny that I put so much effort into something and like literally just like, haha, joke's on you. This is not actually gonna go how you think it's gonna go. Another story when I was a kid and also really, like not smart, I mean we're freaking children. One of my, in my hometown, like there's, one of my favorite places to eat was called Chopsticks. And, uh. I didn't use chopsticks, but they had chopsticks there, the title of the place. And so I must have been, I probably must have been like four. Like I was so young, four or five at this time. And I was running with the chopstick in my mouth. And I tripped while I was running with the chopsticks in my mouth. And I literally skewered myself with the chopsticks. Like the chopsticks went down my throat and poked the back of my mouth. Like, it was so extreme. I remember being in the back of the ambulance, but to this day, my mom would be like, no, that never happened. You were not in the ambulance. And I'm like, I 100% remember being in the back of the ambulance. So there's a debate because I was so young. But it was so extreme. Like, to this day, my mom blames my dad, and I'm, like, 90% sure my dad blames my mom. Like, it was like... Do not let your kid run with chopsticks. But I feel like I don't have to tell people. I feel like that's common sense. Okay, let's end this with this. Okay, this has really turned into the love and dating podcast. Who am I calling? Who am I? So this is supposed to be based on this dude named Brian's romantic. Oh, Brian's. Okay, this is like tilting. brian's study on the relationship stages in modern day today so i thought we would go over to see if this is accurate as modern day daters so apparently the the first stage is called flirtation flirtationship so this is the stage where literally like the interest has been peaked by one party you know someone's flirting texting like you know smiles like light touching that type of stage and then we have the second stage which is supposed to be relationship potential this is supposed to be someone that okay you've had the conversation you guys both actually are interested into each other maybe you're like i don't know would this recording So like you're going on dates to see if this is going to be a serious relationship. They don't court nowadays, but like I think this stage would be considered courting. And then we have stage three, which is you have full on had the DTR conversation. It is now a full blown relationship. Serious labels are on it. World is crumbling. And then we have stage four. which is supposed to be the big commitments. So this is moving in or marriage or children. Just basically loud gestures that say I want to be with you for the rest of my life. So ask yourself what stage are you in your relationship today? Where am I going with this? Oh my god. uh i don't know i feel like if i'm doing this like i'm not full on having a conversation i i should not be producing my own show i am so sorry this is such like a shitty like welcome to the shit show um if i had to classify or say a level i would say i would say three that's a bit scary to say but i I would 100% say three. I wanted to be a four, but I would say three. So I'm looking at the time, and I really wanted to go, like, over an hour, but I'm, like, having such a hard time with technical shit around here. I don't want to make my life harder, and we're going to try to end this now. I really loved you guys listening to me talk. I love talking to you guys. Honestly wish I could do more a week, but I'm just like not good up with coming up with topics I like finding articles and so now that we've talked about being left out at dodgeball All my links are down below if you want to check me out any other platform I've been living it up on snapchat daily if you want to go check that out All the archives are up there sadly might need to take those down, but I'll see you guys next week Thank you for listening to me talk. This has been your emotional soundboard. Bye.
