Navigating life post-divorce / The real deal! - Dr. Larry Waldman || DPTSP #074 || David M. Webb

38min | 01/17/2025

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In this insightful episode of the "Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast," David welcomes Dr. Larry Waldman, a seasoned clinical forensic psychologist with over 45 years of experience, to discuss divorce recovery for men over 40. Dr. Waldman draws from his extensive background in family law, mental health, and even yoga to provide practical advice for navigating the emotional, psychological, and logistical challenges of divorce. He shares wisdom from his books, including "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex" and "Silver Sex: Insights into Senior Sexuality," emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, healing, and prioritizing what truly matters post-divorce.

Dr. Waldman discusses the dangers of rushing into new relationships, the impact of acrimonious divorces on children, and the importance of recognizing one’s role in the breakdown of a marriage. He also explores how men can rebuild self-esteem through personal growth, fitness, and mindfulness practices like yoga. Whether dealing with loneliness, co-parenting challenges, or "gray divorce" later in life, Dr. Waldman offers actionable solutions to help men heal and thrive. His empathetic, no-nonsense approach reminds listeners that recovery takes time, effort, and sometimes seeking professional help to avoid repeating past mistakes.

Top Ten Takeaways for Men Over 40:

Healing Takes Time: Avoid rushing into new relationships. Allow at least a year to reflect and heal before pursuing another partnership.
Self-Reflection is Key: Understand your role in the divorce and work on areas of personal growth to avoid repeating mistakes.
Prioritize Mental and Physical Health: Engage in activities like yoga, meditation, or fitness to manage stress and regain balance.
Seek Professional Help: Therapy can provide valuable tools for recovery, self-awareness, and navigating life post-divorce.
Avoid Using Children as Pawns: Co-parent amicably to ensure your children’s well-being and avoid damaging their trust and development.
Loneliness is Normal: Combat isolation by joining support groups, connecting with friends, or pursuing hobbies that bring joy.
Take Time to Vet New Partners: Look beyond physical attraction and consider shared values, goals, and compatibility before committing.
Rebuild Self-Esteem Gradually: Focus on personal accomplishments, positive relationships, and self-care to regain confidence.
Gray Divorce Challenges: Recognize that divorces later in life come with unique emotional, financial, and social challenges.
Learn from the Past: Use your divorce as an opportunity for growth, and make better choices moving forward.

This episode is a must-listen for men ready to reclaim their lives and build healthier futures post-divorce.

Larry F. Waldman, Ph.D., ABPP

Psychologist

http://www.TopPhoenixPsychologist.com

http://www.facebook.com/larrywaldmanphd

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Description

In this insightful episode of the "Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast," David welcomes Dr. Larry Waldman, a seasoned clinical forensic psychologist with over 45 years of experience, to discuss divorce recovery for men over 40. Dr. Waldman draws from his extensive background in family law, mental health, and even yoga to provide practical advice for navigating the emotional, psychological, and logistical challenges of divorce. He shares wisdom from his books, including "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex" and "Silver Sex: Insights into Senior Sexuality," emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, healing, and prioritizing what truly matters post-divorce.

Dr. Waldman discusses the dangers of rushing into new relationships, the impact of acrimonious divorces on children, and the importance of recognizing one’s role in the breakdown of a marriage. He also explores how men can rebuild self-esteem through personal growth, fitness, and mindfulness practices like yoga. Whether dealing with loneliness, co-parenting challenges, or "gray divorce" later in life, Dr. Waldman offers actionable solutions to help men heal and thrive. His empathetic, no-nonsense approach reminds listeners that recovery takes time, effort, and sometimes seeking professional help to avoid repeating past mistakes.

Top Ten Takeaways for Men Over 40:

Healing Takes Time: Avoid rushing into new relationships. Allow at least a year to reflect and heal before pursuing another partnership.
Self-Reflection is Key: Understand your role in the divorce and work on areas of personal growth to avoid repeating mistakes.
Prioritize Mental and Physical Health: Engage in activities like yoga, meditation, or fitness to manage stress and regain balance.
Seek Professional Help: Therapy can provide valuable tools for recovery, self-awareness, and navigating life post-divorce.
Avoid Using Children as Pawns: Co-parent amicably to ensure your children’s well-being and avoid damaging their trust and development.
Loneliness is Normal: Combat isolation by joining support groups, connecting with friends, or pursuing hobbies that bring joy.
Take Time to Vet New Partners: Look beyond physical attraction and consider shared values, goals, and compatibility before committing.
Rebuild Self-Esteem Gradually: Focus on personal accomplishments, positive relationships, and self-care to regain confidence.
Gray Divorce Challenges: Recognize that divorces later in life come with unique emotional, financial, and social challenges.
Learn from the Past: Use your divorce as an opportunity for growth, and make better choices moving forward.

This episode is a must-listen for men ready to reclaim their lives and build healthier futures post-divorce.

Larry F. Waldman, Ph.D., ABPP

Psychologist

http://www.TopPhoenixPsychologist.com

http://www.facebook.com/larrywaldmanphd

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

About DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST

Success, Divorce, and Reinvention—You’re Not Alone.

Divorce can shake even the most accomplished men to their core, no matter their age or status. The end of a marriage is often an emotionally and mentally taxing experience, especially for successful men who are accustomed to thriving in other areas of life. That’s why the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here: a safe, open platform where successful men recovering from divorce can share their stories, find support, and gain practical tools for rebuilding.

Success doesn’t make divorce any easier. When you’re used to winning, starting over—emotionally, financially, and socially—can feel like uncharted territory. The challenges of re-establishing your identity and navigating new roles after a significant breakup are real, but you don’t have to face them alone.

Each episode dives into authentic conversations with men who have walked this path—from entrepreneurs and executives, to leaders in their fields. We explore the unique hurdles successful men encounter during divorce, from managing public perception and careers to processing the deeply personal emotions of grief, regret, anger, and hope. Alongside expert guests, we offer practical advice and proven strategies for healing and growth.

This podcast is about more than just surviving divorce—it’s about thriving in your next chapter. Through shared experiences and actionable insights, "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" aims to help you rediscover meaning, rebuild confidence, and create a life filled with new possibilities.

Join us each week as we walk the road to recovery, together. Let’s break the stigma, embrace vulnerability, and support one another on the journey to a brighter, more successful future after divorce.

Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

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