Description
What do you do when the life you built no longer fits the person you're becoming?
In this episode of It’s Both, Nikki P sits down with Janice Holland — therapist, mother, and founder of The Trauma Teacher — for an authentic conversation about marriage, identity, and faith deconstruction. Janice opens up about the emotional unraveling that began when her husband came out as gay, forcing her to confront both cultural and spiritual expectations that had shaped her life for years.
This is a story of holding multiple truths — of how a relationship can be both sacred and misaligned, of how endings can feel like loss and liberation. Through honest storytelling, Nikki and Janice explore how letting go of who we thought we were is part of the path toward becoming who we truly are.
💬 In this episode, we explore:
- The emotional cost of staying in relationships that no longer reflect your truth
- How marriage and divorce can both shape and shift our sense of self
- The courage it takes to let go of expectations rooted in perfectionism and faith
- What it means to face an identity shift during a major life transition
- Why healing isn’t linear, and how we can learn to sit with discomfort without rushing to resolve it
This isn’t just a story about divorce — it’s about real stories of being human, about doing hard things, and about building emotional resilience in the face of uncertainty.
If you’re in the middle of a faith shift, relationship change, or a deeply personal transformation, this episode is your invitation to embrace contradictions, feel your feelings, and find courage in the gray.
Because life isn’t either/or —
It’s Both.
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