Hey there, warriors of the heart! Welcome to "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," where we dive deep into the raw, real, and sometimes painful journey of divorce recovery for men over 40. I'm your host, David, and today, we have a truly transformative conversation lined up for you. If you're feeling stuck, lost, or simply searching for a new path after a major life shift, you're in the right place. Our special guest today is Mark Collins, a beacon of hope and transformation. Mark is the mastermind behind the "Freedom For Life" initiative and the author of "Life Mastery: Living Life by Design, Not by Default." He's dedicated his life to helping men unlock their inner hero, guiding them to not just survive, but thrive through life's challenges. Together, we're going to explore the power of self-identity, mastering your thoughts, and building a life of purpose and fulfillment. So, whether you're driving, working out, or just relaxing with a cup of coffee, get ready to be inspired, motivated, and equipped with the tools you need to rebuild a life filled with meaning and joy. Let's dive in and start this journey of healing and discovery together. Remember, it's not just about recovery—it's about rediscovery. Welcome to the tribe! 10 Important Points by Mark Collins: Identity is Key: Understanding and embracing who you are is crucial for personal growth and overcoming life challenges. Mastering Thoughts: Your life is shaped by your thoughts; focusing on positive, constructive thoughts can lead to a better life experience. Self-Care Importance: Prioritize self-care to maintain emotional and mental well-being, akin to putting on your oxygen mask first. Living by Design: Shift from living life by default to living intentionally and by design for greater fulfillment. Handling Past Influences: Recognize and heal from past experiences to stop them from defining your current and future identity. Co-Parenting Challenges: Stability in self-identity helps manage the challenges and emotional complexities of co-parenting. Changing Personal Relationships: Growth and change may alter friendships and relationships, often requiring boundary setting. Failure as Feedback: View failures as opportunities for learning and growth rather than as permanent setbacks. Developing Self-Assurance: True confidence comes from knowing who you are, not from external validation or accomplishments. Transformation Takes Time: Change is a journey that involves gradual shifts and aha moments, requiring patience and persistence. All Things Mark Collins (https://courses.freedom-for-life.net/) Website: http://freedom-for-life.net Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreedForLife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_freedomforlife_/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw1A7tteCrpLj_d9ejzDWRg LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mark-collins-freedom-for-life (http://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-collins-freedom-for-life) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Don't Pick The Scab Podcast," the podcast where we take a light-hearted dive into the world of men over 40 recovering from divorce. This week, we chat with Greg Payne, a certified life coach and holistic healer. Greg, a self-proclaimed IT-to-healing convert, shares his journey from tech grad to energy worker, proving that even spreadsheets can have a soul. Greg co-founded Awakened Roots with his wife, creating a healing hub that’s part advice column, part energy spa. They offer everything from Brainspotting to Kambo—yes, that’s frog sweat medicine—and if that doesn’t sound intriguing, nothing will. Greg explains that Brainspotting maps trauma to a specific point in your visual field, kind of like finding your emotional North Star, while Kambo boosts your immune system with Amazonian frog peptides. Who knew amphibians could be so therapeutic? Breathwork and Reiki also make the list, with Greg highlighting how these practices can tune you into your emotional radio station, clearing static and finding clarity. He emphasizes using breathwork to address emotions held in the body, making it easier to navigate life’s tricky transitions, like divorce. Ultimately, Greg’s message is simple: Self-care isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a lifeline. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend or indulging in a little pampering, taking time for yourself is crucial. So, grab your metaphorical toolkit and prepare to rebuild because healing is just a breath away. Greg gave it to us fast with no chaser.  New but refreshing.  Got to get him back on the show! We have more to discuss! Important Points: IT grad turned holistic healer and life coach. Awakened Roots combines energy healing and life coaching. Brainspotting maps trauma to specific visual field spots. Kambo uses frog peptides for immune and energy boosts. Breathwork releases emotions held in the body. Reiki promotes relaxation, aiding emotional and physical healing. Self-care and outreach prevent isolation post-divorce. Men face isolation and need connection for healing. Emotional intelligence aids in navigating post-divorce challenges. Everything Greg! (https://www.awakened-roots.com/about-greg) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome back to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast” the podcast for men over 40 looking to bounce back from divorce with a sprinkle of humor and a dash of spiritual healing. Host David kicks off an enlightening and amusing conversation with Wendy Rose Williams, a certified past life energy healer. Think of her as the Marie Kondo for your soul, tidying up anxiety, depression, and those emotional cobwebs from yesteryears. Wendy shares her journey into spiritual healing, revealing how hypnotherapy helps release the emotional baggage we didn't even know we had. Divorce, she notes, is like a cosmic shake-up, triggering buried fears and anger. But don't worry, because past life regression is here to help unravel those old soul contracts. Who knew you might be repeating the same sitcom plot with your ex from the 1900s? David, ever the curious co-host, dives into the nitty-gritty, asking about practical steps for self-care during a divorce. Wendy's advice? Love yourself first! Whether it's meditation, kickboxing, or a therapy session, self-care is crucial. And remember, love your kids more than you dislike your ex. Wise words when you're juggling co-parenting and contemplating your past life as a spurned suitor. As the episode wraps up, Wendy leaves listeners with a Lucille Ball quote to ponder: "Love yourself first, and everything else falls into place." So, tune in, breathe, and remember, even post-divorce life can have its silver linings. Important Points: -Explore unconventional post-divorce solutions for men over 40. -Wendy Rose Williams: Certified spiritual healer and past life expert. -Release emotional baggage with past life energy healing. -Hypnotherapy helps discard anxiety, depression, and stuck energy. -Understand soul contracts and past life connections. -Embrace conscious uncoupling for healthier post-divorce relationships. -Discover self-care practices during emotional turmoil. -Love yourself first; everything else falls into place. -Children adapt better than expected post-divorce. All Things Wendy! (https://www.wendyrosewilliams.com/) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this unique episode of Don't Pick the Scat podcast, host David interviews Cathy Nesbitt, who offers unconventional approaches to healing after divorce. Cathy shares her journey from worm composting advocate to laughter yoga teacher, explaining how laughter can be a powerful tool for managing stress and emotional healing. She discusses the science behind "love drugs" - natural chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins that are released during laughter. The conversation explores how these natural compounds can help with divorce recovery and co-parenting challenges. Cathy emphasizes the importance of self-care practices, including morning routines and connecting with nature through indoor gardening. She explains how laughter yoga isn't about comedy or jokes, but rather a cardiovascular workout that bypasses the brain's stress responses and directly activates the body's relaxation mechanisms. The episode provides practical advice for men over 40 dealing with post-divorce stress, highlighting the importance of putting oneself first and developing sustainable wellness practices. Cathy's approach combines environmental consciousness with personal health, offering unique solutions for emotional healing and stress management. 10 Important Points for Listeners: 1. Laughter triggers the release of natural "love drugs" (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins) that can help counter stress and negative emotions during divorce recovery. 2. You can only be in one nervous system state at a time - either stressed (sympathetic) or relaxed (parasympathetic). Laughter helps switch to the relaxed state. 3. During arguments, your frontal lobe disconnects, making logical thinking difficult. Using laughter can help break this cycle and return to a more rational state. 4. Start your day with three deep breaths and gratitude thoughts before getting out of bed - this sets a positive tone for managing divorce-related stress. 5. For co-parenting challenges, remember that staying present and calm is crucial. Laughter can help manage tensions and keep focus on the children's needs. 6. Indoor gardening and connecting with nature can provide therapeutic benefits during divorce recovery, especially as an activity to share with children. 7. Self-care should be the top priority - you need to be whole yourself before effectively dealing with ex-partners or children. 8. Practice emotional release rather than suppression - like a rabbit shaking off after danger, humans need to release trauma rather than hold it in. 9. Our bodies don't know the difference between real and simulated laughter - both provide the same physiological benefits for stress relief. 10. Finding a support group or community is crucial for men going through divorce - expressing emotions and "feeling the feels" is necessary for healing. Cathay’s Crawly Composters (https://www.cathyscomposters.com/) Cathy’s Laughter Club (https://www.cathysclub.com/media/bradfordtoday-7_18.htm) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to "Don't Pick Scab Podcast," where host David takes you on a hilarious yet enlightening journey to help men over 40 heal from divorce. This week, we're joined by the extraordinary Michael Ayala-White, a trauma-informed coach who isn't afraid to tackle the tough questions—like whether his degree in Biblical Studies from Moody Bible Institute helps him navigate life's trickiest dilemmas! Michael shares his unique insights into restoring identity and purpose, revealing why your childhood argument with your mom might not be the trauma you thought it was. Grab your oxygen mask because we're diving into self-care, emotional intelligence, and the wild world of co-parenting. Whether you're a fantasy football fanatic or a nature-loving Zen master, Michael has tips to help you find your groove. Tune in and come along as we uncover why communication is more than just grunting at your buddy during a Chiefs / Bills football game! Topic List: -Defining trauma and trauma-informed coaching. -Common misconceptions about trauma. -Techniques for men to restore identity and find purpose. -Importance of emotional intelligence in relationships. -Strategies for improving communication skills. -The significance of self-care for men. -Tips and challenges in co-parenting, especially after divorce. Wayward Coaching (https://wayward-coaching.com/) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the "Don't Pick The Scab" podcast, where we help men over 40 transform post-divorce scars into superpowers. Today, we're diving deep into the art of turning sexual energy into life abundance with our special guest, Matt. Now, Matt isn't just any coach; he's a maestro in the realm of sexual energy transformation, having guided over 80,000 men to find their groove beyond the bedroom. Imagine a world where your sexual drive isn't just for procreation but for creating a life that feels like your own personal Nirvana. That's right, Matt's here to spill the beans—or maybe not spill them at all, depending on your retention schedule! He's been with his partner for nearly 40 years, proving that love can be stronger than a well-brewed cup of morning coffee and more enduring than a Wi-Fi connection during a thunderstorm. Join us as Matt shares how to harness that primal energy to conquer anxiety, smash through those societal stigmas, and build trust and intimacy—all while keeping a sense of humor. And remember, it's not about the destination; it's about enjoying the ride—literally and figuratively. So buckle up, because this episode promises to be as enlightening as it is entertaining! Important points: Transform sexual energy into life abundance post-divorce. Avoid porn to maintain strong sexual energy. Build oxytocin before engaging in sexual activities. Embrace nonverbal communication over excessive talking about sex. Approach women in person, not through dating apps. Schedule ejaculations to build and maintain sexual energy. Join men's groups for support and shared experiences. Be a "shock absorber" in relationships, not reactive. Frequent sex is crucial for a healthy relationship. Expect negative results initially when approaching women. Matt Cook’s Main Website: https://www.healthyto120.com (https://www.healthyto120.com) Matt’s Medical Discoveries: https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/ (https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In episode 57 of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David talks with guest Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist and relationship coach, about the challenges men over 40 face post-divorce. Kevin emphasizes the importance of self-confidence, navigating new dating technologies, and understanding modern relationship dynamics. He discusses common issues such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often rooted in psychological factors. Kevin advises men to embrace their masculinity while being caring and communicative while stressing awareness and action to break negative patterns in relationships for healthier futures.  Even if you’re not having a sexual relationship yet, please listen to this podcast!!   10 Main Takeaways: Rebuilding Self-Confidence: Regaining confidence is crucial for men post-divorce to re-enter the dating scene. Adapting to Modern Dating: Men need to learn new dating technologies and protocols. Physical and Psychological Challenges: Common issues include erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, often more psychological than physical. Importance of Foreplay: Foreplay is vital for sexual satisfaction, particularly for women. Healthy Masculinity: Embracing classical masculine traits while being compassionate and communicative is key. Avoiding Old Patterns: Awareness and action are necessary to avoid repeating negative relationship patterns. Open Communication: Honest communication about sexual histories and needs can enhance relationships. Technology in Sexual Health: Emerging technologies are aiding in diagnosing and treating sexual health issues. Friends with Benefits Dynamics: These relationships often lead to attachment, particularly for women. Self-Acceptance and Growth: Men should focus on personal growth and self-acceptance before seeking new relationships. Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, David and Chantel Landreville discuss the importance of love skills and self-awareness in navigating relationships, especially during and after a divorce. They explore how to create safe spaces for emotional healing, the dynamics of co-parenting, and the significance of self-care and humility in personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to seek support and be truthful with themselves as they recover from divorce and build new relationships. Takeaways: Everything I teach applies to any relationship. You need to be able to define what you want. Self-awareness starts with asking yourself why. It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings. Get support instead of going through it alone. You have to take ownership in it. Safety cannot come from alone; it's an environment. Self-care is about finding things that make you happy. Humility is such a powerful quality. Find your words and do that exercise. Sound Bites: "Everything I teach is applicable to any relationship." "You need to be able to define what you want." "It's okay to let yourself feel these feelings." Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David speaks with divorce coach Jason Scriven about the challenges men over 40 face during and after divorce. They discuss the importance of self-care, rediscovering one's identity, building connections, and navigating the emotional aspects of separation. Jason shares insights on setting boundaries, creating new memories, and the realities of dating after divorce. He also outlines a four-week program designed to help men master their separation and make informed decisions for their future.   Jason gave us some nice pearls and advice.  I’m definitely going to have him back on the show.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Self-care is crucial for men going through divorce. Rediscovering identity is essential after a long marriage. Building connections with others can aid recovery. Emotional health should be prioritized during divorce. Setting boundaries is important for mental well-being. Creating new memories helps in moving on from the past. Dating after divorce requires careful consideration. Men should avoid dating someone who resembles their ex. Communication through children can be harmful. A structured approach can help navigate the divorce process. All things Jason Scriven (https://www.scrivenprogram.com/) YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@ScrivenProgram/videos) Twitter (https://twitter.com/thejasonscriven) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/divorce101_/) Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasonscriven/) Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the show - Patrick Eilers.  He comes to us from the great state of Michigan and his superpower is the application of psycho-education regarding anxiety and depression.  Discussions of the corrosive qualities of emotions, solitude vs isolation, self-care, a destination for self-care, allow yourself to feel the feels, and empathy.  There are so many great suggestions and advice tidbits in this podcast.  Enjoy! Takeaways: Narcissism Your divorce story Single identity Divorced David Visualize self-care Therapy defining a man’s identity Rediscovering the wholeness of being human Mindfulness Numbing out When to seek help Switchfoot - Every Breath is a Second Chance Hope is for the things yet to be seen Patrick Eilers; MA, LPC Email: bloomworkscc@gmx.com (mailto:bloomworkscc@gmx.com) Website: https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/ (https://www.northpoint-counseling.com/)   Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.